AITA for refusing to let the seller of our house take their furniture after closing

In a cozy, tree-lined neighborhood of a small-to-medium city, a young couple’s dream of homeownership took an unexpected twist. Fresh from Chicago’s hustle, they stepped into a house brimming with someone else’s memories—literally. The seller, a remarried mother of five, left behind a fully furnished home, turning their move-in into a logistical puzzle. What began as a generous agreement to move in early before closing spiraled into daily furniture pickups, extra mover fees, and simmering frustration.

As closing day arrived, the couple thought they’d finally claim their space. But a last-minute plea from the seller to sell a forgotten patio set ignited a fiery standoff. Was their refusal petty, or were they justified after weeks of chaos? This tale of clashing expectations and small-town dynamics begs the question: where’s the line between kindness and standing your ground?

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‘AITA for refusing to let the seller of our house take their furniture after closing’

My fiancé (25m) and I (25f) just bought a house in a small-er city where I got a new job. We are from Chicago, and have had some culture shocks from moving to a small town. We found this house we loved and made an offer at asking price. Her counter offer was adding 15k over asking price, otherwise she wanted to have an open house.

She had the open house and she came back after accepting our (expired) offer. We had just moved to this city not even 3 weeks before this and we stayed at a nightmare Airbnb. So we asked to put in an amendment to move in after the inspections, before closing. They agreed, with the stipulation that they could continue to get their furniture out until closing.

We agreed and the seller even called us. She’s very upset about leaving the house, it means a lot to her but she’s remarried and they have five kids combined from past marriages (important later). She reassured us that she only has a few pieces of furniture to move out and they’d get it out very soon. Move day comes and the house is fully furnished with her furniture.

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With our truck out front, fully packed with movers to help us. We had no choice but to have the movers put her stuff in a few rooms and garage so we can get our stuff into the house. I call her and her husband comes to start moving and picking things up. This is when I learned she’s been moved out for months. Anyways I’m pointing out all her stuff to him so he can take care of it while I direct movers.

She had stuff in the cabinets, the house is not packed. The movers get her stuff moved to the best of their ability, which added probably two hours to our bill. For the two weeks we had before closing, the husband came daily to load up stuff. Mainly because I was pestering them, as i didn’t want to have to get rid of their stuff, come closing.

During this time I’d remind them, oh you probably want this TV or chair. Which he would reply “oh that’s ours? We don’t have any room for another TV…”. That happened daily, and he would remind us what he was picking up. Eventually I got sick of reminding them and I got really busy with my new job. So I stopped pestering.

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Our closing got pushed back due to paperwork on the lenders side to Thursday from Monday. The day of closing, they came and got more stuff with no mention of the patio furniture. Which they passed by every time they came into the house. Closing happened and the deal is done, without lawyers, which is not what we are use to.

A few hours after closing her husband reaches out and asks if a Facebook marketplace buyer could swing by and grab the patio set. We nicely said no. A few hours later, she gets the news and starts to call us repeatedly, and eventually sends a long text message.

Saying how accommodating she was by letting us in early and paying utilities. She also said how much they needed the $200 from selling the patio furniture because of their five kids. We haven’t responded. An important detail is they already left for vacation, which is why they couldn’t come over to sell it.

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We appreciate moving in early but we paid utilities and let them in daily to move their stuff. Along with paying movers to move their furniture out. She moved out months before this and had ample time, they only started to move stuff when I pushed them to. MORE CONTEXT: the house was fully furnished moving in.

Therefore we could not move our furniture in, without having our movers consolidate it to a few rooms. It cost ~$500 for the movers to move all their furniture so we could start moving in. EDIT: it’s not a small town, I’m just from a big city and it feels small. It’s technically a small to medium size city.

EDIT 2: this was a contract for us to move in 2 weeks early after all inspections were completed. They were sent the contract and put their stipulations, which was we were completely liable for any issues that arise before closing. Aka we had insurance. Also they didn’t not ask for rent, which we expected them todo so. Our contract for closing said no furniture left, anything left is ours.. AITA for not letting them sell the patio furniture?

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Buying a home is thrilling, but moving in before closing? That’s a recipe for drama, as this couple learned the hard way. The seller’s lingering furniture and last-minute patio set plea highlight a classic case of miscommunication and murky boundaries. Let’s unpack this.

The couple faced a logistical nightmare: a fully furnished house, extra mover costs, and daily visits from the seller’s husband. The seller, emotionally tied to the home, seemed disorganized, leaving items behind despite months to prepare. Both sides had valid points—the couple paid for movers to handle the seller’s stuff, while the seller allowed early move-in without rent. Yet, refusing the patio set sale hours after closing feels like a power move, especially in a small town where word travels fast.

This situation reflects broader issues in real estate transitions. According to a 2023 National Association of Realtors report, 12% of home sales face post-closing disputes, often over personal property ( nar.realtor ). Clear contracts are key, but emotions can cloud judgment. Dr. John Duffy, a psychologist and author, notes, “When people feel rushed or sentimental, they often overlook practical details, leading to conflicts like this” (psychologytoday.com). Here, the seller’s attachment to the home clashed with the couple’s need for control.

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The couple’s frustration is understandable—they incurred costs and managed the seller’s belongings. But ghosting the seller’s request risks burning bridges in a tight-knit community. A balanced approach would’ve been setting a firm deadline for furniture removal before closing, as their contract stipulated that anything left became theirs. For future buyers, experts recommend walkthroughs before closing to ensure the property is clear.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit hive mind didn’t hold back on this one—here’s a sampling of their candid, occasionally spicy takes:

UncleBabyBillysDick − NTA. I've never heard of this kind of behavior! She's being completely unreasonable. Your her furniture salesman now? Does she want you to haggle for her too?

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Chaoticgood790 − NTA its your home. Block them or mute them so you can keep track of what is being said. change the locks and get cameras if you dont have already

Organic-Willow2835 − This is my thought. Its a small town. You don't want to get off on a bad foot within the community. I would have an attorney immediately draw up a letter reminding them of the term of the sale and that you guys not only have been more than accomodating,

but you have gone above and beyond to help them pack and move out of the house that they said had already been vacated and packed up. That this ONCE you will allow the purchaser on the property but this is now your property and all of the remaining items within now belong to you per the purchase/sale agreement.

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You want this air tight. When she starts bad mouthing you you want to be able to tell people that they had a full month after you moved in to pick up all of their furniture and other household items they left in the house - which was considerable - and they opted not to beyond a couple of truck loads of stuff.. This is on her. She should have hired movers.

GuiltySpecialist7071 − This is why allowing pre-settlement possession is often strongly discouraged. Until that paperwork is signed, it’s their house. The day of closing, before you sign the closing docs, you make sure everything is how it was to be per the contract, or you refuse to sign.. Once the paperwork is signed, it’s your house (and anything left is yours to deal with).

JeepersCreepers74 − INFO: Did you pay her rent for the period you were in the house before closing? Did you obtain an insurance policy that covered you for the period you were there before closing? Where I am, both would be required.

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SDstartingOut − Eh, I'm on the fence on this one. I've never even heard of being able to move in weeks before closing. And they didn't charge you rent at all on it - so you had a pretty amazing deal. Pre-occupancy agreements are not very common - and almost ALWAYS include some type of rent/per day charge. So they did you a favor. Period.

I'd remind you that - you doing a favor of 'moving' their furniture... is not a favor. It was only needed because you moved in before you owned the place. If you said this was 3-5 days (or more) after closing, I'd be 100% with you. But as it was 3 hours after closing,

I would absolutely say 'okay but this is the final one; anything else that is still here at this point, it's too late'. While you aren't forced to do someone a favor - they did you a big favor, and now you are ghosting them. So yeah, I'm leaning on YTA.

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Ok_Play2364 − I can't believe they let you move in BEFORE closing! If anything happened to you or the house before you actually bought it, you would have been screwed. Their homeowners insurance would have refused to pay. Give them a written deadline to get the rest of their stuff, or they can take you to court

Wonderful_Manager_31 − Omg. Just let her sell the patio furniture and get these people out of your lives!!!

Thin_Travel_9180 − YTA. The sellers allowed YOU to move in early. Pre occupancy is always frowned upon (for s**t like this). You knew the house had furniture in it. You saw it before you purchased and had inspections. YOU sped up the move in process for YOUR selfish needs.

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Then YOU needed an extension because your lender didn’t get s**t straight. You are inconvenienced because YOU needed to move in early. Hours after closing you won’t let someone pick up some $200 worth of old outdoor furniture?? WTF? Good luck in that “small town”. Everyone knows each other there….

FatboyChester − YTA YOU requested to move in early, when you had a problem, which they were nice enough to allow.. What harm would have come from allowing someone to grab the patio furniture, from outside? You said the man was over there every day moving things out, so it wasn't like he was being lazy or didn't care. Honestly, even though you may not have been legally obligated to do so, you could have been a nice guy about it, and let them take it.. It sounds a little petty to me.

These opinions range from fiery support to calling the couple out for pettiness. But do they capture the full picture, or are they just Reddit’s classic hot-take frenzy?

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This homeownership saga shows how quickly generosity can turn into grudges when expectations aren’t aligned. The couple’s refusal to budge on the patio set might feel like a win, but at what cost in a small town? Moving is stressful enough without playing furniture tug-of-war. What would you do if you were in their shoes—extend one last favor or draw a hard line? Share your thoughts and experiences below. Have you ever clashed over a home sale? Let’s hear your stories!

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