AITA for quitting mid-project and for not waiting for my replacement?

Three years ago, a 32-year-old woman stepped into a new job, eyes bright with a promise of her dream salary after a stellar start. Confirmed in just two months for standout work, she got a raise—short of her ask—and clung to hope for more, only to face pandemic excuses and empty reviews, even as her boss leaned on her for high-level tasks.

Pregnancy brought a sensitive twist—less overtime, emergency leaves—then a scant two-month maternity break amid a work-from-home setup. No raises, no bonuses, just flimsy reasons tied to her time off. A headhunter’s double-salary offer finally tipped the scales, and she quit mid-project, guilt nibbling as her team scrambles. This Reddit tale buzzes with workplace woes—let’s unpack it.

‘AITA for quitting mid-project and for not waiting for my replacement?’

I've (32F) been working for my current company for 3 years. During my interview, they said they cannot give my asking salary yet but said they will give after my confirmation. I was confirmed after two months because they said I did exemplary work, my salary increased but still lower than my asking salary.

HR told me that after the next evaluation they will check again. Boss liked me a lot and was trusted with some high level matters. My annual evaluation (2020) came and said they will not give me annual increase eventhough it is in the company policy. Reason is because of the pandemic. I accepted this since it has been hard for everybody.

After a while, I got pregnant. Since my pregnancy is sensitive I took it easy with my work (no longer doing overtime, extra works etc), and taking emergency leaves. Co-worker told me that the boss was pissed since there are a lot of ongoing projects but they can't fire a pregnant women.

I gave birth, and was only allowed 2 months matetnity leave. Luckily we are in a work from home scheme because of the pandemic so i can still take care of baby after my leave was over. My next annual (2021) evaluation came and still no increase and no bonus because they said i took a lot of days off while pregnant plus maternity leave.

I accepted this because i really did take a lot of days off and it is hard to find new job in the middle of pandemic. On my third year (2022), i still did not get increase and they did not even bother to give explanation. Luckily, i was headhunter and offered twice of my asking salary. I accepted the job offer and submitted my resignation..

Boss got pissed because i am in the middle of the project but cannot do anything about it. I feel a bit of a bit guilty though because they still haven't found a replacement and my teammates will have hard time when i am gone, also they did give me a lot of considerations while i was pregnant.. AITA for not waiting for my replacement?.

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This workplace saga simmers with dashed hopes and hard choices. Our 32-year-old star aced her role, snagging early praise and big duties, only to face a string of pay denials—pandemic cuts, pregnancy gripes, and zero excuses by year three. Quitting mid-project for double the cash felt right, yet guilt lingers for her team and the flexibility she got.

Companies fumble when they dangle carrots and dodge. A 2022 SHRM report shows 58% of workers leave due to stagnant pay, especially post-crisis. Her firm’s nods during pregnancy—work-from-home, no firing—were bare minimum, not perks, and no match for years of stalled promises. Loyalty frayed when value went unseen.

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Dr. Amy Edmondson, a workplace expert, notes, “Trust breaks when employers overpromise and underdeliver—workers stay for growth, not just grace”. Her exit, mid-project, stings teammates, but the firm’s inaction—no raises, no retention plan—dug the hole. Guilt’s natural; still, her leap was a survival grab.

She’s clear to fly. Tell the boss the truth—pay mattered, promises broke—calmly, no burn. Wrap key tasks if time allows, but replacements aren’t her load—management owns that. Cash the new gig’s win, lean into family, and shake the guilt. Firms reap what they sow; she’s blooming elsewhere.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit rallied hard for our gal, waving off guilt. The crowd sees the company’s game—dangling raises, dodging with excuses, from pandemic to pregnancy leaves—showing zero care for her worth. They cheer her double-pay leap, nodding that firms cut staff fast, owing her no loyalty after three dry years.

Flexibility during pregnancy gets a smirk—bare-bones moves, not gold stars. If she’s vital, pay her so, they say; teammates’ strain falls on the boss, not her. Some tease a consultant gig at double rates, but all toast her fresh start, free of a stingy trap.

Sincerely_JaneDoe − NTA. They wouldn’t blink an eye if they had to do a reduction in force and let you go. You need to take care of you.

rmric0 − NTA. It isn't on you to manage their business, they kept you on a hook about matching your asking salary and then they found every excuse in the book they could not pay you more.

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If they were that concerned about getting projects done, maintaining institutional knowledge, and retaining employees then they should have thought of that after not really giving you a raise for 3 years.

Unable-Income-2981 − NTA.. They made it clear they don't care about you. Why care about them?

Impossible_Gazelle27 − NTA. When your employer shows you who they are, believe them.

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ReptoidRadiologist − NTA. They lied and led you on, you did exactly the right thing. If you let them get away with something one year, they will try to get away with even more the next.

Shephard815 − NTA. You should have left when they didn't pay you what was promised upon your confirmation. However, seems it's worked out for you with double salary offer. Good luck!

Random840583729 − NTA. They would not think twice about firing you if they could. You owe them no loyalty.

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AbbyFB6969 − also they did give me a lot of considerations while i was pregnant They did this to show 'support' in the least financially way possible. It was a manipulation tactic, and to avoid making it 'reasonable' for OP to leave.

If you had relied on their deceptive hiring offer and made a major purchase, (car or house) would the company have gotten your car away from repo, or covered your bounced mortgage checks? I'm guessing NO.. Good luck at your new job.

Pessa19 − NTA if you are so irreplaceable, they should have paid you and treated you like an irreplaceable employee. I work for a nonprofit who can’t pay me my ideal salary. So what do they do? Give me flexible work hours. Lots of vacation time.

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Gave me 2 extra weeks of (sadly unpaid) maternity leave past FMLA (so they legally didn’t have to give me the time) so I could come back when I was ready. If they wanted to keep you so badly, they would have made you feel appreciated with money or perks. Bye, Felicia.

revengeOftheNith − NTA Tell them they can pay double your new offer to do the work as a consultant. 3 years of fobbing you along and now they can pay the price :)

This job-jump tale spins a gritty truth—a woman poured her all into work, met broken pay vows, and grabbed a double-salary lifeline, mid-project. The company’s skimpy nods couldn’t hold her, and guilt for teammates fades against her win. A new chapter beckons—better pay, fresh air. Share your thoughts, feelings, and takes below—let’s hash out this workplace wrestle!

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