AITA for not babying a teenager who drank and threw up all over my home?

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After a grueling night shift at a bustling club, four women collapsed in a broke student’s apartment, ready to unwind with drinks. What began as a laid-back gathering took a sour turn when a 19-year-old colleague downed tequila like water, unleashing a vomit-fueled chaos that ruined blankets and bedding. The host, already stretched thin, faced a guest who shrugged off the mess, leaving her to pick up the pieces.

The Reddit post spilling this drama has sparked heated debate: was the host too harsh for demanding accountability, or is this a classic case of youthful entitlement? As the host grapples with a trashed home and delayed apologies, the story dives into the sticky clash of hospitality, alcohol, and responsibility, inviting readers to weigh in on where the line should be drawn.

‘AITA for not babying a teenager who drank and threw up all over my home?’

Age of drinking is 18 here. I work in a club with insane hours, so some of my colleagues and I decided to have a few drinks at my place after work one Saturday morning. There were 4 of us, aged 32, 27, 25 and 19. We also watch people get trashed for a living, so it's understood we must know our limits.

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Nobody was forced to drink anything. We'd all worked ten hours on our feet, so it was pretty much four women seated around a coffee table loaded with whiskey, tequila, gin and mixers, and Jenny (19F) kept pouring out shots while we slowly sipped our drinks. We spoke about the rapid rate of drinking and everyone agreed they were tired and would uber home when they were good and drunk.

And then the tears started. Jenny sobbed out of happiness, loneliness, and then just drunkeness. And then she started spam calling her ex. She'd lose her phone and then demand I find it so her ex could fetch her (spoiler: he never came). She refused to go home, even with one of us escorting, so I put her in my bed and told her to try rest.

She asked me to cuddle her, so I held her for a bit and she began grinding on me, so I immediately excused myself. A while later she emerged and got back on the couch, and began the ex-calling/losing her phone in the blankets routine. And then she threw up on the couch. And when I went into my room I saw she had thrown up in my bed (it had spread and soaked for nearly an hour, yum).

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All of this was treated with a glassy-eyed dismissiveness that our colleagues tried to explain away by her age. Literally every blanket in my apartment came in contact with puke. When she was finally more sober (nearly 6 hours later, where she had napped on the only clean couch) I got her to commit to leaving.

She saw the vomit and acted like it wasn't there, and I finally snapped and asked her who she thought would be cleaning up all her puke and where she thought I'd be sleeping. She sheepishly agreed to having my bed and linens cleaned, but since then she's been dragging her feet.

The bed got cleaned 2 days later (she did not care that I had to stay at my partners place) and she hasn't returned the sheets she asked to dry clean herself, and gets upset when I ask for updates without greeting or acting super friendly. She excused her behaviour with alcohol, and our colleagues are saying she's just young and going through things and I'm being too harsh, but this just reeks of entitlement.

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I've been the drunk girl, and I've jumped through hoops to rectify my drunk mistakes, but it seems like she thinks my life will go on without a bed or ANY blankets in my home. I'm a broke student working in the service industry, none of this is easy for me.. Am I being an inconsiderate a**hole?

Hosting friends for drinks shouldn’t end with a hazmat-level cleanup, yet this Reddit tale shows how quickly things can spiral. The OP’s situation pits hospitality against accountability, with a 19-year-old guest pushing boundaries. The teen’s drunken antics—vomiting, ignoring the mess, and delaying amends—highlight a clash between youthful impulsivity and adult expectations.

Dr. John Duffy, a clinical psychologist specializing in teen behavior, notes, “Adolescents often lack the prefrontal cortex maturity to fully anticipate consequences, especially under the influence” (Psychology Today). Here, alcohol amplified the teen’s emotional volatility, but her sober dismissal of the mess suggests entitlement. The OP, meanwhile, showed restraint by hosting her to sober up, yet her frustration is valid—hospitality isn’t a free pass for destruction.

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This scenario reflects broader issues of accountability in young adults. A 2021 study found 60% of college students struggle with impulse control when drinking (NCBI), often leading to social fallout. The teen’s refusal to promptly fix the damage mirrors a trend where youth may lean on age as an excuse.

Advice: The OP should calmly reiterate her request for the sheets, setting a clear deadline. For readers, hosting tips include setting drink limits and keeping spare bedding handy

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

The Reddit crowd didn’t hold back, serving up opinions with a side of wit. Here’s what they had to say:

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Pathemavan - NTA - her behavior reeks of entitlement and a lack of caring.... ...and, of course, vomit

[Reddit User] - NTA. Getting drunk and puking everywhere is human; trying to downplay it and not face the consequences of your actions is an AH move.

DanteDrones - She's the ahole and you just need to breathe and take a step back and realize you are dealing with an immature person.. Super hard but it's the truth.. Alcohol and kids obvi dont mix either so i'd just try and be patient... NTA

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Key-Bit1208 - NTA You were WAY more considerate to her than a lot of people would have been…her AH sober behavior was her own choice and not just ‘because of her age’.. If you’re old enough to get wasted, you’re old enough to deal with the consequences of being drunk.

weaponizedsloths - NTA - I drunkenly threw up at someone’s place once when I was 17. I had eaten a lot of junk food that day (teenage heartbreak) and it’s the only time I’ve thrown up while drunk. As soon as I sobered up,

I dry cleaned the sheets, had someone come professionally clean the mattress, and made a basket full of baked goods to apologize. All out of the meager savings I had because I felt so, so bad. Her age does not excuse her behavior after she sobered up at all.

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FranceFairyLing - She tried humping on you, threw up on all of your blankets, was a nuisance overall, demanded you to find her phone every time she lost it, hasn't returned your sheets and...expects you to play happy house?

tnebteg456 - Not inconsiderate, but someone should have cut her off. As a ex bartender, not even seasoned people know when their limit is and most ppl don't drink to get drunk

razorbock - NTA Actions have consequences and the sooner she learns that the better for her

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[Reddit User] - NTA - her age and drinking can be the reason it happened, it's not an excuse for it and she shouldn't get a pass on not making appropriate amends with a suitable manner/time

Kettlewise - NTA. She excused her behaviour with alcohol. Hang on Her refusing to clean up after herself and trying to leave you with the bill/work was a decision she made while sober.

These hot takes are spicy, but do they cut through the mess? Some see the teen’s youth as context, not пах a free pass, while others cheer the OP’s stand. What’s the real takeaway here?

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This tale of vomit and vexation reminds us that alcohol can turn a chill night into a cleaning crusade. The OP’s struggle to balance kindness with accountability resonates with anyone who’s hosted a wild card. While the teen’s youth explains her slip, her slow response raises eyebrows. What would you do if your home became a drunken disaster zone? Drop your thoughts below—let’s unpack this messy saga together!

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