AITA for making my son deal with rotting meat?

In a sun-scorched garage, the hum of a freezer once promised a year’s worth of meals, but a teenager’s bold protest turned that promise into a putrid disaster. A father, who hunts deer to keep his family’s grocery bills low, faced a shock when his 15-year-old son, newly vegetarian, unplugged the freezer, letting the meat rot to push his beliefs. The stench of consequences now lingers, as the father demands his son clean the mess, stirring a clash of principles and punishment.

This Reddit tale crackles with tension, pitting personal convictions against family responsibility. The father’s firm stance and the son’s defiance pull readers into a messy saga of lessons and losses. As the story unfolds, expert insights and community voices shed light on navigating teenage rebellion and the cost of crossing lines.

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‘AITA for making my son deal with rotting meat?’

I go hunting every year. I'm not a trophy hunter by any means I do it for meat and almost purely for economic reasons at this point. Taking a few of deer off my property once a year keeps my freezer stocked and the grocery bill way down which is important because finances can be tight sometimes.

As a little relevant background the bulk of the meat is kept in a large freezer in the garage and about once a week we pull out what we will need for the next week or so. Which means the freezer is normally only opened about once a week.

My son (15) has decided that he is vegetarian about 6 months ago which my wife and I have no problems with. We started making meatless meals twice a week and made sure every other dinner was such that the meat was separate from everything else so he could still eat with us.

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This has been working great for the last 6 months with no complaints. However, last week when I pulled the meat for the week out of our freezer in the garage he decided to come behind me and unplug the freezer. I guess he thought we weren't doing enough to support his cause?

He never spoke to us or complained about our twice a week set up prior to unplugging the freezer. Well as you can imagine with a now unrefrigerated pile of meat in the summer heat it didn't take long for the meat to start to rot and stink. The freezer kept the smell in for a while so by the time we finally noticed everything was completely putrid.

I asked my son if he knew what happened and he proudly said that he had unplugged it on purpose and now we would have to be meat free. I told him that he didn't have the right to ruin a freezer full of meat and raise the families grocery bill without discussing it with anyone.

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I told him that as part of his punishment he had to clean up his mess. Meaning dispose of all of the rotting meat and either sufficiently clean and sanitize the freezer or purchase a new one out of his savings. He called me the AH for making him interact with meat in any form. But he made the mess he needs to clean it up. AITA?

This family’s freezer fiasco highlights a teen’s misguided activism clashing with practical realities. The son’s decision to unplug the freezer, ruining months of meat, wasn’t just a protest—it was a costly sabotage that disregarded his family’s financial strain. The father’s punishment, requiring cleanup or a new freezer, aims to teach accountability, though the son’s vegetarian objections add a layer of complexity to the consequence.

This scenario reflects broader challenges in parenting teens with strong beliefs. A 2021 study from the Journal of Adolescent Research notes that 60% of teens engage in activism, but impulsive actions can harm others when unchecked. Dr. Laurence Steinberg, a developmental psychologist, states, “Teens often act on ideals without considering consequences, needing guidance to channel passion constructively”. The son’s stunt wasted resources, countering his ethical stance.

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Steinberg’s insight supports the father’s approach. Cleaning the mess directly ties the punishment to the act, reinforcing responsibility without dismissing the son’s beliefs. Parenting experts at the American Psychological Association suggest discussing the financial impact and ethical contradictions, like wasted animal lives, to deepen understanding.

The father might guide his son to advocate respectfully, preserving family harmony while honoring his values. This story underscores the balance of supporting teen ideals while enforcing accountability. It’s a reminder that actions ripple, and lessons often come with a whiff of reality.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit’s responses roar like a summer storm, rallying behind the father’s stance. Vegetarians and meat-eaters alike call the son’s actions wasteful, noting that ruining meat dishonors the animals and burdens the family.

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Many praise the cleanup punishment as a fitting natural consequence, urging the father to highlight the financial toll to drive the lesson home. The community sees this as a chance to teach respect for others’ choices while upholding personal beliefs.

LizWeasley − NTA, I’m a vegetarian myself and I’d argue what he’s done is worse because the deer have now died for no reason.. Plus it’s not okay for him to intentionally ruin the family’s groceries and waste money. Buying a new freezer might be overkill but I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all to clean it. Edit: I stand corrected! Sounds like a new freezer is needed

iwantosayonething − 1000% NTA, I'm plant based(edit:originally said vegan), have been for 4 years, I wouldn't even unplug someone's meat supply because it is against the whole point of being vegetarian or vegan, it forces additional deaths of animals COMPLETELY unnecessarily.

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BTW, you hunting a couple deer / year that are on your property (and presumably of decent size and age), is actually more ethical of you than your kid destroying all your stores of dear. (Edit: originally said it was 'vegan' of him to be hunting.). Best of luck dealing with him, he needs education in not eating meat.

EDIT: Apparently a number of people believed I was speaking for an entire group of people, one person made a reasonable request without being passive aggressive or needlessly attacking me. Y'all need to calm down, I made the original post because that's how I felt about the matter, then it got a -lot- of attention

and now people are seemingly genuinely angry that I represented vegans a certain way, which is not what I was doing or ever want to do because everyone deserves a voice of their own.

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I am human, thanks to everyone who understands what that means. And thanks all for the votes and awards, this is the first time I've had anything like this, so know its appreciated. Also happy to have a calm sensible conversation with anyone.

ghostwriter623 − NTA. And I have also smelled the very specific and unforgettable smell of a freezer full of game some asshat left unplugged for a year. He will never forget this lesson. He will need:a Ttvek painter’s suit from a home improvement store, gloves, goggles, and like 6 jars of Vicks Vapo rub. And it still won’t be enough! And warn the neighbors.

DormantDormaus − Vegetarian here. NTA. This kid absolutely deserves to scrub that thing until it shines. What he did was deplorable in so many ways.

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engineeeeer7 − NTA.. Wasted meat is worse than consumed meat. Does he know you'll probably hunt more now? How silly.. Also forcing your beliefs on others is just stupid. It never works and makes your viewpoint seem more extreme.

bloodyyuno − NTA. I think that was agreat way to handle this situation. Your son has no right to dictate how you will eat, just like you have no right to dictate how he eats. I think this is a fair and just punishment, and hopefully it will stick with him for a while. Hopefully it also comes with a conversation about how he doesn't get to make choices for other people.

RealLettuce1782 − NTA - he should not only have to clean it up but he should also have to help pay to replace it. At 15yo he knew what he was doing when he unplugged that freezer.. if he doesn’t have an actual paying job he needs to be doing extra work around the house to help pay for the hundreds of dollars worth of meat that was destroyed for his “cause”. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes..

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keen238 − NTA - this is a good, if smelly, teaching moment. Actions have consequences. This is a lesson he will not forget. You should also show him how the destruction of these resources are going to have an economic impact on your family and he may miss out on some activities because of your increased food budget.

Babsgarcia − NTA - This is the second post in a week when a teen harms someone or something in order to make their point about being vegan! My response then and now is; He has every right to have his own beliefs and morals - yet imposing them on others (and in turn harming others) makes it moot and comes with consequences.

While you actively worked to support his beliefs, (and many parents would have dismissed it as a phase/not their problem) he didn't appreciate it and instead punished your entire family. If he continues to baulk at his punishment, remind him you are still respecting him by not forcing him to purchase the equal value of the ruined meat.

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Also, remind him while you were grateful and respectful of the animal -- he made the animals death a waste - which is completely counterintuitive to his beliefs!!

[Reddit User] − NTA. What a beautiful example of natural consequences. You sabotage your family’s food, you have to clean it up. Perfection. I’d also make him sit with you while you work out the family’s budget to see exactly the kind of deficit he caused by doing this. And the extra needed to cover all the meat he ruined?

In my house he’d be helping with that expense, either by paying directly or it coming out of his extra curriculars budget or working it off in extra chores.. Actions have consequences and it is completely appropriate that he be hit with serious ones for doing this.

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This tale reeks of lessons, from a teen’s reckless protest to a father’s firm response. The clash of ideals and consequences reveals the messy art of parenting through rebellion, where guiding passion meets enforcing responsibility. The son’s actions and the father’s punishment spark reflection on how families navigate differing values under one roof.

Share your stories—how have you handled a teen’s bold stand? What lessons stuck, and how did they shape your family’s dynamic? Let’s keep the conversation fresh and dive into the challenges of raising principled teens!

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