AITA for making my ex-boyfriend’s best friend cut him off?

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Picture a late-night video call, the glow of a laptop screen casting shadows as a 26-year-old woman laughs with her long-distance boyfriend, dreaming of a future together. But the connection crackles and fades when he admits to straying with a younger woman, shattering her trust. What follows isn’t just a breakup—it’s an unexpected alliance with his best friend, turning heartbreak into a quest for closure.

The woman’s bond with Lorenzo, forged in shared frustration, leads to a dramatic confrontation with her ex, dubbed Voldemort for his dark deeds. Their united front cuts him out, but leaves her wondering: did she go too far? Readers are hooked on this tale of betrayal and revenge: was she right to rally his friend against him, or was it a step too far? The drama awaits a verdict.

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‘AITA for making my ex-boyfriend’s best friend cut him off?’

This woman shared her breakup saga on Reddit, detailing the betrayal, her new friendship, and the showdown with her ex. Here’s her original post, spilling the tea.

I (26F) met my ex-boyfriend (26M), Voldemort, on the app BOO last June. We started as friends, and a month later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I accepted. It was a long-distance relationship, so we video-called every other day. Eventually, I met his best friend, Lorenzo (23M).

Despite past drama between them (not my story to tell), Lorenzo joined some of our calls, and we got along well. Two weeks after my birthday, everything fell apart. Voldemort started acting distant and ghosted me for a day. The next day, he messaged:. “Are you able to call?”. I said, “Sure, give me twenty minutes.”. When he called, his voice was off.

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Then came the dreaded: “We need to talk.” Even after we started dating, Voldemort kept using BOO to meet gamers. That’s how he met another girl (19F), Lucifer. He told me about her early on, and I wasn’t worried since I’m not the jealous type. On the call, however, he admitted she’d developed feelings for him and that her living nearby made a physical relationship more “accessible.”

I was heartbroken. I reminded him he was doing exactly what someone had done to him in a past relationship, and leading on someone who clearly liked him while he was taken, to me, that’s emotional cheating. He rambled about his “dilemma” for an hour, but I called BS and ended it.

Afterward, I messaged Lorenzo to let him know we’d broken up and that it had been nice meeting him. He was surprised and said he thought Voldemort had finally been in a healthy relationship. He apologized on Voldemort’s behalf and wished me the best. The first few days were awful; I cried nonstop and barely ate.

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Eventually, I messaged Lorenzo again to ask if Voldemort had moved on with Lucifer. Lorenzo kindly told me that three days after our breakup, Voldemort was already dating her. That sent me into rage mode. Lorenzo offered to call so I could vent, and afterward, he told me I could reach out anytime if I needed someone to talk to.

Over the next two months, Lorenzo and I kept talking and became genuine friends. We bonded over shared interests and analyzed Voldemort’s toxic behavior together. Lorenzo eventually decided to cut ties with him entirely after realizing Voldemort was repeating toxic patterns that would inevitably drag him into drama again.

In December, we planned a confrontation; for me, it was closure; for Lor, it was the final nail in the coffin of their friendship. The night of the call, we waited for an hour before he texted:. “Sorry, I ended up f****ng Lucifer.” When he finally called expecting only Lor, he was shocked to hear my voice too.

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We confronted him about his behavior: pursuing younger girls, streaming disturbing deep web content, and randomly bringing up s**ual kinks unprovoked. After the call, we blocked him everywhere and never looked back. As of now, neither of us has heard from him or anyone in his circle. Lorenzo and I have remained very close friends.. So am I the a**hole?

Breakups can be messy, but this one turned into a full-blown alliance. The woman, betrayed by her ex’s emotional cheating, found an ally in his best friend, Lorenzo, who cut ties after recognizing the ex’s toxic patterns. Their joint confrontation was cathartic, but some see it as obsessive. The ex’s behavior—pursuing a younger woman while stringing her along—sparked the fallout.

This story reflects the complexities of online relationships and post-breakup dynamics. A 2023 study in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking found that online relationships can blur boundaries, increasing risks of emotional infidelity. The ex’s actions fit this pattern, justifying her hurt.

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Relationship coach Susan Winter says, “Closure comes from within, not confronting an ex; prolonged focus can delay healing”. Her insight suggests the confrontation, while empowering, may have kept the ex central too long. Lorenzo’s choice to cut ties was his own, not her coercion.

She could focus on new goals to move forward, while Lorenzo maintains his boundaries.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit dove into this breakup drama with takes as spicy as a late-night chat. Here’s a roundup of their thoughts, tossed with humor—because even toxic exes deserve a chuckle.

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ladyredcyn − I didn't read anything that had you forcing anything. That said...I DO wonder why you've spent so much energy on six-week relationship. I mean... if Valdemort is in your rear-view, why do you care what he's doing? But also...girl....it's April...and this situation and is STILL taking up space in your brain. Don't you deserve better than that?

ATraffyatLaw − ESH, get off discord you terminally online weirdos.

SabreLee61 − Like 90% of the content in this sub, this feels AI-written. It’s too polished, evenly structured, and emotionally detached for the kind of messy, raw vent one would expect from a real breakup story. Has the classic AI beginning-middle-end narrative with a climax and resolution. Even the drama feels oddly scripted.. YTA for posting this.

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ConsistentGur4158 − This is so unhealthy on so many levels. He's a jerk, you need to get a life. ESH.. I've never felt a more appropriate moment to tell someone to go touch grass.

TravisBravo − YTA. It’s super weird you pursued his friend, and y’all just complained about your ex together over a period of months. Even weirder that you staged a confrontation.. You seem toxic and Lorenzo sounds like a bad friend.

bfjt4yt877rjrh4yry − So... Nobody here actually met anyone in person?

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Starlitdreamer199x − I love how you turned heartbreak into a buddy cop movie with Lorenzo as your partner in crime! The Ex-terminators is definitely a title I’d binge-watch. You two deserve an award for this level of emotional detective work!

AcrobaticNose1773 − At least now he knows he lives rent free in your head.

Kranich186 − Lorenzo trying to get his wiener wet.

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These Reddit quips are wild, but do they nail the truth? Was her alliance with Lorenzo a power move, or did they linger too long in the ex’s shadow?

This woman’s journey from heartbreak to an unlikely friendship is a rollercoaster of betrayal, rage, and redemption. Her bond with Lorenzo, cemented by a bold confrontation, cut her toxic ex out for good, but Reddit’s split—some cheering, others eyeing the drama—raises questions about closure. Was it justice or obsession? What would you do when betrayal sparks an alliance against an ex? Drop your stories and weigh in on this digital-age showdown!

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