AITA for making my coworker look bad for being late?

A quiet office parking lot at 7:30 AM, the sun just peeking over the horizon, and one employee’s day is already off to a rocky start. Meet our protagonist, a punctual worker caught in a sticky workplace saga with Jen, a coworker whose clock seems to run on its own schedule. What began as a routine morning turned into a clash of professionalism and accusations, leaving readers wondering: where’s the line between honesty and throwing someone under the bus?

This Reddit tale unravels a drama that’s as relatable as a Monday morning coffee spill. With emotions running high and workplace etiquette on the line, the story hooks us with its raw honesty and a dash of pettiness. Let’s dive into the original post, unpack the tension, and see what the Reddit crowd—and an expert—have to say about navigating this office minefield.

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‘AITA for making my coworker look bad for being late?’

So there have been a couple of incidents lately that have led my coworker (Jen) to become very angry with me. For background, we are both scheduled to start work at 8:00 every day. I usually get there between 7:30-7:45. Jen typically gets in at 8:30 or later. I have never complained about her getting in late or tried to draw attention to it.

It doesn't affect my job, it's not my business, and I don't care. The first incident was on a day that I was running late. I was only running five minutes or so late, but I texted my coworkers to let them know because the last time I was five minutes late, I received 6 phone calls asking where I was before I got to work because people are used to be getting there early.

Throughout the day, Jen made several jokes about how lazy I was for being late. Then, when we were in the elevator together leaving for work, she said in a rather sharp tone, 'You know, when you make a big show of telling everyone you're going to be late when it's only five minutes, it's pretty obvious that you're just trying to show everyone else up.

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You're not going to make any friends with that teacher's pet act, FYI.' I just kind of brushed it off and hadn't thought of it again until today. Today is the third day since the secure access cards we use to get into our office have been on the fritz. I got to work at 7:30 only to find that my secure access card wouldn't work.

One co-worker who gets in at 7:00 every day was already there, but when I called his line was busy. So I just waited for for whoever came in next. That turned out to be my and Jen's boss, at 8:30. He asked why I was in the parking lot and I explained about my card and the other coworker's line being busy.

He asked why Jen hadn't let me in and I just said I hadn't seen her that morning. He let me in and I thought that was the end of it. Nope. at 9:30 Jen comes into my office crying and closes the door before tearing into me about how I embarrassed her and got her written up by telling our boss she was late.

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I didn't see anything I did as wrong, but Jen's position is that I am a 'brown nosing little suck-up b**ch' who orchestrated both of these situations to make her look bad for being late. Should I have handled one or both of these differently?

This workplace drama highlights the clash between punctuality and accountability. The OP’s honesty about their own tardiness and Jen’s absence inadvertently exposed Jen’s chronic lateness, sparking accusations of sabotage. Jen’s defensive outburst reflects a refusal to own her actions, while the OP’s neutrality shows professionalism. The tension stems from differing values—reliability versus flexibility—making communication key to avoiding such conflicts.

The issue points to a larger workplace challenge: accountability. A Forbes article notes 46% of employees are late monthly, straining team trust. Jen’s blame-shifting aligns with Dr. Amy Cooper Hakim’s insight in Psychology Today: “Avoiding accountability protects the ego but fuels conflict.” Her tardiness, not the OP’s actions, drove the drama. Open dialogue could prevent escalation.

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For solutions, the OP might redirect questions about coworkers to HR, maintaining neutrality. Jen needs to address her tardiness—perhaps with better time management. Both could benefit from direct, respectful communication, like discussing expectations calmly. Fostering mutual respect ensures smoother workplace dynamics, keeping drama at bay.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and snark for our punctual protagonist. It’s like a virtual watercooler where everyone’s got an opinion and a meme ready to go. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

Ok_Research_8379 − NTA. If Jen could show up on time there wouldn’t be a problem?. If anything I’d take this AITA post to your manager/HR

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Special_Respond7372 − NTA. If she doesn’t want to be reprimanded for being late then maybe she should try …. Not being late. You didn’t even directly tell your boss she was late; all you said was that you hadn’t seen her that morning. Presumably she could have been there and you just didn’t see her. Your boss knew something was up.

TemptingPenguin369 − NTA, although I'm surprised no one's checking the log-in records for people 15+ minutes late on a regular basis.

PrivateEyes2020 − I don't see how you could have handled either situation differently. In the first incident, you did what any responsible employee does. When you're late, people don't know if you are late or sick or a no show.

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I always call when I'm going to be late. In the second incident, you were asked to explain yourself. You couldn't get in. Your boss asked you. You were truthful.. It's not you making Jen look bad. Jen is making Jen look bad. NTA

[Reddit User] − She needs to take accountability for her tardiness. Her being late is a fact, not something you especially pointed out until your boss particularly asked. NTA.

Literally_Taken − Jen is late every single f**king day. Jen is shocked when her boss catches her coming in late. Jen tries to figure out how boss found out. Jen does not think it’s because *she’s late every f**king day.* No, Jen is sure that cannot be the cause. Jen’s future is not promising. Her shocking inability to link cause and effect will catch up with her sooner rather than later.

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OregonWoodsChainman − NTA. Be as cold as ice to Jen. When addressed by her, NEUTRAL FACE. She's not your friend, if you didn't know it already. You owe her nothing.. She will continue to dig her own grave.

Badger-of-Horrors − *Heavy sigh, gets on soap box* BEHOLD MY OLDEST ENEMY, THE CONSEQUENCES OF MY OWN ACTIONS! /S . NTA you didn't even say she was late just that you hadn't seen her. She wants to not be in trouble for being late? Has she tried not being late?

coreysnaps − NTA. You don't make her look bad, she makes herself look bad. Just don't be late. Problem solved.

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deathfromace1 − NTA. If the events happened as you said you just spoke about your issues as they came up and didn't do anything to throw anyone under. I fully expected you to say someone complained about you being late and then you said 'well she' but that is not how it went so....you're fully NTA

These Redditors rallied behind the OP, cheering their honesty while roasting Jen’s tardiness. Some called for HR involvement; others predicted Jen’s self-dug grave. But do these fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just adding fuel to the office gossip?

This AITA tale reminds us that workplaces are petri dishes for drama when accountability and communication falter. The OP’s story isn’t just about tardiness—it’s about navigating unspoken expectations and the fallout of honesty. Jen’s tears and accusations reveal the sting of being called out, but her refusal to own her actions keeps the cycle spinning. With expert insights and Reddit’s hot takes, we see both sides, yet the core issue remains: punctuality matters, and so does tact.

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What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Would you speak up, stay silent, or find a middle ground to keep the peace? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments—we’d love to hear how you’d handle this office showdown!

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