AITA for making a dad joke?

the fluorescent glow of a grocery store aisle, a stepdad seized a moment to land a classic dad joke, hoping to lighten the mood with his rebellious 15-year-old stepdaughter. Her earlier sting—“You’re not my dad”—still lingered, but his playful “Hi Hungry, I’m not your dad” drew laughs from his son and a blush from her. Yet, his wife’s sharp rebuke cast a shadow over the quip. Was it a harmless jab or a step too far?

This Reddit tale of family ties, teenage defiance, and a well-timed zinger has the internet split. The stepdad, who’s raised his stepdaughter since infancy, navigates the tricky terrain of parenting a teen who’s testing boundaries. With readers weighing in on love, loyalty, and humor, let’s unpack this grocery store showdown and see where the real fault lies.

‘AITA for making a dad joke?’

Note. My step-daughter, Madeline, was about a year old when I married her mother, Jessica. Madeline’s father died before she was born. Madeline is currently 15, and she’s rebelling for almost everything. She did something bad, so while picking her up, I set a punishment up for her.

Then she said “You’re not my dad. I don’t have to follow you”. Honestly, I got a bit hurt from that. But I understand that she didn’t mean it, and that she’d probably change. I just replied “I’m still your legal guardian for the next 3 years, and as long as your in my house, you have to follow my rules.”

That happened about 2 days ago. So our family was going grocery shopping, when Madeline said “I’m hungry. I need food.” I decide to be extremely cheeky and say “Hi Hungry, I’m not your dad.” My son just started to laugh uncontrollably. My daughter was just quiet with embarrassment. And my wife was berating me “Not to stoop down to her level.”. I honestly thought it was a funny dad joke. And my son agrees.

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Parenting a teenager is like walking a tightrope, and this stepdad’s dad joke teeters between humor and hurt. His stepdaughter’s rebellion reflects a common struggle in blended families, amplified by her teenage angst.

The “you’re not my dad” comment, while painful, is typical of teens asserting independence. Dr. Patricia Papernow, a stepfamily expert, notes, “Teens in stepfamilies often test boundaries to navigate loyalty conflicts” (stepfamilies). The stepdad’s joke, though witty, risked reinforcing her insecurity about their bond, especially in public.

This ties to a broader issue: communication in stepfamilies. A 2023 study found 55% of stepparents report challenges with teen stepchildren due to unclear roles (nih). Dr. Papernow advises, “Validate teens’ feelings while reinforcing your role with warmth.” The stepdad’s apology and heartfelt talk were steps in the right direction, fostering trust. Consistent love and open dialogue can strengthen their bond over time.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s gang rolled into this family drama like it’s a comedy roast, dishing out a lively mix of applause and side-eyes. It’s like a neighborhood potluck where everyone’s got a hot take, from chuckling at the stepdad’s wit to wincing at the timing. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd, sizzling with humor and a pinch of shade:

Im_Space − ESH, but that was one hell of a joke and I congratulate you for it.

IsaRat8989 − YTA but a small one, it's a fun joke but wrong audience... Edit: well done recovery

figgilatopuss − ESH. But A+ for execution

[Reddit User] − I thought it was funny, but I too am an a**hole

kellybelle_94 − NTA if it was a one time thing.. Teenagers are a special test of our patience.

RefusedBarf − NAH it's a fun dad joke and teens are full of s**t anyways. Edit: Thanks random internet person for the gold. My first and was a highlight of my day

Just_a_Soundwave − NAH. Your daughter is 15, so she's somewhat of an involuntary a**hole by virtue of being a teenager. What she said was hurtful, but chances are she'll come around with maturity. Your dad joke was funny and harmless. I am seriously struggling to find anything negative to glean from it. Even when I was an assholey teen I enjoyed my dad's cringe-worthy jokes, so this just comes across as very wholesome to me.

Brandelyn1135 − NTA. She is old enough to know that words have power. While you may have said it in a joking manner, she got to feel a little bit of what you felt when she said you were not her father. That being said, this is an opportunity to sit down with her and let her know that you do love her, very much consider yourself her father, and then let it ride.. Teenage girls are hard on their parents in the best of circumstances. Go with God.

bellamuerte117 − ESH. My dad is not my biological father and when I was a teen I went through similar angst and wanted to lash out. Now I had the good sense to know that saying something like that would be EXTREMELY hurtful so I never did.

But also if my dad ever said something like that, especially in front of my brother who is his biological son I would’ve been heartbroken. I think you need to sit down and have a discussion with her about those kinds of comments, in my opinion if you don’t this is gonna hurt her for a long time

quoththeraven929 − Well, biology aside, do you see yourself as her dad? Because I'm betting you do, and the fact that you'd say you aren't, in public no less, is probably confirming her own adolescent fears.

She is probably actually insecure about you not being her

These Redditors are split, with some crowning the stepdad’s joke a masterpiece and others calling it a misfire given the teen’s sensitivity. They agree the daughter’s rebellion is par for the course, but opinions vary on whether the quip was cathartic or cruel. Do their takes nail the family vibe, or are they just stoking the drama? One thing’s clear—this dad joke’s got everyone buzzing.

This grocery store saga of a dad joke gone awry shows the messy beauty of blended families. The stepdad’s quip, born of hurt and humor, stirred laughter and tension, but his follow-up apology opened the door to healing. Was the joke a fair comeback or a parenting fumble? Share your thoughts: how would you navigate a teen’s defiance in a stepfamily?

For those who want to read the sequel: UPDATE: AITA for making a dad joke?

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