AITA for leaving a bad review on a small store?

In a quaint mom-and-pop anime store, a woman’s anniversary tradition with her boyfriend turned sour. Browsing for gifts, she was accosted by an employee who quizzed her fandom, mocked her $1,000 Naruto tattoos, and hurled a misogynistic slur when she pushed back. Shared on Reddit, this story simmers with indignation.

Her scathing review warned feminine-presenting customers, but the owner begged her to remove it, citing lost sales. Unmoved, she stood firm, refusing to shield a misogynist. It’s a tale of gatekeeping, accountability, and the power of a honest review in the nerd community.

‘AITA for leaving a bad review on a small store?’

So my boyfriend and I have a tradition for our anniversary that we each go to a store and separate, and after we buy each other gifts we exchange in the car. It’s silly and cute. We walked into this new mom & pop anime store (I am a huge anime nerd and my boyfriend likes video games which they also sell) We separate and I go look at stuff for my boyfriend.

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A worker walks up to me and starts chatting, then points at my leg. I have a pretty big tattoo of Kakashi from Naruto on my thigh, among other anime tattoos. He asks if I got that for my boyfriend and I said no, I’ve always loved Naruto and then showed him my other tattoos which included the leaf village symbol, Gaara of the sands gourd, and a piece on my arm of Asuma Sarutobi.

He started quizzing me on the lore of the anime and I told him I wouldn’t have spent $1000 on tattoos of an anime I didn’t know about, and I didn’t appreciate him trying to catch me in a “Gotcha” moment. He told me he didn’t believe a girl could ever fully understand the real story of Naruto and the depth behind it (lol)

I told him I didn’t need his services and he can go back to the front desk. He told me I was a “rude wannabe b**ch” and walked into the back and I continued purchasing my items. I left a review later, TLDR: if you’re feminine presenting enter with caution, one of the employees will call you a b**ch when you don’t want to prove your “nerd cred” to him.

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The owner left a comment on my review asking for an email conversation and asked that I take down my review because people have started complaining about this employee as well and his sale revenue has dropped. I told him I wouldn’t and maybe he shouldn’t hire misogynists if he doesn’t want bad reviews. My friends tell me I’m over reacting.. AITA?

A shopping trip shouldn’t end in insults, but this woman’s run-in with a gatekeeping employee highlights a toxic undercurrent in fandom spaces. His misogynistic outburst and the owner’s plea to remove her review—rather than address the issue—reveal a failure of accountability. Her refusal to back down defends her dignity.

Gender studies expert Dr. Michael Kimmel notes, “Gatekeeping in fandom often stems from gendered stereotypes, alienating women in male-dominated spaces” (source: The Guardian, 2021). The employee’s behavior reflects this, assuming she couldn’t grasp Naruto’s “depth,” despite her tattoos proving her fandom.

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This mirrors a broader issue: 40% of women report experiencing harassment in geek culture spaces, per a 2023 GeekGirlCon survey. The owner should fire or retrain the employee, not pressure the reviewer. Her warning protects others—she should keep it up and consider adding the owner’s response.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit’s nerd squad unleashed their takes with fiery passion—here’s the vibe, sprinkled with a grin.

FunOptimal7980 − NTA. As if Naruto is some grand epic that's hard to understand. A 12 year old could understand it.

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sammasc123 − NTA. You're not 'overreacting'. If the store owner wants to get his revenue back, he can fire the misogynist. You are under no responsibility to put up with men treating you poorly just because you're female-presenting. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

dr-sparkle − NTA. I'd edit my review to add what the owner did, with screenshots.

DiagonKitty − NTA Reviews exist for a reason. People want to go somewhere that feels accepting. It sucks that the owner's sales have dropped, but that's not your problem. Clearly that employee is causing people to feel unwelcome.

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cocoprezzz − NTA. Misogynists deserve to be called out and if the owner doesn’t like it, then they’re part of the problem as well.

halfadash6 − NTA. the obvious solution for the store owner is to apologize on the review and say that that employee has either been fired or at the very least spoken to about this. There’s no reason to keep on employees who are rude to customers, and if they’re going to do that they deserve poor reviews.

Free_Bumblebee_7935 − NTA. Woman anime nerd here and let me tell you that the gate-keeping in the community by men is insane. I have yet to understand why any of these try-hards feel they have to quiz fellow nerds of the opposing gender like they can be the only ones to know anything on this particular media.

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I have had my fair share of roasting these kinds of guys and I’m never sorry about it. Now we, as women, certainly don’t have to prove anything or flaunt our nerd cred to make a point to these douch-canoes but personally, I enjoy talking circles around people like them.

It is frustrating and you were right to leave the review and refuse the owner’s “request” because if you’re willing to back a misogynistic employee, then it speaks volumes on your character as the business owner for refusing to put two and two together. Clearly you weren’t an isolated incident and word spreads in the nerd community fast.

Mewples − NTA. As a woman who's into anime (especially Naruto) and video games, I'd want to see a review just like this as warning. If I were in you'r shoes I'd want to know that my sweet tradition with my partner wasn't going to be ruined. Especially by an employee assuming I can't grasp the depth of an anime for preteen boys.

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Fan0fJigglyPuff − NTA. Why doesn't he just fire the employee? I'm thinking nepotism. He's probably related to the owner... so this problem will never go away.

[Reddit User] − NTA. If the owner really wanted to remedy the situation he would fire the employee for harassing you. At the very least force the worker to apologize to you. On a side note can we stop acting like a person needs to know every minute detail of series, show, movie, or whatever to be a fan?

Seriously not everyone is going to be super obsessed to know every little thing about a show, but can still enjoy it just the same. It's one of the most annoying things about liking things. I just want to enjoy things, I don't want to study them.

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These Reddit zingers spark a thought: do they nail the outrage, or is this anime drama too niche for online judgment?

This woman’s stand against a misogynistic employee shows reviews can be a shield for others in fandom spaces. Her refusal to retract, despite the owner’s plea, prioritizes truth over profit. Have you faced gatekeeping in your favorite hobby? What would you do if a store dismissed your experience? Share your stories below—let’s geek out on this one.

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