AITA for kicking my sister out of the house?

The air was thick with tension in a modest suburban home, where a young man’s trust in his sister shattered like glass underfoot. At just 22, he’d opened his doors to his 20-year-old sister, offering her a lifeline during her financial struggles. But one chaotic night, his generosity was met with betrayal—strangers in his home, prized possessions gone, and a sibling’s flimsy excuses.

His story, shared on Reddit’s AITA forum, sparked heated debates about family loyalty, personal boundaries, and the cost of tough love. Readers leaned in, captivated by the raw emotion and moral dilemma: was he right to kick her out, or did he go too far? With family ties strained and belongings stolen, this tale invites us to ponder where compassion ends and accountability begins.

‘AITA for kicking my sister out of the house?’

Me (M22) lives with my sister (f20) and last night when I was gone she brought some men over (which I don’t allow because I pay for the house, which means my rules. She only lives with me because she is currently having money problems and I offered to help her).

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Anyways, she brought 2 men over to my house last night and basically I’m assuming they had a threesome or some s**t. Apparently the 2 men went into my room and basically stole a bunch of my s**t when my sister was black out drunk (so she says) when I came home in the morning and saw a bunch of my s**t was gone I asked my sister and she said she had no idea which I thought was some BS.

I checked the front door security cameras and found her walking in with 2 men and I was absolutely LIVID. I confronted her immediately saying that I told her specifically not to do that while she is just sitting there trying to play it off. I then kick her out of the house and told her to go live under a bridge.

I guess she called our mom immediately because I then got a call from my mom saying I shouldn’t have kicked her out because that was my sister and she doesn’t have anywhere to stay. When I brought up “why doesn’t she just stay with you???” She repeatedly called me an a**hole. AITA? It’s bugging me

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Family conflicts over shared spaces can ignite like a match in a dry forest. This Reddit user’s clash with his sister highlights the delicate balance between generosity and respect. The brother’s frustration is palpable—he provided a home, yet his boundaries were trampled. His sister’s claim of being blackout drunk raises questions about responsibility, while their mother’s defense adds fuel to the fire.

The opposing perspectives are clear: the brother demands accountability, viewing his sister’s actions as a breach of trust, especially after theft occurred. Meanwhile, the sister might feel cornered, possibly unaware of the men’s intentions if her intoxication claim holds. Their mother, siding with her daughter, likely prioritizes family unity over strict rules. This dynamic reflects a broader issue: navigating boundaries in family cohabitation. According to a 2023 study by the Pew Research Center, 31% of young adults in the U.S. live with family due to financial strain, often sparking tension over house rules (source).

Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, notes, “Trust is built in very small moments, which I call ‘sliding door’ moments” (source). In this case, the sister’s disregard for her brother’s rules was a missed sliding door, eroding trust. Her possible intoxication complicates matters—experts suggest blackout drinking can impair judgment, but it doesn’t absolve responsibility.

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For solutions, open communication is key. The brother could initiate a calm discussion to understand his sister’s state that night, possibly exploring if she needs help with substance use, as some Redditors suggested. Setting clear, written house rules moving forward could prevent repeat offenses.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit’s hive mind didn’t hold back—here’s a sampling of their spicy takes, served with a side of humor!

Janetaz18 − NTA. If she still has a key to your place then make sure you change the locks TODAY. Let your mother take her in.

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rlkgriffiths − she was 'black out drunk' and doesn't remember? Did you take a minute to ask her if she remembers any of the night at all? If she knew those men? If she thought she may have been drugged? I mean, if she is regularly this reckless and you are angry but not surprised, then I get it, but if this is out of thr ordinary, I wonder if she is as much at fault as you think.. Also,are you in US, because she isn't supposed to be drinking either.......

kevincox2705 − NTA.. Your home your rules.. She had money problems and you were helping her so you would think she would follow. And if your mother is complaining that she has no place to go then she can take her in plus those men stole from you(idk what)

[Reddit User] − Tell her the payment for reentry into your home, is the return of your items that were stolen by her “friends”.

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QuinGood − NTA You did the right thing by kicking her out - that's the only way she will ever learn that actions have consequences.. I hope they didn't take anything irreplaceable.. Let your sister go stay with your mom.. Hugs

ndmy − INFO: How does your sister appear in the camera images? Does her demeanor seem typical, or is she somehow behaving differently? It's not normal not to hear two grown men leaving your house with a bunch of stuff, it sounds like she wasn't drunk, but drugged.

If you actually want to help your sister, I'd have a sit down talk with her. Figure out if she has a substance abuse problem, or was drugged by others, and if it's any of these, seek professional help. This could be a chance to nip a very serious problem in the bud.

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crazy_catlady-81 − NTA as you said mummy dearest can have her back. Dont be anyones doormat

pukui7 − NTA I have seen what happens when you let people like this continue in your home. You did the right thing at the right time. Her depraved indifference to your belongings and security in your own home is absolutely unforgivable, insofar as letting her stay there.. Your mother is being a h**ocrite. After all, that's her daughter and she doesn't have anywhere to stay.

CrC94 − NTA! Your sister and your mother obviously don’t respect you. Your mother either doesn’t care or knows that your sister wouldn’t respect her rules either.

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wind-river7 − NTA. I hope that you filed a report with the police. Mom can keep sister at her house, there is no reason to continue put up with your sister's behavior and lack of common sense.

These Redditors brought the heat, but do their snap judgments hold up in the real world?

This saga of sibling strife leaves us wrestling with tough questions about trust, family, and second chances. The brother’s decision to evict his sister was a bold stand for his boundaries, but it risks fracturing family ties. Should he have given her a chance to explain, or was his tough love the wake-up call she needed? Share your thoughts below—what would you do if you were in his shoes?

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