AITA for kicking my broke parents out of the house?

A 20-year-old faces a heated family conflict after letting their jobless parents stay in their tiny apartment, only for tensions to erupt over control. The parents, sleeping on the kitchen floor, complained about the TV’s low volume and unplugged the router, claiming authority over the home. After days of arguments, the young adult kicked them out and called the police to trespass them. Now, the parents call them selfish and oversensitive.

Was kicking their parents out wrong? Or did the parents cross a line by disrespecting their space? This story explores family boundaries, control, and navigating shared living spaces.

‘AITA for kicking my broke parents out of the house?’

A generous offer turns tense over minor issues.

I’m 20 years old and live in a 2 room apartment, one of those rooms is my room, and the other one is the kitchen/main room. Since my parents lost...

My parents sleep on the floor of the kitchen/main room. When my parents and I finish up with dinner, we socialize for a couple hours and then head off to...

My dad keeps complaining about how my tv is too loud, even though it’s at 15 volume. I thought this was rather odd, but I complied with him and turned...

He still kept complaining and I kept telling him back that it wasn’t that loud, hell I went over to where they slept, laid down, and couldn’t even hear a...

The parents’ control escalates, sparking conflict.

His bright idea was to unplug my router and not give it back, even in the morning, or after work. I told him “it’s my house, and I bought that...

I control this house!” which is obviously not true because I own the damn place. My mom didn’t help me out, hell she made it worse, she was defending my...

Frustrated, the young adult takes drastic action.

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This had been going on for about 3 days already, and I decided to kick them both out. I told them to pack their stuff and go, but both of...

I called the cops on them and got them trespassed from my apartment complex. Over the past couple days they’ve been texting me of how selfish I am and how...

Is evicting your parents selfish, or a stand for personal boundaries against overreach? The young adult generously let their jobless parents stay in their small apartment, but the parents’ complaints about inaudible TV noise and unplugging the router crossed a line.

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Dr. Harriet Lerner notes, “Parents imposing control over adult children can erode mutual respect” (The Dance of Connection, 2001). The young adult was right to defend their home’s ownership, as the parents disrespected their space and property while contributing nothing.

However, calling the police was a drastic step that may harm long-term family ties. Dr. John Gottman advises, “Family conflicts need dialogue before escalating to extreme measures” (The Relationship Cure, 2001). The parents’ control may stem from insecurity about depending on their child. The young adult should consider a calm discussion, setting clear rules if they return, and seek family counseling to mend ties while maintaining boundaries.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Reddit unanimously supports the young adult (NTA), criticizing the parents for disrespect and overreach.

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Users praise the young adult for standing their ground.

kiwihoney − NTA. It sounds like an all-round awful situation. You were kind to take your parents in for so long. Their insistence that they have the right to control...

You’re not a child and they shouldn’t be treating you like one. It’s unfortunate that it came to a breaking point and it’s really sad that you felt you had...

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I don’t think you’re an a__hole for wanting to have autonomy and control in your own home. I do think it’s really sad that it all went down so horribly,...

Apart-Ad-6518 − NTA You helped them out & let them stay with you rent free. You went along with the complaint about the TV. "His bright idea was to unplug...

even in the morning, or after work. " Totally not ok for him to mess with/take your stuff. “I am your father, I control this house! ” You're an adult....

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Snickerdoodle2021 − NTA Your house, your rules. Turn the TV up, tell them to get ear plugs.

The community slams the parents’ entitlement.

Natsuyue − NTA. The level of entitlement infuriates me. I hate how far too many parents see their children as nothing but objects to use as they please. Remember that...

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They are the sensitive ones for complaining about the nonexistent TV sound, unplugging the router, and screaming like banshees. They are the selfish ones for inconveniencing your daily life and...

The best thing to do is go to NC. Explain it to the rest of your family if you wish before the well is poisoned.

Of course, they might have the same idea as your parents and will also accuse you of nonsense because they themselves wish to someday extract resources from their child or...

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Certain-Thought531 − "I am your father, I control this house!" The middle ages have called they want their BS back. NTA

[Reddit User] − NTA If they want the respect they are asking for they need to give it to you first. This is your home not theirs.

Some urge cutting contact or setting firm boundaries.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. Have your parents been huge [jerks] the rest of your life too? Might be time to go no contact with them.

hello_reddit1234 − NTA are you female by any chance? The moment your father said that he controlled his house, he stepped over the boundary. He is the selfish one with...

The fact that his poor behaviour impacts on you and makes you feel guilty also makes him a bad father. For your mental health, I would cut them off. Tell...

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WildQuote3213 − NTA you’re 20 yo and they live in your house paying for nothing. If they want to control a house they need to get a job and pay...

The community backs the young adult for defending their space, urging continued autonomy.

Setting boundaries with parents is vital when they overstep in your home, but open dialogue can prevent escalation. The young adult was right to protect their space, but reconciliation through communication may preserve family ties.

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How should the young adult reconcile with their parents while maintaining boundaries? If you were in their shoes, how would you handle controlling parents?

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