AITA for getting my neighbour arrested and probably deported ?

A 22-year-old woman and her partner endured nearly two years of harassment from a hostile next-door neighbor who complained about everyday noises through thin apartment walls. The situation escalated from constant wall-banging and threats to physical assault when the neighbor grabbed her by the collar and shoved her.

After capturing the attack on video and reporting it, the neighbor was arrested. Despite the couple initially offering to drop charges if he moved out—which he did—the authorities continued the case, and the woman must now testify, potentially leading to his deportation.

‘AITA for getting my neighbour arrested and probably deported ?’

The couple’s new apartment quickly became a source of stress due to their neighbor’s extreme sensitivity to noise.

I 22f and my partner James ( fake name) moved in our first apartment 2 years ago. Our next door neighbour never liked me. He claimed we made too much...

The thing is his bedroom wall is shared with my living room wall. The walls are really thin in our apartment. I can hear him brush his teeth in the...

James suffers from severe anxiety and when the neighbour bangs on our wall to tell us to shut up, it makes James scared and he just shuts down for the...

The first year living there was really painful, we couldn’t listent to music, have people over, watch TV after 8pm because the neighbour would bang on the wall.

Tensions boiled over with threats and eventual violence caught on camera.

One day I was taking a shower (it was 2pm) and the neighbour came and banged on my door, he didn’t knock but fully banged on it. I went to...

He told me it bothered him to hear me everyday. I said I was sorry and that it wasn’t my fault that the walls were thin. I also told him...

He didn’t like that and told me I should watch my back starting from now. Because of my work hours, I am often alone home and that scared me,

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so every interactions my partner and I had with the neighbours were recorded by once of our phone. One morning, my partner and I were playing video games and the...

I went to his door, knocked and he just lunched at me. He grabbed me by my collar, shoved me against the wall and started insulting me. lol of it...

The cameras in the hall, and my the one on my phone. I called the cops and he was arrested. James promised the neighbour that we would drop the charges...

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Legal consequences continued despite the neighbor moving out after the couple’s compromise offer.

The following month, the neighbour moved out and we called the police to tell them we didn’t want to press charges anymore but in my country,

the police reserve the right to continue an investigation if they want to. I have to go to court to testify against my neighbour and he might get deported because...

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Neighbor disputes over noise can escalate dangerously when one party responds with intimidation and violence instead of reasonable communication. The poster’s restraint—recording interactions for safety and initially seeking a non-legal resolution—shows maturity amid ongoing harassment.

What makes the story more complicated is the potential deportation, tied to the neighbor’s immigration status and the country’s policy on prosecuting assaults independently. Self-defense advocates stress that victims aren’t responsible for perpetrators’ broader consequences.

While some might view involving police as extreme, physical assault crosses into criminal territory warranting official intervention. From a broader perspective, holding aggressors accountable protects communities, especially vulnerable residents like those with anxiety. Deportation, if it occurs, stems directly from the neighbor’s choice to escalate to violence, not the victim’s report.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Users unanimously supported the poster, emphasizing the neighbor’s assault justified police involvement.

techorules − NTA, you just stood your ground against someone acting illegally. The consequences of his actions are his burden not yours, regardless if he gets deported or not. That...

False_Risk296 − NTA. The AH neighbor shouldn’t have assaulted you. If you commit a crime against a person it’s reasonable that they would call the cops. Everything that happens after...

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grossflips − Nta, it’s not like you targeted him for being an immigrant. The dude literally attacked you. What were you supposed to do, just let him?

ConvivialKat − NTA The guy *assaulted* you and *threatened* you. Calling the police on people who do those kinds of things is the right thing to do. That's what they're...

Randomcommenter550 − NTA. He assaulted you. He deserves to be arrested.

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Several addressed immigration angles and criticized enabling dangerous behavior.

Entediado25 − As an immigrant myself, WTF is wrong with this guy? Like for real, as an immigrant, one of the first things you do when choosing where to move...

It is arguably the biggest decision you are making in your life. This dumbass literally chose where he went to live(a thing that the majority of people don't get to...

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and proced to commit a crime for no f__king reason, like for real because of appartament noise? Deport his ass. At this point, he is asking for it.

Ortsarecool − Your family is wrong. End of. Weaponizing the police is a Karen calling the cops on some POC minding their own business because they feel "unsafe" You called...

and having endured months of harassment and threats. These are not equivalent situations. What are you expected to do otherwise? Let him continue to abuse you? Your neighbour made his...

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The_Mr_Yeah − NTA. Ask your family if they'd rather have him deported or you dead.

One commenter praised standing up but questioned the initial leniency.

[Reddit User] − NTA generally but YTA to yourselves for being such doormats for so long and at the end. I have bad social anxiety (used to be worse) so...

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But James was in the wrong and so were you for going along with it. This man was insanely rude and threatened you then violently assaulted you for knocking on...

Why in the hell would you not want to press charges? Is the goal to move out soon so he could just continue to be a menace to society? Antagonize...

Is the goal to be a martyr for all of society anytime some violent criminal a__hole wants to abuse you? Come on OP. I’m proud of you for confronting him...

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His behavior was so far beyond the line of decency or civility for a long time. Don’t ask cops to let violent criminals free the moment after they’ve been arrested.

Proper-Scallion-252 − NTA. He literally assaulted you.

This escalating neighbor conflict underscores how unchecked aggression can turn minor annoyances into serious safety threats—the poster rightly prioritized protection after enduring harassment, threats, and assault. Natural consequences, including potential deportation, fall squarely on the perpetrator’s choices. Standing firm against violence, even when outcomes feel heavy, often proves necessary for personal security.

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Have you dealt with an unreasonably hostile neighbor—did you involve authorities or find another resolution? Would fear of severe consequences like deportation make you hesitate to report assault? How thin do apartment walls have to be before “quiet enjoyment” becomes impossible for everyone? Share your experiences below!

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