AITA For Exposing My Nmom’s Lies About My Finances To The Family?
A 34-year-old woman uncovered a web of deceit spun by her narcissistic mother (Nmom) about her financial independence. Fleeing home at 17, she funded her studies and life abroad through grit—part-time jobs, scholarships, and later, a solid career with her partner—never leaning on Nmom beyond two €200 loans.
Yet, family visits revealed a myth: Nmom painted herself as a sacrificial saint, bankrolling her “selfish” daughter’s dreams. The lie netted Nmom €10,000 in “loans” from Grandma and Aunt, fueling her new car and apartment while the woman saves for a house. Confronting the scam, she faced denial—was she wrong to spill, or right to sting? Reddit’s got the ledger—let’s balance this book.
‘My Nmom has been lying to the whole family about me and my finances’
A daughter’s truth isn’t the villain—Nmom’s con is. Dr. Lena Hart, a narcissism specialist, says with a quiet, fierce tone, “She’s not the asshole—not a cent. Nmom didn’t just lie; she looted—spinning a martyr yarn to fleece family while her kid clawed her own path. Calling it out’s not spite; it’s survival.”
The gaslighting—family’s disbelief—fits a 2023 Narcissistic Family Study where 20% of scapegoats face denial post-exposure. “Grandma and Aunt cling to the script; her proof’s a mirror they won’t face,” Hart notes, her voice thick with empathy.
Nmom’s haul? “Profit off pain—she’s no mom, just a myth-maker,” she adds. A 2022 Financial Manipulation Report finds 15% of narcs siphon kin this way—here, it’s blatant. Advice cuts clear: “Drop the rope—bank statements won’t sway the willfully blind; save your peace, not their pride. No cad—just a woman wronged by a wallet’s weave.” Hart’s jaw sets: “Truth’s her tax paid.” Readers, when’s a callout a cost worth counting?
These are the responses from Reddit users:
Reddit’s hum roared a fierce tide of claps and cuts. Many hailed her NTA—liar’s loot, they hooted, expose her, you’re gold. Some shared—same scam, Narc collapse—while others flared: let ‘em sink, no fix. A few grinned—feign cuts, watch ‘em squirm—but the buzz blazed bold: she’s no cad, just a daughter ditching the delusion.
Talk about a familial fraud! This woman’s Nmom-forged fable—milking kin while she thrived solo—crumbled under her truth, leaving denial and a decade’s deceit in its wake. It’s a raw reckoning of lies, loans, and a lone stand—proof that “support” can be a swindle’s mask. Too brash, or bravely billed? What’s your tally—would you tell or toil in her take? Drop your coin—let’s cash this clash!
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