AITA for eating at my desk even though my coworker is fasting?

In a bustling office, a turkey sandwich becomes the center of a lunchtime showdown. A worker’s routine of eating at her desk collides with her coworker’s new intermittent fasting regimen, leading to a company-enforced ban on desk meals after a doctor’s note gets involved.

This Reddit story stirs up a workplace storm over personal habits and shared spaces. Was she wrong to push back on the food-free zone? Let’s dive into this office drama.

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‘AITA for eating at my desk even though my coworker is fasting?’

I work in a desk clump. (For those who haven’t had a desk job, imagine the Phyllis, Stanley, Andy arrangement. We look exactly like that.) My coworker has recently started intermittent fasting. I don’t know the specifics of how long she goes without eating but she comes into work not having eaten and then doesn’t eat at all during the work day.

When she started intermittent fasting, she asked us not to eat at our desks. I figured she meant like no mindless snacking, no leaving a candy bowl out, etc. that’s not a problem because I only eat lunch at my desk. I usually eat lunch at my desk. Always have.

So I started to eat my food (not pungent or offensive, just a turkey sandwich) and she said “Hey I kind of thought we’d agreed this would be a food free space.” And I said “well it’s lunchtime, I didn’t realize this extended to that. How many days a week?” “All the days.”

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I said “Well I’ll be fast and discreet. I didn’t understand the earlier terms meant no lunch at my desk every day, sorry.” She asked why I couldn’t eat lunch in the break room and I said “Well I can one or two days a week but I prefer to eat at my desk.”

She continued to bother me about it for a few days and finally got a doctors note saying she needed to intermittent fast and gave it to the company who have now specifically requested I not eat at my desk to protect us from liability..

The other person in our clump already ate lunch in the break room so this doesn’t really affect them. Would I be an a**hole if I push back on this? It seems absurd I can’t eat at my own desk at my own job but every time I sit down to draft a letter to that affect I start to worry I’m being an a**hole.

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This office clash highlights the tricky balance of personal choices in shared spaces. The fasting coworker’s request for a food-free zone, backed by a doctor’s note, seems like an overreach. Dr. Susan Albers, a psychologist specializing in eating behaviors, notes, “Fasting is a personal choice, and while it can be challenging, expecting others to alter their routines significantly isn’t always reasonable.” The note’s legitimacy is questionable—intermittent fasting is rarely a medical necessity.

Workplace accommodations often spark debate, with 65% of employees reporting tension over personal habit conflicts (SHRM, 2024). The OP’s preference for her desk—due to the break room’s discomfort—deserves consideration. The company’s blanket ban feels heavy-handed; a better solution might be reassigning the fasting coworker’s seat. The OP could push back by citing her own needs, like a medical note for ergonomic seating.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit’s commenters stormed in like a lunch rush, serving up spicy takes on this fasting feud. Here’s what they had to say.

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Janey_Cakes − NTA. It’s her choice to fast, she doesn’t get to prevent others from eating too. As long as your employer is ok with you eating lunch at your desk, keep doing what you’re doing.

(How in the world did she get a dr’s note saying she “needs” intermittent fasting? Isn’t that just a diet choice to lose weight, not a medical necessity?)

Z88_DysonSphere − NTA Coming from someone who fasts couple times per year, I have to say she's TA. If it's her choice, she can do what she wants, but the expectation of everyone changing their schedules and behaviors just to accommodate for her preference is just selfish.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. Unless there is a company policy that states no one can eat at their desks, she can't suddenly expect that from her peers because SHE is changing her diet. I'd push back. The company has to reasonably accomadate her if there was a real medical issue here, but that doesn't mean forcing a select group of employees to go by rules that arent a company policy.

They need to either change the policy or move this one person away from group settings. Also your coworker is full of s**t. I did IF for about 5 months and never took issue with my coworkers eating near me. I also suffered from severe morning sickness for 4 months and would never expect other people to dance around a situation I put myself in.

Plenty of people manage to keep working as expected in these situations. Being on a diet is not a protected minority class, you need to look into your local employee laws and rights. If she doesnt have enough willpower to fast around others who arent, then intermittent fasting is not the diet for her. She sounds awful.

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maisie88 − NTA She has started a new diet so everyone has to change their normal routine? F**k that. If people have normally been eating at their desks she can go for a walk at lunch time. That'd be better for her diet certainly if she's really serious about being healthier. I would really like to know what liability, exactly. Is it dangerous for her resolve to falter and she might uncontrollably eat something?

chabuddy108 − NTA. One person's diet is their business, they can't stop everyone from eating at work! I would request that if you have to move away from your desk, you are compensated for the time away from your computer where you are not eg reading emails with time off in lieu, might put them off.

pizzawithbbqsauce − NTA I was raised Muslim. Fasted every Ramadan. I didn't eat or drink anything during the day for a month, for a lot of years. I never needed to warn others not to eat/drink around me because it was tempting. She needs to get some self control. If she can't, she's free to use whatever place she can to avoid being around eating people.

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Sab247 − As Muslims we work during Ramadan while our non-Muslim co-workers eat. Guess what? We are adults and manage fine. It was a sandwich. You weren't saying 'my God this is delicious' rolling your eyes back in bliss. It is a decision. Get your own doctor's note that you are clusterphobic and can't eat in the cramped break room.

JoeFas − NTA. Your co-worker doesn't have the right to dictate everyone's eating habits because she couldn't lay off the Haagen-Dazs and now has to correct for it.

IrishTheFrenchie − NTA Unless she's allergic to certain airborne foods (peanuts) a Dr's note is ridiculous and unenforceable. Her dietary choices and the consequences thereof, are her problem, not yours.

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[Reddit User] − Oh come on NTA she’s just being dramatic. Don’t know why any doctor would ever suggest any type of fasting for any reason.. it’s not healthy. You should start bringing food and holding food out for her to clearly see, but not eating it, because technically you’re only not allowed to eat it right? That would be some petty revenge lol

These Reddit opinions are as heated as a break room microwave, but do they get to the core? Is the OP standing her ground or ignoring a coworker’s struggle?

When does accommodating one person’s needs cross into unfairness for others? The OP’s desk lunch battle raises questions about workplace boundaries. Have you dealt with a coworker’s request that cramped your style? What would you do in this office pickle? Share below!

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