AITA for being upset that an old teammate took credit for our public art project and now wants my help on their new one?

Someone spent months pitching ideas, filling out endless paperwork, chasing insurance, crunching budgets, and sorting every logistical detail for a massive public sculpture. In the end, their name—and their partner’s got pushed to the corner of a plaque while a teammate who barely lifted a finger beyond building a basic frame walked away with top billing.

The project started as a true team effort, with everyone from LED programmers to frame builders getting equal credit on the original signs. But after the exhibit wrapped, the college rolled out new articles and signage that lifted the main contributor’s own words to praise Z as the visionary leader, sidelining the real drivers and even botching technical facts.

‘AITA for being upset that an old teammate took credit for our public art project and now wants my help on their new one?’

The trouble began when the original poster and their partner dreamed up a large-scale public sculpture, got it greenlit, and recruited Z simply to assist with the build:

My partner and I proposed a large-scale public sculpture. Our idea was accepted, and we brought on a guy named “Z” to help build the structure.

I handled all the proposals, design documents, safety plans, budgeting, and insurance (insurance was a nightmare to find.) My partner and some collaborators designed an LED display with programmed visual...

We decided to list *everyone* involved in the project on the signage at the show , a dozen names because we believe art is collaborative. Heck, I went out of...

After the show, I was the one who found storage, organized transportation, and dealt with logistics. Z refused to help. Eventually I was able to get the college to keep...

Months later, the college published pieces and installed plaques naming Z the lead creator—using text straight from the OP’s files:

A few months later, the college published articles and put up signage crediting Z as the lead creator, using text I had written. I didn’t know about this. My partner’s...

Now, Z says the college media wrote the articles that way for “marketing purposes” for the CS department and that it wasn’t his fault, but he admits he read the...

Now Z keeps messaging for copies of those same design and logistics files to use as templates—for his own solo submission to the very same event:

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Recently, he’s been asking me to send him *my* design documents and logistics info as a template so he can use as a guide to apply for his *own* art...

It is the same event we are applying for. I told him that felt hurtful, given how he handled the last one. My partner and I feel taken advantage of.

We worked for months to make this project happen and gave credit equally, only to have someone else take ownership publicly.. AITA for being upset and not wanting to share...

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Later updates reveal the OP reluctantly sent the files after Z guilt-tripped them, and they’re still battling the college for fair credit:

EDIT: Unfortunately I did send the documents to Z. I posted this because Z made me feel like an a__hole for being reluctant. The next step from what I’m seeing...

EDIT 2: I emailed the author of the article and they said Z reached out to them for an article to be written. They wrote one with information he provided.

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The revisions they are proposing still frame it as Z being the lead, despite my efforts to explain each contributors roles. I don’t know how to escalate this

At its heart, this boils down to uneven recognition in a group creative project. The OP and their partner handled the heavy lifting—concept, paperwork, funding, logistics—while Z’s role stayed limited to crafting a wooden support. Yet Z emerged publicly as the driving force after reaching out to media himself and feeding them selective details.

Z might argue the frame formed the sculpture’s backbone or that the college shaped the narrative for promotional reasons. Still, proactively supplying information and then staying quiet about clear inaccuracies chips away at any claim of innocence. These kinds of credit grabs happen frequently in collaborative art when leadership and contribution levels aren’t explicitly defined from day one.

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Art psychologist Jessica Backus, discussing collaboration in creative fields through the American Psychological Association, points out that undervalued artists often carry lasting bitterness, particularly when public acknowledgment impacts future opportunities. She stresses that solid records and upfront agreements on attribution are crucial to avoid exploitation.

For moving forward, the OP should compile every piece of evidence—emails, proposals, timelines—and submit a calm, documented request to the college’s communications or administration team asking for updates to both the article and plaque. If resistance persists, sharing the documented timeline on personal sites or art networks can set the record straight publicly without escalating dramatically. Above all, cutting professional ties with Z protects future work from similar risks.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Folks online almost unanimously backed the OP, calling out Z’s behavior and urging decisive action:

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Many went straight for zero contact while pushing hard for corrections:

ReadMeDrMemory - NTA. Ghost this a__hole. I hope you have contacted the college and asked them to correct their online publications and their records in light of the documentation you...

BleedingRaindrops - NTA. And I would refuse to give him any documents or work with him again. Also contact the college and ask to have it reprinted.

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Hobbz- - NTA He's asking you for a favor. You're under no obligation to help him out. Actions have consequences. He made an ethical decision to take more credit for...

Several highlighted the irony and the value of holding firm to personal ethics:

ahenobarbus_horse - NTA. The irony of this is that in order for him to do his new art project, evidently, he needs your help in order to do it.

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And his style of collaboration is poor enough that it has left you feeling unwilling to help him. That to me seems like a very natural consequence of his own...

I am sure that the consequences for him will be relatively mild, but the best thing you can do for yourself in this situation is to turn away and to...

No matter how honorably I behaved towards her she is always taking credit for things that she did not do both in front of me and behind my back. It’s...

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But I have to stay true to my own behavior and my own standards and not baseline my own measures of success off of her lack of ethics.

Others demanded proof-driven fixes and warned against future collaboration:

Pkfrompa - NTA Don’t ever work with him in any capacity again, and contact the school marketing dept and have them print a retraction and correction.

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If they refuse I’d get a lawyer involved. This is an important piece of work for your resume and could potentially open doors for you in the future. You should...

BestAd5844 - Show the school your receipts and get your names back on the project. Same with the newspaper. Show them your evidence and ask for a reprint

The shorter takes carried the same intensity:

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Obvious-Arrival2571 - report him and get this mess straightened out. nta

natural_Garbage7674 - NTA. If he'd done the work he took credit for he would already have the information he needs.

Since he's already proven that at best he's willing to profit from misunderstanding or misrepresenting his contribution, and at worst he's been actively lying about your project,

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you'd essentially be competing against yourself with someone who won't be honest when he's questioned on why you're both claiming the project.

People who steal credit, either through deception or inaction, rarely understand why people don't want to help them.

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silentjudge_ - NTA. It sucks that this happened. Z was opportunistic by not making sure the credit was properly distributed. You have solid reasons not to want to work with...

nasnedigonyat - Just snub this guy.

analogascension - NTA. Dont share anything with him and report him for stealing and taking credit for work that isnt his.

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TeenySod - NTA Z is trying to take advantage of you again. Remain polite, stand firm. If he wails, No is a complete answer.

Or, if you want to be "nice" - point out that the college hasn't corrected the article (of course he asked them, they just didn't do it ~rolls eyes, that...

Any reason you haven't contacted the college to ask for the correction though?

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A few simply sought clarification without changing the overall judgment:

ThisWillAgeWell - INFO: *I told him that felt hurtful, given how he handled the last one. * But you haven't told us how Z responded to that.

What did he say? If he hasn't replied yet, then technically you don't have a conflict - yet. But if his answer was to call you an a__hole, then you...

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uselessprofession - INFO: is the main frame that Z built the sculpture itself?

readergirl35 - If the department had written the piece the students would have been mentioned. It would have been a powerful recruitment tool for acquiring new students.

He was asked to submit something and was too lazy to even write it himself. He copied the things you wrote about the project in general and about him and...

This situation shines a harsh light on the pitfalls of creative teamwork. When credit isn’t locked down early and clearly, the smallest contributor can sometimes claim the spotlight—especially if they’re willing to stay silent while others get erased.

The overwhelming online support shows most people see the OP’s frustration and reluctance to help again as entirely reasonable. Have you ever dealt with uneven credit in a group project? How far would you go to correct a public record like this—and what steps would you take upfront next time to prevent it?

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