AITA for being pissed that my best friend tried to test my loyalty?

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In a cozy apartment, the smell of pizza lingers as a guy comforts his sobbing best friend, Jessica, unaware he’s starring in her scripted drama. Since primary school, they’ve shared hugs and secrets, but her boyfriend’s paranoia casts a shadow. What he thinks is a heartfelt moment unravels as a cruel test of loyalty, orchestrated to catch him in a nonexistent betrayal. The sting of manipulation cuts deep, leaving their friendship teetering.

This Reddit tale is a gut-punch, exposing how mistrust can fracture even the tightest bonds. It’s a story of a guy blindsided by a friend’s ploy, wrestling with anger and pressure to forgive. Readers are pulled into the mess, wondering: can a friendship survive when trust is toyed with so carelessly?

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‘AITA for being pissed that my best friend tried to test my loyalty?’

My best friend, or maybe former best friend at this point, Jessica, have been close since primary school. We're adults now, and I've always liked her as just a friend, nothing more. I always had a feeling her boyfriend of 2 years never liked me, he'd always get in between us and I heard people say that he told them he thinks I like his girlfriend and I'm trying to f**k her.

Jessica and I have been really close, put our arms around each other, hug etc, being really close like that, because we're really close friends. I asked her to come over to help me with a project, and we can order a pizza and watch a movie or something. I actually wanted to ask her advice on how to ask out this girl we are mutually friends with.

She comes over, and she's crying, I was too much of a dumbass to see it was clearly fake crying, I realized it afterwards, and she was telling me how her boyfriend is being emotionally abusive and she's about to break up with him.

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I hug her, and I told her I'll go make her some hot chocolate, which I did, and I just listened to her, and was a supportive friend. After like 10 minutes of it, she tells me I passed the test, and that her boyfriend and her made a bet, and she faked the whole thing.

Apparently the boyfriend was really convinced I would try to hook up with her, and she wasn't convinced either. I told her to get the f**k out of my house, and I havn't talked to her in a few days. She is sayign I need to let it go and that she just had to be certain.

A lot of our mutual friends are saying that I need to forgive her and its understandable for her to think that. I told all of them to shut hte hell up too and I don't want to hear it.. ​ I swear this s**t was inspired by a Dhar Mann video, it just had to be. There is a video where this happens, except the dude does like her and goes for it..

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This loyalty test wasn’t just a prank—it was a betrayal dressed up as a game. Jessica’s fake tears, spurred by her boyfriend’s insecurities, exploited a lifelong friendship for a cheap win. Psychology Today notes that trust is the bedrock of friendships, and manipulative tests erode it, often irreparably.

Dr. Irene Levine, a friendship expert, says, “Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, not suspicion.” Jessica’s choice to play along, especially faking abuse, shows a lack of faith in her friend’s integrity. A 2022 American Psychological Association study links such breaches to emotional distress, validating his anger. Her boyfriend’s win-win setup—either proving him a creep or pushing him away— reeks of control, not care.

He should set firm boundaries, demanding a sincere apology before rebuilding trust. Jessica needs to address her boyfriend’s jealousy without dragging friends into it. Therapy could help both navigate this fallout, but without accountability, this friendship may stay broken. Trust, once toyed with, is hard to glue back together.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit crew swooped in like avenging pals, serving up outrage and fist-bumps for the guy’s stand. It’s like a bar fight where everyone’s swinging for justice. Here’s the unfiltered heat from the crowd:

rucafromtheeastside − NTA. If this was a loyalty test, she clearly failed.

CajunKC − NTA. If she hasn't figured out in 13 years of friendship that you really are her friend and she needs to 'test' you....that's really outrageous behavior.

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[Reddit User] − NTA, if a friend needs to “test” your loyalty then they aren’t a friend. Just a person you enjoy being with.

BertTheNerd − NTA. And WTF. 'Betting'? WTF. 'Testing'? WTF. OP seems the only one in the hood, who can differ between friendship and sexuality. The rest has seen either too much romantic movies or too much porn. WTF. I will try the devil's advicate game anyway.

For the girl it is not easy to convince her bf, that her male friend is 'only friend'. Phps she thought, this could be a good idea (it was not) to convince him. Now, he should be convinced. But for what a price... i would say, without a deep apology for this s**tty behaviour for me it would be a former friend. But i am not in your shoes, you must know.

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DizzyDizzyWiggleBop − NTA. And I watched some of that video you posted and that was some of the dumbest cringiest crap I’ve ever seen.

[Reddit User] − Nta. The fact that she went along with this for her BF makes me think you are better off without her. Friends don't do this to eachother.

peanutbuttertango − NTA this absolutely sucks. If she *really* thought you liked her then she should have asked. Her boyfriend is being jealous and she's falling for it. Don't even get me started on her acting like her boyfriend has been abusive. Take as long as you need and handle things how you see fit, not anyone else.

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[Reddit User] − WTF is she 12? Clearly she's failed her own test; after years of friendship, she needs to do this? lame.

annedroiid − NTA. Your friend fell for her boyfriend’s plan hook line and sinker. Either you prove you’re a scumbag and she doesn’t want to be friends, or you get understandably upset at her behaviour and you don’t want to be friends. It’s a win-win for him and his insecurities.

IamBoopsthetadpole − NTA. Your friends should trust you and not be paranoid just because you are( assumably, I'm sorry) male, or attracted to women. Just because you are friends with someone of the gender you are attracted to does not mean you want to have s** with them.

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Your friends were assholes, and if I was you I would feel manipulated. They made it so that your friend seemed very upset, and you helped her like a good person, and then you learn it was all a trick? How can you trust them? They are bordering on playing mind games with you,

and it's also even worse that they both think you would take advantage of someone in a vulnerable state. It's ok for BF to be a little suspicious, but he should have left it alone once he heard there was nothing going on, this was not the way to go. You should be upset, NTA.

Redditors roasted Jessica’s stunt, branding it a trust-killer and urging distance. Some saw her boyfriend’s manipulation as the real villain, while others called the test straight-up juvenile. But do these spicy takes nail the whole picture, or just fan the flames?

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This story is a stark reminder that trust is fragile, and “tests” like Jessica’s can shatter bonds built over years. The guy’s fury is raw but righteous, while pressure to forgive glosses over the wound. It’s a tale that begs us to weigh loyalty against betrayal. Have you ever faced a friend’s trust test that crossed the line? Share your take below—let’s dig into this mess!

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