AITA: Coworker walked to my cubicle and interrupted me while I was on a work call to tell me I was being too loud?

A routine Teams call in a bustling cubicle farm took a sharp turn when a coworker’s tapping interrupted with a blunt “you’re too loud.” For the woman on the call, trying to dial down her naturally booming voice, the public callout felt like a slap, leaving her red-faced and rattled.

This office skirmish buzzes with the hum of workplace woes, where noise and manners collide. When does a coworker’s frustration justify an awkward interruption?

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‘AITA: Coworker walked to my cubicle and interrupted me while I was on a work call to tell me I was being too loud?’

I was debating posting this, this happened yesterday but it’s been bothering me since. I work a hybrid position, when I’m in the office twice a week, and three days at home. Admittedly, I can be loud while I’m on a teams meeting without really knowing it. However; this is something I am being more mindful of and trying to practice.

I was on a work call yesterday that lasted about 8 minutes, about a few minutes in a coworker that sits on the opposite side of my cubicle walked around and began tapping on the wall of my cubicle and was asking “Are you on a call? are you on a call?” I had my headset on (I only wear my headset when I am on a call), and teams was open with my camera on.

I have never seen or have spoken to this coworker. I ended up giving her a weird look because I was shocked that someone was interrupting me when it was pretty obvious I was on a call? I nodded and she said “you’re being too loud sorry” and walked away. NGL, it made me feel pretty humiliated. I haven’t had anyone at my job tell me that I’m too loud when I’m talking on a teams or phone call.

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I can absolutely understand her frustration. I understand it’s distracting if others are speaking loudly. I would have better understood if she had walked over to my cubicle after I got off of the call and had told me I was being too loud and to please keep it down. I felt like it was inappropriate to approach me and say this to me during my call and should have been done afterward. AITA?

Cubicles are echo chambers for workplace tension, and this loud-call clash proves it. The woman’s effort to curb her volume shows self-awareness, but her coworker’s mid-call interruption—tapping and questioning—crossed into unprofessional territory. Waiting post-call would’ve been kinder, especially since the headset and Teams screen screamed “I’m busy.”

Workplace communication expert Dr. Amy Gallo notes, “Timing matters in feedback.” Studies show 65% of employees find public corrections disruptive, eroding morale. The coworker’s approach, likely spurred by frustration, ignored office norms, while the woman’s loudness, though unintentional, disturbed others.

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This reflects broader open-office challenges. Dr. Gallo advises, “Address issues privately and promptly.” The woman could adjust her headset to hear herself better, and the coworker could use a message or wait.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit tackled this cubicle conundrum like a watercooler gossip session. Here’s their unfiltered take:

StAlvis − YTA. I can be loud. something I am being more mindful of. Informing you when you're being disruptive is **helping** with that mindfulness.. I was shocked that someone was interrupting me when it was pretty obvious I was on a call? You're in a cubicle. All this person heard was someone being **so** loud that they felt obligated to put a stop to it. How would they know you were on a video call until they were right on top of you?

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DinaFelice − So let me see... Your coworker politely interrupted you on a work call to let you know that you were disturbing others. And instead of immediately apologizing and trying to adjust your volume, you gave her a weird look and were so wrapped up in your own feelings that you didn't bother to apologize?.

Yeah, YTA And I'm perplexed as to why you felt 'humiliated'... This was an issue you were already aware of and trying to work on. You should have been *grateful* for the feedback and used it to help you calibrate yourself.

And it's exceedingly odd that you think she should have waited until you got off of the phone call. Your work call does not trump other people's work (whether they are also on work calls or whether they are doing other important tasks), so you don't get to use that as an excuse to be disruptive for the duration of the call.

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Pretzelmamma − I can be loud while I’m on a teams meeting without really knowing it. However; this is something I am being more mindful of and trying to practice.. So you know this is a problem but. I was shocked that someone was interrupting me. So basically you think they should just out up with it? You know, by being so loud and dslisruptive you interrupted *everyone else* in the office first. They're allowed to ask you to stop. 

Realistic_Head4279 − YTA for not always being mindful of how loud you are in such an environment. You know you are loud so no excuse for forgetting that. Yes, your co-worker could have been more diplomatic and waited,

but maybe this happened just one time too many for her and so she jumped up and acted in the moment. How did she know how long this conversation would be going on? Also, wearing earphones likely makes you less aware of how loud you are, so there is that too.

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svarttaake − I am the a**hole, indeed! Thank you for your comments and insights. Looking at this situation from an outside perspective, I totally am the AH.

And_a_piece_of_toast − Hmm... your co-worker is the AH for interrupting mid-call. It would have been obvious you were on a call (clearly you weren't talking loudly to yourself in the middle of the office). It's straight-up unprofessional to interrupt someone mid work call (assuming it was a work call)

to tell them to keep it down except in unusual circumstances (e.g. 'we're having a two minute silence for Derek from facilities management who died at the weekend and you're spoiling it'). The time to raise it was after the call, even if it meant her being distracted by you in the meantime.

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As for you, I guess a mild AH for being aware you speak too loudly and not having learnt to regulate it, although I appreciate it's easy for your volume to escalate without realising. Also, to the comments that you should have taken the call elsewhere, have these people never worked in an office before?

It really depends on whether the company provides breakout spaces for private calls and a lot of the time, employees are expected to /need to take calls at their desk where all their documents are to hand. All of which is a long-winded way of saying office politics is a headache and it's probably an mild ESH from me (leaning towards NTA).

Downtown-Turn-2170 − I’m not sure exactly what we’re supposed to say. Sounds like you were being too loud, and if so, it’s totally appropriate for them to ask you to be quieter—especially so if it’s hindering their ability to work. Someone talking a few doors down would definitely distract me, and I wouldn’t be able to tune it out due to my ADHD.

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That said, more context might help. Had you been talking loudly for a half minute or a half hour? Had you done this several times that day or was it the first time?  My two cents: treat this as an opportunity for growth. You say you’ve never seen them before,

so how you handle this sets a tone. You might consider thanking them for giving you feedback, but also suggest some kind of sign that they could give you instead that would be less of an interruption to you. . If you get really upset at them, then YTA. 

ThealaSildorian − NTA. This is the normal consequence of putting workers in cubicle farms. It's not a new problem. It's also why productivity is often greater for people working from home. You don't have to keep it down, and your colleague doesn't have to listen to you.

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She was being a bit rude with the tapping. She has every right to be frustrated but not take it out on you. Taking it out on you during a call can have negative ramifications for customer service, so she was unprofessional as well. I suggest talking to her about it.

Check any policies your workplace has on calls, but the solution lies more with her than you. She should consider ear plugs or a headset of her own. Try to say it nicely but get your team leader involved if she gets upset. It depends on how much of your day is on calls;

if all day this won't work ... but if you have access to a private space for Teams meetings that might help on your end with the noise. If you suggest what you can do while also suggesting what she can do, it may go over better. OTOH maybe you can use this to convince your supervisor to let you go back to full on remote work ;)

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CorinaCorinaCorina − When you wear noise-cancelling headphones it’s really hard to gauge your own actual volume. I wear mine a little off my ears or turn the noise cancelling feature off so I can actually hear myself, which helps me to speak at a much lower volume. My fiancé and I used to share a home office and we were both shocked by how loud AF we were unintentionally.

Electrical_Sky5833 − NTA. Even if you were being loud they should have waited until after the call, or sent you a message.

These hot takes spark debate, but do they miss the memo? Was the coworker tactless, or was the woman too sensitive?

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This office dust-up shows how fast a small interruption can rattle a workday. The woman’s humiliation and her coworker’s bluntness raise questions about timing and tact in shared spaces. What would you do if a colleague called you out mid-task? Drop your stories in the comments—let’s hash out this cubicle kerfuffle!

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