She Thought She Was His Only Girlfriend, Until He Dropped A Bombshell About His ‘Open Relationship’ After Six Months

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We all know that moment when a casual romance begins to feel beautifully permanent. For one twenty-three-year-old woman, six months of late-night chats, shared dreams, and future travel plans felt like the building blocks of a real, exclusive future. She was dating a busy medical student who seemed completely devoted, despite his hectic schedule.

He painted a picture of a single man ready to build a life with her, even laughing off her jokes about hidden partners. But the illusion shattered with a single, ominous text message that turned her romantic daydream into an absolute nightmare of deception.

She was about to find out she was caught in a web of lies that stretched far beyond what she could have ever anticipated. Curious how it all unfolded? Find out how she handled this shocking relationship drama in the original story below.

She Thought She Was His Only Girlfriend, Until He Dropped A Bombshell About His 'Open Relationship' After Six Months

I found out my boyfriend was in a long term open relationship after 6 months of dating

The abrupt shift from a cozy, evolving romance to a clinical confession sets a chilling tone for what was supposed to be a normal day. After months of building what felt like a genuine connection, the sudden revelation of a hidden partner completely shattered her sense of security.

So my (ex) boyfriend, 28M of 1.5 weeks, texted me, 23F, that he had something important to tell me.

He said he was typing it out, but we could call after.

Obviously, I called him immediately.

He proceeded to tell me he’s in a long-distance open relationship.

I’m in shock.

We have been seeing each other for six months and, although it started out casual, things had been heating up gradually for quite a while.

He often said things to me that implied he saw a future with me, and even brought me back a souvenir from an international trip.

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Naturally, I started to develop some feelings, and I believe he was as well.

We started dancing around the topic of making things more serious, and he even suggested I visit him while he was out of state this summer.

At one point, I told him I hadn’t been in a relationship in a long time, and he said he hadn’t either—that his last one had ended when he started...

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It is a classic misdirection: using an incredibly demanding medical career path as a perfect shield to mask a double life. She assumed his constant unavailability was due to his intense studies, never suspecting he was dividing his time with another woman.

For a bit more context, he is a med student studying to be a surgeon, so he’s very busy.

I had thought he couldn’t possibly have time to be seeing anyone else because of this.

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Turns out I was the other woman...

I asked him once what his red flags were.

No mention of the girlfriend.

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He asked me once what was the worst thing he could say to me (or something along those lines).

I said, "I don’t know, probably that you have a girlfriend, haha." Somehow, he didn’t see this as an opportunity to come clean and continued to waste my time for...

Genuinely, the last thing I would ever want to be is the tool some guy uses to hurt another woman (although allegedly she knew, which is sickening).

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The whole concept of ethical non-monogamy is that everyone is consenting to the arrangement.

I was never given the opportunity to agree to be a part of their open relationship.

I feel like I’ve been tricked.

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When we talked on the phone, he told me he’s been selfish and that he got caught up in everything.

What a lame excuse.

Anyone with any maturity and empathy would have told me about their relationship immediately on the first date.

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I feel so violated and disrespected.

Sometimes, the absolute worst truth provides the exact catalyst needed to release ourselves from a path we never truly wanted to walk. Despite the pain of the deception, she found an unexpected silver lining in finally being free from a relationship that wasn’t right for her.

My first question upon finding out was whether he had been having sex with both of us all this time.

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He said no, but I have a hard time believing anything he has said to me.

This happened about five hours ago, and I’ve yelled, vented, and cried.

But to be completely honest, I feel kind of free.

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Deep down, I never really wanted to be a surgeon's girlfriend.

This is genuinely the craziest thing that has ever happened to me.

I have been loving 'Two Hot Takes' lately because I enjoyed the drama.

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Now I feel like I’m living my own real-life Reddit story, so of course I had to share.

Thanks for reading.

UPDATE: I went to look at his Instagram to search for the girlfriend, and I have been blocked.

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It appears that this poor woman is unknowingly dating a cheater.

And after specifically saying I would never want to be the person someone uses to hurt another woman, he made me exactly that.

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I genuinely feel sad for her, as she has been with him for much longer than I ever was and has no idea who he really is.

At least I have the chance to walk away and move on from the situation.

Someday she will likely become aware of what he has been up to, and that breaks my heart.

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Community Opinions

The Reddit community was absolutely furious on the author's behalf, with almost everyone agreeing that the ex-boyfriend was simply a cheater hiding behind trendy relationship terminology.

u/dasher2581 Unless you've actually spoken to the girlfriend, there's no reason to believe that she thinks they have an open relationship. Odds are good that he was cheating on her,...

u/Party-Giraffe-6573 Did you say 1.5 weeks? Typing this post took longer than your relationship lasted

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u/r0tted1 I’m so sorry OP, he’s a piece of garbage. And the text you sent is hilarious 😭

u/Comprehensive-Bet288 Op, if he told you he's being selfish and, got caught up with everything?? It kinfa sounds like his gf/wifey doesnt know about the "open" relationship.. Be free Op....

u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Another example on why open relationships are just pure toxicity

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u/YardNo5596 Its not open if not everyone in the relationship is aware its open. Thats just called lying.

u/JoeyLee911 It's not easy to be so shady in an open relationship, yet this man found a way. Good riddance.

u/davidg4781 Damn. That text kind of hit home. Sorry you’re going through that.

u/Worth_Kangaroo_6900 What a d***. He wasn’t in an open relationship, he was cheating unless all partners are clear and consenting. Even the parameters of what’s involved needs to be clear....

u/This_Song_984 Yo go get tested. No telling if you aren't girl number 6 on a list of 10. Sorry this happened to you.

u/pre_madonna You need to tell her. I guarantee their relationship wasn’t open.

u/torchnado A surgeon having time for not one but TWO relationships is wild 😭😭

u/SurroundQuirky8613 He’s just a cheater. It’s unlikely his other relationship is open. People in open relationships typically communicate that they are in open relationships. Only cheaters hide other partners.

u/lolalovehoney Be glad you only put in six months, block, delete and move on

u/SuperNotes920 Deff give the ‘gf’ a heads up, as I wouldn’t be surprised her knowing is another lie

While the vast majority applauded her swift decision to walk away, a few commenters urged her to find a way to let the unsuspecting girlfriend know the truth.

Discovering that a promising relationship is built on a foundation of lies is always a bitter pill to swallow. While the original poster found a sense of relief and liberation in walking away, the lingering concern for the other unsuspecting woman remains a heavy burden.

Navigating the messy boundaries of modern dating requires a sharp eye for red flags and an unwavering commitment to one’s own self-worth. Do you believe the original poster has an obligation to track down the girlfriend and tell her the truth, or is it better for her to just stay blocked and move on completely? And how would you handle discovering your partner’s secret double life? Share your hot take below!

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