She Cut Off Her Parents After They Asked Her to Abort Her Baby to Keep Paying Their Mortgage

We all know that moment when a massive, suffocating weight is finally lifted off your chest. For one expectant mother, that relief only came after making the hardest choice imaginable: cutting ties with her entire family. She thought her financial help was just a temporary fix for her parents’ struggles. She was wrong.

Instead, it became an expected monthly salary—one they were willing to protect at any cost. When she announced her pregnancy, her parents didn’t offer congratulations; they suggested she terminate the pregnancy so she wouldn’t have to lower her financial contributions to them. Curious how this jaw-dropping family drama unfolded? The full story is right below.

She Cut Off Her Parents After They Asked Her to Abort Her Baby to Keep Paying Their Mortgage

Update: Parents asked me to terminate my pregnancy to continue funding their lives

The trap of family obligation rarely snaps shut all at once; it usually begins with small favors.

Many thanks to this community that gave me so much support and advice when I posted a few months ago.

Long story short: For the last few years, I slowly ended up covering my parents' bills and mortgage while they funded my brother's lifestyle.

A single, unthinkable demand permanently shattered the illusion of parental love.

When I discovered I was pregnant, my parents suggested I have an abortion because a baby meant I'd need to lower my financial commitment to them.

I went no contact immediately.

And I'm still no contact with my parents, my brother, and a chunk of the family that took their side at first before finding out the real story of what...

Honestly, it feels like a huge weight is off my shoulders.

I've even worked with my doctor to slowly come off Zoloft for my anxiety now that my main source of anxiety is gone.

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For years, too much of my mental energy was hyper-focused on struggling to cope with my bills, their bills, and worrying if my savings account had enough in it to...

From what I've heard from my cousin and aunt, they turned on my brother and told him he needed to get a job and start paying rent.

He got mad and moved out, which was really just him staying on his friend's couch.

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After a month of mooching off his friend, he got kicked out there and returned home.

Still jobless and not paying rent, apparently.

Oh, and the kicker? They tried convincing my aunt to tell me my father had a heart attack (he didn't), so I'd get back in touch so they could try...

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I can't believe I was once so desperate for these people's love.

Lots of people told my parents to sell the house, pay off the second mortgage they took out, and downsize.

They refused, and the bank has started the foreclosure process.

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Family refuses to help them because they saw how the occasional help from me ultimately turned into a monthly obligation, and they don't want to fall into that trap.

I honestly don't know what they'll do, but I keep telling myself that they are three adults capable of sorting themselves out or dealing with the consequences of refusing to...

And my child will never know the people who wanted them aborted because they were in the way of free cash.

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My husband and I are enjoying the last few weeks of being a duo and looking forward to our next chapter.

To truly grasp how a parent could prioritize a mortgage over their grandchild, we have to look at the psychology of financial enmeshment. When familial boundaries dissolve entirely, children are often forced into adult caregiving roles, fundamentally altering the family structure. According to research in the field of financial therapy, financial enmeshment occurs when parents inappropriately involve their children in adult financial matters, which can severely impact the child’s emotional development and create lifelong anxiety.

In this story, the parents didn’t just ask for a temporary loan; they viewed their daughter as a permanent financial utility. Her money was treated as their money, and her pregnancy was viewed as a threat to their survival rather than a joyful milestone. This level of coercive control strips the adult child of their autonomy, replacing healthy parental love with transactional demands.

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For anyone caught in a similar dynamic, the most effective step is establishing rigid boundaries. You might need to freeze your credit, block communication, or seek professional therapy to untangle the guilt associated with saying no. It is perfectly acceptable to prioritize your own nuclear family’s stability over funding the irresponsible choices of capable adults.

Community Opinions

Reddit was uniformly horrified by the parents' audacity and fiercely cheered OP's newfound freedom.

u/DepressedMaelstrom
"...they are three adults (???) capable (???) of sorting themselves out...". 
That's very generous of you. 

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u/WarDog1983
You have to move and not share your location
Once they are homeless they will try to live in with youb

u/Special_Respond7372
As a mom, I cannot fathom taking advantage of my child like that.
I’m so glad you went NC.
Congratulations on your baby!!

u/MysticMoonlighter
They will be on your doorstep asking to move in, hope you have caneras!

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u/opal_m00n I’m so happy for you. Congratulations on the baby and on the new found independence from your toxic/abusive family members. With your LO on the way and them about...

u/Loud_Ad_4515
I'm so glad some family members saw the truth and support you now.
That doesn't always happen.
I can only hope my extended family members eventually come around.

u/Sufficient-Split5214 For the love of everything holy, don't let them move in with you when they lose their own home. I'm surprised your DH allowed you to keep funding them...

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u/mechamangamonkey
My jaw dropped when I read this.
Good on you for cutting these people off, OP.
Wishing you the best!

u/Konouchii OP anytime you feel a shred of guilt tell yourself this; "I'm protecting my peace for myself and for my child"  Your defenseless little one is more important than...

u/thatsnewstome_ Congratulations on the pregnancy and NC! A lot of your story sounds very familiar to me. My parents also finance my grown brother‘s life style and my mother tried...

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u/fbrumback
They always show their true colors eventually. Enjoy it. And congratulations on this new chapter!

u/MaggieJaneRiot
Thank GOD you did the right thing! They are greedy monsters!

u/Horror_Drop5043
You’re married!!?! Your husband must be overjoyed that you’re building your own family now.
I’m so proud of you!!!!!

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u/Unusual_Composer_347 Your statement is profound: "I can't believe I was once so desperate for these people's love"- Write it on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror...

u/arethainparis
Congratulations!! And congratulations to forthcoming baby on having such brave, good parents!! Hope the remaining days of your pregnancy are as comfortable and happy as is possible (😉)!

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A few commenters offered sobering warnings, urging OP to invest in security cameras for when the impending foreclosure finally hits.

It takes immense strength to walk away from the people who raised you, especially when they resort to fabricating medical emergencies just to reopen your wallet. OP’s decision to break the cycle of financial abuse ensures her own child will never have to carry that same unnatural burden.

Do you think the parents will ever take responsibility for their financial collapse, or will they always blame their daughter? And how would you have reacted if your family faked a heart attack just to ask for money? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!

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