He Was Exiled for Hooking Up With His Brother’s Girlfriend, Now They Want His DNA

We all know that moment when the ghosts of our past finally seem laid to rest. For one estranged brother, moving on from a devastating family fracture meant building an entirely new life from scratch. But out of nowhere, an olive branch was extended—with an incredibly disturbing, biological catch attached. Curious how this family reconciliation attempt unfolded? Dive into the original story below!

He Was Exiled for Hooking Up With His Brother's Girlfriend, Now They Want His DNA

AITAH For Not Wanting To Give My DNA In Order To Try And Reconcile With My Brother?

I (35m) spoke directly to my brother "James" (37m) for the first time in over 15 years. It was completely my fault. I was a jealous and insecure young man...

We did it once, and one of the main reasons why it was only once was because we got caught. James was rightfully upset and understandably had an aggressive response....

I was kicked out and scolded by the family (both extended and immediate), and James cut me out of my life. Over the years, I was able to regain some...

I made a new life for myself while traveling, getting a college-level education, and starting my own small but successful business. I tried the whole romance thing but have since...

I did end up getting the snip, and in 2020-2021 I entered an exclusive arrangement with a friend, "Tanya" (36f), and she ended up getting pregnant. Turns out the damn...

My parents are aware of Emily and have met her a few times, but have always kept their distance because of James. My sister, on the other hand, has made...

The irony of the situation was staggering—the ultimate betrayal was now being requested as a transactional favor.

I gave up years ago about ever seeing or speaking to James again, so I was surprised when he reached out to me on social media. He asked if Emily...

My parents later reached out to me and asked me to come see them at their house. I came and was surprised to see both James and Alice there waiting...

However, for the past few years they've been trying to have kids, and it turns out that James can't have biological kids (don't know all the details and I didn't...

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My brother told me that he's willing to finally forgive me and accept me back into his life if I make a "donation" to help him start a family. My...

It's true that I won't be responsible for any potential child that may come of this, but I just feel too weird about the situation. Honestly, I've learned some things...

I don't fault my parents for kicking me out as I did do a pretty s*** thing and just stayed with a friend. My sister was still dependent on our...

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It took a while to realize it, but there was a bit of a "Golden Child" syndrome situation with my parents and my brother. He was the first son and...

What began as a tale of one man’s youthful mistake rapidly unraveled into a deeply orchestrated web of mutual vengeance.

First things first, I ultimately decided that I wasn't going to give my brother and his wife my swimmers. I asked them and my parents to respect my decision, but...

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" What I didn't predict was the answer I got as to WHY James decided to forgive Alice but not me. Turns out, James cheated first. Twice. One of the...

Alice forgave James the first time, but when he slept with her enemy, she made a conscious effort to get revenge by sleeping with me. I said it before, but...

James caught us because Alice had planned for him to. They did break up; however, after a while they realized that they still felt something for each other and agreed...

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James knew that the only way to keep that agreement was if our parents kept as little contact with me as possible, so he guilt-tripped them into complying, which is...

My parents were right that I didn't HAVE to take Alice's bait. I just didn't like how James, Alice, and I all did selfish and hurtful things, yet I was...

I still refused and admitted that I think they'd make terrible parents. My sister is the only one who's been on my side and called out Alice and James on...

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There's always been a small part of me that wished I could be forgiven and see my parents on the holidays again, but after all this, I feel like I'm...

The toxic dynamic at play here isn’t just an isolated family drama; it represents a disturbing pattern of sibling estrangement fueled by childhood favoritism that spills into adulthood. A primary driver of this emotional distancing is often differential treatment, such as perceived favoritism by parents, which breeds lifelong resentment. We see this textbook entitlement in James, who fundamentally believes he is owed his brother’s biology as compensation for past wrongs.

Furthermore, estrangement researchers point out that family cut-offs rarely stay localized and often metastasize as other relatives are forced to choose sides. In this case, the parents actively enabled the golden child’s manipulative ultimatums at the expense of their other son and innocent granddaughter. OP’s best course of action is to maintain his firm boundaries and prioritize the healthy environment he has already built for his daughter. Consider setting clear limits with relatives who enable toxic behavior, and focus on nurturing relationships that bring mutual respect.

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Navigating a toxic family relationship is never easy, especially when past mistakes are used as leverage for deeply uncomfortable requests. Do you think the brother was justified in protecting his peace and refusing the donation, or should he have considered his parents’ perspective? And how would you handle a sibling demanding such a profoundly personal favor after years of exile? Share your thoughts below!

Community Opinions

The Reddit community was absolutely stunned by the audacity of the request, overwhelmingly siding with the original poster while tearing into the deeply dysfunctional family dynamics.

u/LiminalAsylum This is messy, but I admittedly do find it funny these two are putting so much pressure on a guy who's barely even comfortable typing the word sperm Not...

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u/zombiebatman Didn't see it mentioned, but if OP did give his sperm to his brother, there is almost no chance that the brother wouldn't resent the kid. That he chose...

u/ColleenOS People are asking how op knows his brother and wife will be bad parents? They wife cheated with the brother so she could get revenge. The brother treats sperm...

u/JJOkayOkay The only reason James was considering "forgiveness" was because he wanted something from OOP. Otherwise, he would never have spoken to OOP again. It's not as bad as needing...

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u/CummingInTheNile
The farther away OOP gets from his toxic brother the better

u/Vivid_Fan9346 Given James's political leanings and the fact his parents are siding with him on the whole saga, I suspect there may be other reasons the parents are keeping OOP...

u/LadyReika I remember the original post, and did feel bad for OOP because while what he did was super s*** and shouldn't I have done it, I get why he...

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u/CaptDeliciousPants
As controversial as it may be to say, sometimes infertility can seem like divine intervention

u/Silent_Ad_8672 Normally I'm kind of uncomfortable with this level of mess but for some reason this one is just "I can't look away" levels of train wreck, but without the...

u/RCKJD If I were him, I’d tell them “I’d think about it”. And while thinking about it I’d get a second vasectomy, since the first one was botched (more likely...

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u/KowaiSentaiYokaiger
"You slept with my girlfriend.
If you want me to forgive you, you need to knock up my wife"
WTF is this family?

u/MadamKitsune
No Contact - Scorched Earth Edition:
"Sorry, I already made my one time donation to Alice."

u/SalaudChaud Prodigal son - cast out of his childhood home, but got educated, therapied into self-awareness, and is blessed with the Ian Thorpe of jizz. The Great Escape of biological...

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u/Nofuxkgiven "But I wouldn't say she's worse than James or me. We all did messed up and hurtful things for different reasons." That answer didn't change one bit. Extremely difficult...

u/PrincessCG
I feel bad for Emily for being biologically tied to these people.
Ew.
Alice and James can go pound sand.

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A few commenters even pointed out the dark humor in the situation, noting the sheer irony of the "golden child" demanding biological material from the very brother he exiled.

It is clear that some family bridges are simply too warped to rebuild, especially when the price of admission is a piece of your literal biology. The revelation of the wife’s revenge plot and the brother’s own infidelities only cemented what many readers already felt: walking away and keeping strict boundaries was the only sane option.

Do you think OP was right to keep his distance, or did the family’s desperation warrant a conversation? And how would you react if an estranged relative suddenly demanded such a monumental, life-altering favor? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!

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