Boyfriend Promises Expensive Birthday Gift, Then ‘Forgets’ His Wallet and Demands the Credit

One devoted girlfriend thought her partner’s financial success meant a dream birthday gift, but a forgotten wallet quickly turned a sweet gesture into a $300 burden. She had spent years crafting thoughtful, handmade presents while they navigated life on tight budgets.

When he landed a lucrative new job, he insisted on treating her to a luxury birthday bracelet she had always coveted. The stage was set for a romantic milestone, but an empty Venmo promise changed everything. As the truth slipped out at a party, the situation exploded. Curious how it all unfolded? Dive into the original story below!

Boyfriend Promises Expensive Birthday Gift, Then 'Forgets' His Wallet and Demands the Credit

AIO about my partners “gift”?

The relationship was built on a foundation of mutual understanding and heartfelt, low-cost gestures during leaner times.

So for context, I (26f) and my partner (27m) have been together for over 2 years. We both come from low income households and understand that money is not always...

Now, my partner got a new job about 9 months ago, making substantially more money than he ever has in his life. When he got the job, his birthday just...

Once he found out the salary for his new job, he started making a promise to me (almost daily) that he was going to buy me this specific bracelet that...

What was supposed to be a grand romantic gesture suddenly shifted into a surprisingly expensive personal purchase.

Fast forward to 3 weeks ago when it was my birthday. He took me to the store and told me he was going to buy me that bracelet. I was...

I went to put the bracelet back and he says, "Oh, I'll just Venmo you the money. " Ok, no big deal. So I buy the bracelet. Fast forward 2...

" And I said, "Thank you! I got it for myself at X store. " Well, my partner heard that, and immediately said, "No babe, remember, I got that for...

We get back to my home later that evening, after some drinking, and he starts going off on me about the bracelet comment. And I said, "Babe, I used my...

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He still hasn’t sent me money for the bracelet, which btw I really didn’t have $300 to throw away on a bracelet. So now I'm $300 short and I want...

Updates

UPDATE: so we talked late last night, I could tell he was drinking. He admitted that he wanted me to prove that I could “hold my own” and not “rely...

” He hung up and I didn’t call back. Its the next day and I’m not initiating anything. If he wants to talk he can initiate. Next conversation is a...

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Financial deception isn’t always about secret bank accounts or gambling debts; sometimes, it’s about weaponizing a promised gift for personal credit without footing the bill. This dynamic taps into a broader cultural issue known as financial infidelity.

In this case, the boyfriend’s refusal to pay for the bracelet—while aggressively claiming credit for it—signals a severe breach of trust and an attempt to control the narrative. The emotional toll of being manipulated over a broken promise can completely erode a couple’s foundation.

For the original poster, the best path forward is to set a hard boundary. If she cannot afford the bracelet, returning it might be the safest short-term financial move. More importantly, she needs to evaluate whether a partner who leverages a fake financial gift for public praise is capable of building a secure, honest future.

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Do you think the boyfriend was testing her financial independence, or was he just trying to get credit for a gift he didn’t buy? And should she return the bracelet to recoup her losses? Share your thoughts below!

Community Opinions

Reddit came in hot—nearly unanimous in their verdict, with a vocal majority urging the girlfriend to drop the dead weight immediately.

u/Beautiful_Arm8364 Ungrateful? For what, exactly? His broken promise? His utter failure to follow through on things he says he'll do? On paying a debt he owes? Yeah ... you're right...

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u/Best_Talk_6853 He wants to seem like a big man without actually doing anything. And forgot his wallet?!? Come on, he's lying. I'd dump him, bc he's untrustworthy, a braggart, a...

u/sourcematerialx “I forgot my wallet babe” Oh but you have your phone on you right? Apple Pay works too. “I forgot my phone babe” Then what is that in your...

u/Sammiesam123988
Yea thats not acceptable putting you out 300 bucks and then wanting to claim he bought it for you.
Purely for show, id break up

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u/savage_blue_isaac Nor. Dump him. What are you being ungrateful for? The ride to the mall to buy your own birthday present? I would ve petty and send a venmo request...

u/notjomama5734 Nor if he didn't want to have his feelings hurt he should have sent you the money or "remembered" his wallet. That seriously sounds intentional. Did you bring it...

u/1stJensterGeek I wouldve waited for the money before buying it tbh. Tell him you need the money or youll have to take back the bracelet because you didnt get a...

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u/Salty-Coast5338 Wait, so he took you to the store SPECIFICALLY to buy you this bracelet as a gift and j happened to "forget" his wallet? That's crazy. He obviously thinks...

u/abolitonbb Idk if you can still return it, but if you can, and you can't afford it right now- do it. If you keep it, it's better that he didn't...

u/Obvious_Hope_1704 Okay, look, as a man who also moved up and wants to constantly buy my partner expensive and nice stuff with a pay jump, i can get wanting to...

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u/funnyboneyoyo NTA. This guy is not it. The fact that you said something in front of your friends and he didn't immediately apologize and venmo you shows that he did...

u/cherryinacup
This is the dumbest thing ever lmaooo girl dump him what

u/speedkillz23
Deadass don't know how he can turn that on you at all.

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u/Snoo_6537 He probably did that hands around your waist from behind you thing while you swiped your card too. It's the signature "forgot my wallet" move. NOR, but I'd (sadly)...

u/ScoutBunny Money changes people. He didn't forget his wallet, and he never intended to pay you back. But since you went to the jewelry store together, maybe he thinks you...

A few pragmatic readers reminded her that while the relationship might be a lost cause, recouping her $300 by returning the jewelry should be her top priority.

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This story is a glaring reminder that true generosity doesn’t come with strings attached or a fabricated “forgotten wallet” excuse. When someone shows you how they handle financial commitments, it’s usually best to believe them the first time.

Do you think the boyfriend planned to avoid paying all along, or did he genuinely just panic when the bill came due? And if you were in her shoes, would you return the luxury gift or keep it as a breakup present to yourself? Share your hot take below!

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