AITA for using the bathroom at work?

A 25-year-old temporary employee working at a city parking authority office recently found herself questioning something she thought was perfectly normal: using the bathroom at work. While juggling her duties selling parking permits, she also manages IBS, a medical condition that sometimes requires frequent restroom visits. For her, stepping away occasionally is simply part of getting through the workday.

However, things became uncomfortable when one coworker began paying close attention to how often she used the restroom. After drawing her own conclusions, the coworker confronted her and called the habit “gross.” Soon the comment spread to a couple of other colleagues, leaving the employee feeling unexpectedly judged. With a workplace full of opinions suddenly weighing in, she began to wonder if her routine was truly unusual—or if her coworkers were the ones crossing the line.

‘AITA for using the bathroom at work?’

The situation began with a temporary employee explaining her daily work routine and medical condition.

So I (25F) work as a temp at my city's parking authority office, selling parking permits to people. Not really relevant but I thought people might be curious. I also...

So TMI warning, I guess, but everybody poops. So I have to use the bathroom a couple of times a day, and yes, it's number 2. I come into work...

She then described how her schedule already limits bathroom use during work hours.

I then spend half of my lunch break, which is only thirty minutes, in the bathroom, and usually go again about two hours before clocking in. Now, mind you, only...

I can't afford to be precious about where I use the bathroom. If I were the kind of person who could only use my own bathroom at home, I would...

The tension started after a coworker began judging her bathroom habits and discussing them with others.

Well, the other day a coworker of mine noticed how often I use the bathroom, and how long I spend in there, and put two and two together that I'm...

Not that it's anyone's business, but she came up to me and told me it was gross to be pooping at work. This isn't about taking too long, or using...

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There's five individual bathrooms (one designated for men, one designated for women, three gender neutral) and usually no more than two at a time are occupied.

So my using the bathroom barely affects anyone else except for the five to fifteen minutes total I spend in the bathroom during the work day.

I also have coworkers who spend an extra twenty minutes on their lunch breaks and take frequent smoke breaks throughout the day, but because I happen to be performing a...

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I fully discounted this lady until he mentioned it to two other coworkers who were both equally judgy. I felt relatively comfortable in the stance that it's normal to poop...

I don't know if it's a generational thing (everyone else is at least 40? Does that matter at all?) but I need to know: whether or not you personally feel...

Workplace etiquette often intersects with personal health needs, which can create awkward situations when colleagues misunderstand or judge someone’s circumstances. In this situation, the employee describes living with IBS, a digestive condition that can require frequent restroom access. Managing such conditions at work is common, and most workplaces are expected to provide reasonable accommodation for employees dealing with medical needs.

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The disagreement largely stems from social discomfort rather than a workplace rule. Some people feel uneasy discussing bodily functions in professional settings, which can make situations like this feel awkward. What stands out in this case is that the coworker chose to comment on, and later share, observations about another person’s restroom use. That behavior can create an uncomfortable environment and may cross professional boundaries, particularly if it leads to gossip among staff members.

From a broader perspective, workplaces function best when colleagues respect privacy and recognize that health conditions vary widely. The poster attempted to minimize disruption by using personal time and limiting breaks during work hours. A balanced approach usually involves communication and discretion. While the coworker may have felt uncomfortable, the responsibility to maintain a respectful environment applies to everyone in the office, especially when personal health issues are involved.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Many users supported the poster, arguing that using a restroom at work is completely normal.

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pottersquash − As a former litigation lawyer my mouth is salivating a lil. .. diagnosed IBS. ...co-workers being hostile. ...have. ...have you reported these feelings to HR?

Maybe start dairying how it feels to have your medicial condition mocked and discounted by co-workers? You see a therapist. ...maybe chat bout this a lil? ??? NTA.

No-Mouse-262 − NTA. That's what bathrooms are for. The f__k is wrong with these people

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Mysterious_Luck4674 − The only gross this about this is your coworker who feels the need to consider what you are doing in the bathroom, to comment on it, and to...

You have a medical condition. It’s completely wrong for your AH coworker to comment on it whatsoever. If it bothers you loop in HR who should set your worker straight.

No-Oil74 − Please report this person to HR immediately! It is HUGELY inappropriate to clock someone else's bathroom habits,

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commment and judge them on it to them and then SPREAD IT AROUND THE OFFICE? You are completely normal and they are judgemental morons. Please go to HR. NTA

RevRos − NTA That is why workplaces have bathrooms - for people to use. Would they rather you used something else and if so, what?

Other commenters offered more balanced takes while still acknowledging the awkward workplace dynamic.

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ShiningAsterism − The boss makes a dollar I make a dime That’s why I poop On company time

sailor_moon_knight − Dear GOD your coworkers need hobbies. NTA

MaeSilver909 − See HR before this goes any further. It sounds like you have special needs, not the pooping, but maybe the time. Which I see these individuals attacking next....

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A few people responded with humor, turning the awkward topic into something lighter.

ViralGreed − As a fellow IBS-haver, I think your coworkers are weird as hell. NTA, but they are. What do they expect you to do?

Leave your intestines at home while you're at work?  Drive far, far away to some sort of CIA Secret Bunker of Shame to poop?

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Time travel to the future when you're at home, poop, then time travel back to finish your shift? Unless you're pooping outside the toilet or not washing your hands, you're...

If they keep it up, start acting like you're super worried that they don't eat enough fiber because that can cause colon cancer or whatever since they don't poop *enough*.

Since you're almost out the door, flip the script for a laugh to keep your spirits up if you need to.

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w-anchor-emoji − NTA I s__t more often at work than I do at home. Why on earth would this be an issue? Your coworkers suck.

This story highlights a surprisingly common workplace dilemma: the clash between normal bodily needs and coworkers’ expectations. The employee believed she was managing her condition responsibly, while a colleague interpreted her bathroom use as inappropriate. What followed was a wave of judgment that left her questioning something most people consider routine.

Situations like this raise interesting questions about privacy and workplace culture. Should coworkers ever comment on another person’s restroom habits? How should workplaces handle health conditions that require frequent breaks? And where should the line be drawn between personal comfort and respecting someone else’s needs?

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