AITA for saying this is disgusting?

A simple household cleaning task turned into an unexpectedly heated debate about hygiene and common sense. While staying at their parents’ home, the poster helped deal with a messy accident when the family dog had diarrhea on the carpet. Their mother grabbed a toothbrush and a bowl filled with water and vinegar to scrub the stain out while the poster helped clean up with paper towels.

The situation seemed unpleasant but manageable—until the next morning. When the poster opened the dishwasher, they discovered something that completely changed their reaction. The same bowl used during the cleanup had been rinsed and placed inside the dishwasher with the family’s regular dishes. Even more surprising, the toothbrush used to scrub the carpet was also in there among the utensils. What followed was a clash of opinions about whether modern dishwashers truly make everything clean.

‘AITA for saying this is disgusting?’

The poster described the moment the messy cleanup began.

I’m staying with my parents and while there our family dog had diarrhea on the downstairs carpet.

My mom used a cleaning toothbrush, rinsing it in a salad bowl of water and vinegar, to brush the material out of the carpet while I helped by wiping with...

The next morning brought an unpleasant surprise in the kitchen.

This left a brownish, s__tty, vinegary liquid in the bowl. The next morning I opened the dishwasher and discovered that she had rinsed the bowl,

and put it in with the other dishes in the dishwasher... to be put back with the other salad bowls that we eat out of. I called her out on...

The disagreement escalated as both sides defended their viewpoint.

She countered that the dishwasher sanitized everything and “if you sent it to a lab it would come back clean” and that I was “being irrational.” Also later I found...

Household hygiene often sparks debates because people have different comfort levels when it comes to cleanliness. From a technical standpoint, modern dishwashers are designed to remove food residue and sanitize dishes using high temperatures and detergents. Many dishwasher cycles reach temperatures capable of reducing bacteria significantly, which is why some people feel comfortable washing heavily soiled items alongside regular dishes.

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However, psychological factors play a large role in how people perceive cleanliness. Even if an object has been sanitized, knowing its previous use can still trigger strong feelings of disgust. This reaction is sometimes referred to as the “contamination effect,” where an item feels permanently tainted because of what it previously touched, even if it has been thoroughly cleaned afterward.

Both viewpoints can coexist. The mother’s argument relies on the technical cleaning ability of a dishwasher, while the poster’s reaction reflects a common emotional response to perceived contamination. In everyday households, people often establish informal rules about what should or should not go into shared cleaning appliances. These norms are shaped less by science and more by personal comfort and social expectations.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Many users sided with the poster, agreeing that the situation sounded unpleasant.

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noshakira − You're not the a__hole, but she's not wrong. I probably wouldn't do it but I've put some n__ty s__t into my dishwasher for the steam sterilization cycle.

jake2188 − I dont think your an a__hole, but I agree with your mother

Jek_Porkinz − Uhh, I mean I generally subscribe to the idea that we are way more germophobic than we need to be.

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But this is pretty gross. I would’ve thrown the s__t salad bowl and toothbrush away, without hesitation. So no you’re not an a__hole.

YouDontKnowMe108 − We count on machines to clean and sanitize for us daily without thought or remorse.

The difference this time is your level of awareness. It's an extreme but I don't think it's a problem. Not an a__hole. Also not right

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SpeedyboyAubameyang − That is f__king disgusting.

Some commenters leaned toward the mother’s reasoning or took a more neutral stance.

[Reddit User] − The dishwasher will take care of it. It’s all good.

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StragglingShadow − NTA. That is gross. But to be fair, I think if it were me Id have tossed the toothbrush and cleaned the bowl with bleach and THEN put...

I mean, the bleach would k__l anything and thats generally how I clean incredibly gross dishes (like tupperware I caught a bug in ir something)

A few users responded with curiosity or humor about the situation.

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wickedplayer494 − Send it to the lab and we'll all find out.

MRherm − It depends whether the bowl and brush were at least rinsed beforehand. If it was, i don't really have a major problem with it.

KnowYourSound − Do people actually think this is disgusting? Do people understand basic chemistry?

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This situation shows how everyday household habits can trigger strong reactions, especially when hygiene is involved. One side trusted the cleaning power of modern appliances, while the other felt uncomfortable reusing items that had been part of such an unpleasant cleanup.

It also raises an interesting question about where people draw the line between practical cleaning and personal comfort. If a dishwasher can technically sanitize something, does its previous use still matter? And would you feel comfortable eating from that bowl again after knowing how it was used?

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