AITA for kicking my bf out after breaking up with me while pregnant?

A 25-year-old woman, seven weeks pregnant, was abruptly broken up with by her live-in boyfriend during a vulnerable moment in her pregnancy. After months of financially and emotionally supporting him, she found herself facing harsh insults and an unexpected split.

The boyfriend had been living rent-free in her home after losing his job, using her car to complete side work while she adjusted her schedule to accommodate him. When he ended the relationship after she declined to drive him late at night while feeling sick, the conflict escalated. She ultimately told him to leave, refunded part of his rent, and questioned whether removing him made her the one in the wrong.

‘AITA for kicking my bf out after breaking up with me while pregnant?’

She supported him after he lost his job and stability.

So this happened 2 nights ago. I (25f) am currently 7 weeks pregnant from my (26m) bf. For context he moved in with me about 5 months ago in May...

When I met him, he was working and had a job and in May that all changed so no job and no car (had to sell). I wanted to be...

He stayed with me for 9 weeks rent free and ended up dropping most of shifts at my work so I could make time for him to do gardening jobs.

Anyway, we had been arguing non stop for a while now and the home did not feel like a home. I sacrificed a lot to make sure he’s okay and...

Every time I would express how I feel he would say “you have no respect for me” or “you’re manipulating me” when I make him accountable for his mistakes.

An argument late at night led to a breakup.

So two nights ago, he wanted to do a job at 9pm to go and pick up some stuff from a job he was doing. I was quite unwell (due...

Now cause he didn’t get what he wants, he comes to the room and says he we need to talk about us, I said okay I’m listening. He proceeds to...

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I was so emotional. Crying and all. I asked him “are you really going to leave me at my lowest when I need you the most” He said “what do...

The next day escalated into hurtful words and evictio

Next day he had jobs to do and he’s been using my car for 5 months when I’m off work to do jobs which I was coming with him 98%...

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Then he got mad and started saying “youre such an immature girl” “you’re a f__king corward” “most manipulative person I’ve met in my life” then proceeded to tell me,

I should “work on my issues before I ever want to date again” asking “you’re the one who wants to bring a child into this world and be a mum?”

And “you grew up without a dad you should know how it feels not to have a dad present” so so many hurtful things.

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He’s like “I’ll text you time to time to see how you’re going with the pregnancy if you choose to keep it” Just unreal the amount of things he was...

I told him you need to leave by tomorrow.  He said “you know I have no money and no where to go and you’re kicking me out”,

I said “you’re leaving me when I need you the most and you’ve been so disrespectful towards me so yes” I sent him a refund of half of the rent...

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I had an ultrasound to go to yesterday and I left him there saying “his friend is coming to pick him up”. Going back home today as I was so...

EDIT: It was an unplanned pregnancy and I’m not planning on keeping it. So I’m the a__hole for kicking him out?

Breakups during pregnancy carry heightened emotional weight. In this case, the conflict unfolded in a context where one partner had been financially and logistically dependent on the other. The woman provided housing, transportation, and schedule flexibility after her boyfriend lost employment. That dynamic can easily blur the line between partnership and dependency.

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The immediate trigger appears to be a refusal to drive late at night while feeling physically unwell. His response was to end the relationship and follow it with personal attacks. Once a relationship ends, shared privileges such as housing and car access become complicated. Some may argue that eviction during financial hardship is harsh. Others would note that continuing to provide housing and transportation after being broken up with may create further imbalance and resentment.

From a broader perspective, the key issue revolves around reciprocity and respect. Ending a relationship while expecting continued material support creates tension. Pregnancy adds urgency, but it does not obligate one partner to maintain living arrangements after a breakup, especially if communication has turned hostile. Decisions about housing, transportation, and pregnancy are deeply personal and often shaped by safety, stability, and long-term wellbeing.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Many commenters strongly supported her decision to remove him.

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Kittytigris − He wanted to end things. What does he think you are? His mom? Ending things means all privileges ends. Changed the lock and make sure you have a...

Sea_Firefighter_4598 − NTA, when you get home change the locks.

Beneficial_Breath232 − But think, Do you really want to have a child in that highly volatil environnement, with that personn ? Parenting would be a nightmare. NTA He says "Let's...

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SnooWords4839 − NTA - Consider your future, do you want to be tied to a hobosexual for the next 18 years?

Some focused on the pregnancy and long-term implications.

[Reddit User] − Do you really want to deal with him for the next 18 years?

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lizger59 − Nta I wouldn't keep his child. End it an move on.

[Reddit User] − Honey, honestly. ..just get an a__rtion. No one here wants to come right out and say it so I will. You are too young to tie yourself...

You're 6 weeks compared to lifetime of b__lshit. Jist think about it. Mine was the best thing I decided to do in my life, thus far.

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In my opinion however, you have some time to think about it and weigh your options. Are you financially secure, willing to cut him out? Do you have q support...

A few added blunt or pointed reactions.

ZZartin − So two nights ago, he wanted to do a job at 9pm to go and pick up some stuff from a job he was doing. Is he a...

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C-J-DeC − Don’t stay pregnant, please. That is a disaster. Get rid of this useless b__. Get your car back. Get to work & rebuild your life.

Big-Question3105 − You know you’re NTA! What makes him think you would continue to let him live with you AND use your car when you’re not his girlfriend? !?! That’s...

He’s the immature c__ard, not you. Don’t listen to a word he says. He’s trying to manipulate you into taking care of him even though he won’t take care of...

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This situation reflects how quickly dependency and resentment can unravel a relationship, especially under the pressure of pregnancy and financial stress. Once the breakup happened, expectations around housing and shared resources became a central point of conflict.

Was asking him to leave a reasonable boundary after the relationship ended? Should financial hardship change that decision? And how should someone navigate major life choices when trust and respect have already broken down?

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