AITA for getting a woman blacklisted from babysitting/nannying?

A lesbian couple with three young children (including an autistic 11-year-old) hired a 25-year-old babysitter named Sharon after thorough screening and background checks. She had experience with autistic kids, so they felt confident. They made one clear rule: the children are never allowed in the adults’ private bedroom — a space containing personal items not meant for kids.

Just days into the job, Sharon called in a panic: the 6-year-old had locked the 3-year-old in the bedroom, and the 11-year-old was screaming. When the mom arrived, Sharon was outside alone while the kids were unsupervised inside. She then berated the mom about their “lifestyle” after peeking into the room, implying it proved her initial skepticism about two moms was correct. Nanny cam footage later showed Sharon lounging on the couch under a blanket while the children wandered off. The couple reported the neglect, leading to Sharon being blacklisted from babysitting/nannying. Now they’re receiving backlash for “ruining a good Christian woman’s life.” Did they go too far?

‘AITA for getting a woman blacklisted from babysitting/nannying?’

The family carefully vetted and hired Sharon after their previous sitter changed careers:

On the second day, chaos unfolded:

Nanny cam footage revealed the full neglect:

Childcare professionals are held to a high standard of supervision, especially with young and neurodivergent children. Leaving kids unsupervised — even briefly — while relaxing on the couch under a blanket is clear neglect, regardless of personal beliefs. The fact that she couldn’t (or didn’t) immediately resolve a simple button lock on a door she knew the children were not supposed to access only compounds the failure.

Her subsequent judgment of the family’s “lifestyle” after peeking into a private space she was explicitly barred from entering is both a breach of trust and unprofessional. Babysitters are not hired to moralize or police parents’ private lives; they are hired to keep children safe.

Reporting verifiable neglect via nanny cam footage is not “ruining someone’s life” — it is protecting other families from hiring someone who has already demonstrated incompetence and bias. Professional licensing boards, agencies, and background services exist precisely for situations like this.

The backlash (“good Christian woman”) often stems from discomfort with accountability when the person holds socially favored beliefs. But being religious does not exempt anyone from basic job performance or from consequences for negligence. The couple acted responsibly to safeguard their children and warn others. That’s not revenge; it’s due diligence.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

The Reddit community responded overwhelmingly in support of the poster — almost every comment called Sharon negligent, unprofessional, and judgmental, with strong NTA verdicts.

Most people focused on the core failure: Sharon did not supervise the children properly, which is the literal job she was hired to do:

Many highlighted the hypocrisy and irrelevance of the “good Christian” defense:

A few pointed out the seriousness of the neglect, especially with an autistic child in the mix:

This incident shows how quickly a childcare situation can turn dangerous when supervision fails — especially with young children and an autistic 11-year-old who may need closer monitoring. Sharon’s decision to relax on the couch instead of keeping eyes on the kids, combined with her inability (or unwillingness) to resolve a simple lock, put the children at real risk. Her subsequent moral judgment of the family’s private life only made her unprofessionalism worse.

Reporting clear, documented neglect via nanny cam footage is not revenge — it’s protecting other families and holding someone accountable for failing at their job. The “good Christian woman” defense doesn’t erase negligence or bias. The couple did what responsible parents should do. Do you think the backlash they’re receiving is more about discomfort with same-sex parents, or genuine belief that Sharon was unfairly punished? If you were hiring a sitter, would footage like this make you hesitate to trust her?