AITAH for telling my neighbours that won’t be enjoying the perks that the previous owner of the had?

What happens when a piece of forgotten land suddenly becomes the center of a neighborhood disagreement? For one family, a large unused council reserve next to their new home looked like the perfect play area for their kids.

After years of the space being quietly fenced off by previous owners next door, the arrival of new neighbors sparked instant tension. What one side saw as a long-standing perk quickly turned into a battle over who really gets to enjoy the open land.

‘AITAH for telling my neighbours that won’t be enjoying the perks that the previous owner of the had?’

The story begins with the background of the property purchase and the unusual council reserve.

My wife and I purchased a block of land about three years ago. The land was part of a small acreage that a developer purchased and divided into about 30...

We finished construction, and our family moved into our new house a few months ago. We are one of the last to move in, with only a couple of houses...

Our house is on the corner of the old acreage, on the existing street. There is a council road reserve directly next to us, and then the older existing houses...

Imagine we are number 40, then the road reserve is between us and number 38 which is an older existing house. The council road reserve was a planned road that...

In the initial plans for our development, our block was meant to be a corner block. The road was scraped by the council and it looks like it will never...

The reserve runs adjacent to our property and the two houses behind us, so it is a large space, approximately a half-acre.

The situation escalated when the previous long-term neighbor moved out and the new owners arrived.

A previous owner of number 38, at least two or potentially three owners ago (I know for a fact it wasn’t the owner who just moved out who had been...

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took the liberty of putting a fence across the front of the road reserve and essentially incorporating it into their property. The council is aware of this, but they aren’t...

Also, there is no risk that the owners, previous or current, can claim legal ownership of the land through an adverse possession claim, as in my State, to claim adverse...

You must have used and maintained the land exclusively for at least 30 years, among other requirements. Furthermore, the fact that the council has reserved it for a road trump’s...

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I discovered the neighbour on the other side of the reserve (number 38) was moving out, and after they left, I removed a section of the old post and wire...

It’s a large space with plenty of room to run around, and there is an old tire swing on a tree. When the new owners of number 38 turned up,...

Obviously, they were under the impression that they were getting a 2-for-1 deal on their property. On one occasion, the wife came charging across the reserve to scream at me...

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The original poster explains his reasoning and future intentions clearly.

Obviously, their position is that all the previous owners of their property had exclusive access to the council reserve, and they expected to keep this status quo.

Even questioning why I waited for the previous owner to leave before I started using the reserve. My position is that just because the previous owners of their property (two...

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put a fence across the front of the reserve when they had a farm next to them and nobody cared, does not entitle the owners of their property to exclusive...

When we moved the previous owner of 38 has some chickens ducks and his dogs enclosed on the front section of the reserve, right next to my block.

Now I would never have the audacity to tell someone who was already using the reserve that I’m taking over but as far as I’m concerned as soon as the...

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From my point of view, what happened before either of us lived next to the reserve is irrelevant, we have owned a block adjacent to the reserve longer, we’ve lived...

So they have absolutely no right to try keep my family out. I am aware that neither of us have any legal right to the reserve, and I’m not looking...

I don’t even want to use the entire reserve, just the section next to my property, there is a whole 2/3 of the area behind my property that I’m not...

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It should be noted that because we are one of the last to move in the houses behind us already have Colorbond fences up along the boundary of the reserve...

I’ve decided I’m not putting a fence up for the full length of the boundary, just enough so I can secure my dog in the backyard but the side of...

So, am I the arsehole for not sticking with the status quo and not allowing my new neighbour to have exclusive access to the council reserve?.

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This disagreement centers on a piece of council-owned land that one household treated as private for years. The new owners assumed the extra space came with the property, while the poster saw an opportunity for family use once the previous occupant left. The core issue is mismatched expectations about informal land use and the sudden change in access.

The new neighbors feel cheated because past practices shaped their view of the property. The poster believes historical use by others does not create permanent rights, especially since he started using the space first after the changeover. Frustration grows when both sides view the land as rightfully theirs in practice, even though legally it belongs to neither.

Property and neighbor dispute specialist Dr. Amanda Lennard, from the Australian Property Institute, has stated that “informal arrangements over public land often create strong emotional attachments, but legal title remains with the authority unless formal processes are completed.” This explains why the status quo feels so real to the new owners despite having no enforceable claim.

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Practical steps can prevent escalation. A calm, in-person conversation focusing on shared enjoyment and clear boundaries works best first. If tensions rise, contacting the council for clarification on permitted use offers a neutral path. Simple agreements, like keeping the area family-friendly and avoiding permanent structures, help maintain peace while respecting everyone’s access to the space.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Social media reactions overwhelmingly supported the original poster, agreeing that council land belongs to no private owner and the new neighbors have no special claim.

Most readers firmly defended the right to use the reserve, calling the neighbors’ expectations unreasonable:

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Vivid-Problem7826 − The council made the mistake of allowing a private owner to fence in and use land that they didn't actually own. So, no you're not the AH here.

BulbasaurRanch − NTA Absolutely not, it’s fair game. Her misguided thinking doesn’t matter. She can pound sand, she has absolutely no valid argument here.

lantana98 − You are not in the wrong for using council property as long as they are permitting its use. Your new neighbors were under an incorrect assumption that the...

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Gloomy-Increase-8726 − NTA, and your new neighbor has no reason to expect exclusive use of property that doesn’t belong to them.

ufront − NTA. They don't own it and are assholes to act like they do. Their emotional reactions to you have no legal standing and also do not denote assholehood...

Several suggested practical solutions or ways to formalize the space for broader benefit:

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ForwardPlenty − NTA. I would talk to the council, you should know your representative anyway, and see if they can have it designated as a park or reserve, that would...

You can have fundraisers and talk to local businesses about donating money for playground equipment, benches or a water feature to support local wildlife. This can become a very positive...

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Another alternative is to establish a community garden, with delineated spaces that everyone pays a small sum to reserve. The council can install water and electricity at a couple points...

Acrobatic_Fiction − Don't escalate to the city unless you can't work with your new neighbours. Try to keep it to yourselves, or it may be recognized as public land by...

I would expect neither of you would like that. A lot depends upon the usage the city permits on that land, and what services they are required to provide.

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A few pointed out the timing of the fence removal and shared similar real-life examples:

Ready-Cucumber-8922 − Obviously the neighbour has no more right to the land than you or anyone else but I am curious why you waited until the old neighbour moved out...

It feels like your new neighbour may have been misled about the size of her plot, especially if there are no clear boundaries to her land and the boundaries that...

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The timing of your removing the fence is a little sus and it's presence there before her purchase may have contributed to her being misled.

PlantoneOG − Nta We had a similar situation arise on some property my family owns. There was an easement between our families property and the adjoining property next door.

The easement was owned by the Association as an access point to the lake. Problem is is the access was into a little muddy canal that nobody really used.

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So The Neighbor Next Door at some point decided they were just going to extend the fence across the front of the easement and block off access. That property changed...

Recently a couple of adjoining properties across the road from the blocked off easement changed ownership and those folks wanted their deeded access to the lake like they were promised...

Unfortunately for that next door neighbor- who's only lived there for a couple of years and didn't actually put the fence up- we're forced to give up about a 20...

And since the previous owner never filed for adverse possession claims to try to take over the easement from the association there wasn't a damn thing they could do about...

This situation shows how easily informal habits can feel like permanent rights. When long-standing arrangements change, emotions run high, but legal reality often stays simple: public land stays public.

The story reminds us that clear communication and realistic expectations help neighbors avoid turning small perks into big conflicts. Respecting shared space usually benefits everyone more than claiming exclusive use. Would you start using a forgotten council reserve next to your home, or would you leave things as they were to avoid trouble? How would you handle neighbors who believe they inherited extra land that was never theirs?

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