Aita for telling my parents they suck?

A 23-year-old woman, the youngest of six siblings, recently got engaged to her fiancée. Her wealthy parents previously helped each of her five older siblings buy starter homes on the condition they contribute $10,000. Expecting the same support, she approached them excitedly about house hunting—only to be met with laughter and outright refusal.

What makes the story more complicated is the strong suspicion that her parents’ decision stems from homophobia. She came out as a lesbian at 17, and her father has been distant ever since, while her mother remains somewhat withdrawn. When confronted calmly, they dismissed her feelings and questioned whether they’d even attend the wedding.

‘Aita for telling my parents they suck?’

The woman grew up in a privileged family where parents routinely helped older siblings with home down payments.

Her father’s dismissive reaction left her hurt and confused about the unequal treatment.

A follow-up conversation escalated, leading her to tell them directly that they suck as parents.

In edits and an update, she clarified family wealth and shared her decision to move forward without parental support.

This post exposes painful conditional love within a family, where financial support appears tied to conformity with parental expectations. The parents provided consistent help to heterosexual siblings yet withheld it from their youngest, strongly suggesting disapproval of her same-sex relationship. Calmly raising the inconsistency was reasonable; their refusal to explain and threats about the wedding confirm deeper rejection.

Some might argue parents aren’t obligated to fund adult children equally, especially if they disagree with life choices. However, establishing a clear pattern then abruptly excluding one child—without transparent reasoning—feels discriminatory. The aunt’s attacks reflect flying monkeys defending the status quo.

Broader societal shifts show increasing acceptance of LGBTQ+ relationships, yet some families lag, weaponizing money or presence. The poster’s choice to prioritize her well-being and future wife demonstrates resilience; low or no contact often becomes necessary when acceptance isn’t forthcoming.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Many users strongly supported the poster, emphasizing her parents’ bigotry and validating her emotional outburst.

Several encouraged cutting contact to protect her happiness and future family.

A couple highlighted the absurdity of the “ungrateful” label given the lack of support.

The young woman isn’t the asshole—her parents’ unequal treatment and lack of acceptance justify her frustration and direct words. Losing financial help hurts, but gaining freedom from conditional love allows her to build a joyful life with her fiancée.

Have you dealt with family rejection over your relationship or identity? How did you handle unequal treatment among siblings? Would you maintain contact if parents refused to accept your partner? Share your thoughts and experiences below.