AITA for not letting my daughter use my son’s PS5?

A parent faces backlash after refusing to let their 14-year-old daughter play on the brand-new PS5 bought exclusively for their 17-year-old son. The console was a long-requested Christmas gift for the teen boy, who has no interest in sharing it. The daughter, described as jealous and insistent, demanded access and argued it’s unfair.

The situation escalated when she suggested the family buy her one too, only to learn they can’t afford a second console. Now silent and upset, she views her parents as favoring her brother, while the parent stands firm that personal gifts don’t require sharing, sparking debate over fairness and sibling dynamics.

‘AITA for not letting my daughter use my son’s PS5?’

The Christmas gift sparked immediate excitement for the 17-year-old son who had been asking for a PS5 for months.

For Christmas, I bought a PS5 for my son(17) since he has been asking for one for months. My daughter(14) is always jealous of her brother.

The 14-year-old daughter quickly showed jealousy and demanded access to her brother’s new console.

She is very greedy and always wants what her brother has, in this case, she wants the PS5. She insists we let her use it but I told her no,...

The situation escalated into family conflict when the daughter called the decision unfair and stopped speaking to everyone.

She started nagging saying it's unfair and we should buy a PS5 for her then but we can't afford 2 PS5s so now she won't talk to anyone and thinks...

This family conflict centers on a high-value Christmas gift that highlighted existing sibling tensions and raised questions about parental fairness. The parent chose to respect the son’s ownership and refusal to share, emphasizing that a personal gift shouldn’t come with forced sharing obligations. However, the daughter’s reaction—feeling excluded and labeling the decision unfair—reveals deeper frustrations that many see as signs of unequal treatment over time.

Opposing views focus heavily on the financial reality and long-term patterns. When only one expensive item can be afforded, some argue it should be treated as a shared family resource, especially if both children show interest in gaming. Commenters pointed out that the daughter has previously watched her brother play and expressed desire to join, yet past gifts like a computer also went exclusively to the son. This pattern, combined with the parent’s wording describing the daughter negatively while defending the son’s stance, led many to conclude favoritism is at play, whether intentional or not.

From a broader social perspective, the debate touches on common parenting challenges around equity versus equality in gift-giving. While older teens often receive pricier items matching their interests, critics argue that dismissing a younger sibling’s disappointment as greed overlooks opportunities to encourage sharing and bonding. The intense online backlash reflects growing awareness of how subtle biases can affect family dynamics, often pushing children to feel undervalued and fueling resentment that lasts into adulthood.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Many users sided against the parent, highlighting perceived favoritism and urging better handling of sibling fairness.

Celastr1na − YTA, not least for the way you speak about your daughter. Couldn’t be more clear that your son is your golden child.

She’s 14 years old but she ‘nags’, is ‘very greedy’, and ‘jealous’. Deal with your parenting. It doesn’t feel like much of a stretch to say I expect she keeps...

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and when she expresses her frustration/discontent (which is natural, she’s 14 and seeing unfairness in treatment) you apply these sorts of labels to her. Especially given your update that you...

and bought an expensive console for your son despite the fact your daughter shows an interest in gaming. Even if she just sits and watches her brother play…is she even...

Dazzler3623 − "but we can't afford 2 PS5s" This is where I'd say YTA. If both kids want a PS5 and you can only afford 1, you share it between...

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Fearless_Spring5611 − INFO: Has she ever asked for a PS5 or other gaming console, or shown an interest in gaming before? Or previously used/been allowed to use your son's gaming...

Suspicious-Thanks-82 − YTA- just reading the comments for more info is clear why she is jealous. Old mate got a computer. Sister isn't allowed to use it. Old mate got...

She is called 'greedy' for wanting to share what big brother has, and he is 'allowed' to not want to share. She has an interest in gaming, but because she...

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You didn't think to get one to share? A more than generous joint present. She literally sits and watches him play and never gets invited to use it, and you're...

In what world can you read that and think it's fair? Of course she is going to lash out, she's pissed and hurt he is the clear favourite. Jesus Christ...

Own_Consideration978 − So golden child got a ps5 and he doesn’t want anyone to use it, kwl, understood! What I don’t understand, is why you have a 2nd child after...

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Can’t wait till she is older & I see a Reddit story from her saying golden boy still lives in ur basement while she is out thriving & nc with...

A few commenters sought more details or suggested compromise solutions while acknowledging the complexity.

turquoise_turtle83 − Why can’t they play together or why can’t she play when he doesn’t? I don’t get it. Seems like a perfect opportunity for the siblings to bond together...

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Obviously if she threw stuff through the window or break things it would be different, but to deny her solely based on her desire and wish to be included sounds...

Separate_Kick3186 − "my son is not interested in sharing", "my daughter is very greedy". You should give parenting classes. YTA. All because of the favouritism seeping out of your words.

No-Owl-3397 − Infor: did you spend around the same amount of money for her Christmas presents?

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Others brought humor to lighten the intense discussion around parenting and sibling rivalry.

[Reddit User] − Yikes, YTA just for the wording of the post itself. Why do people who don't want children have children man

arg97 − YTA, why is it unreasonable to ask your kids to share an infinite resource? It she really only wants it because your son has it she should get...

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This story ultimately revolves around a family’s struggle with limited resources, sibling jealousy, and differing views on sharing personal gifts, leaving the daughter feeling sidelined while the parent stands by their decision to honor the son’s ownership. The online reaction largely criticized the approach as showing favoritism, though some recognized the challenge of balancing individual wishes with family harmony.

How would you handle a similar situation with expensive gifts and siblings of different ages? Do you think personal high-value presents should always remain exclusive, or is sharing important when budgets are tight? Share your thoughts and experiences below.

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