AITA For Selling our home, coworker wants it for a steal?

A homeowner casually mentioned selling their house to a friendly coworker, throwing out a rough $300K estimate based on then-current value while building a new home. The coworker got excited, viewed photos, got pre-qualified, and started pressing for viewings – all without any formal agreement.

Months later, with the market surging and new build timeline advancing, the house gained $25K in value. The owner clarified they’d need fair market price for a direct sale – disappointing the coworker who’d latched onto the old figure leaving them feeling awkward about potentially souring the work relationship.

‘AITA For Selling our home, coworker wants it for a steal?’

The casual conversation escalated quickly after the initial mention:

Situation I have a coworker I am friendly with. I mentioned we are building a new home and will be selling ours. She got excited and asked how much for....

She asked to see pictures, so I sent her to Zillow where there were some loaded, plus sent her some of my own. She talked to her husband and they...

I wasn't taking all this too seriously TBH. We are building and the build wasn't scheduled to be done until Nov/Dec. She went forward with a pre-qual to see and...

She started nagging me a bit to see the home. Note she has never been to my house before and is getting excited based on the pictures and the location...

I deferred on showing the home because, frankly, it has a few things we would spruce up or fix and we just weren't there yet. This escalated so fast and...

Market changes forced a direct talk:

Fast forward to now. The new build timeline moved up to Sept/Oct and the housing market has lost its mind. Our home has increased in value by $25K since coworker...

Hubs and I decided I probably need to have a conversation with her about the timeline and the value of the home. I just had a feeling she was latched...

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I asked if they have been watching the housing market and she said no. I told her to google it and our city, so that they would understand what the...

I explained we need to get what we can out of the home and that if they want it, we won't list it and will sell to them in a...

Note that I strongly feel a commitment to the price was never made. She stated she wasn't sure they could afford it. I said I understood and asked her to...

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I told her if they want to see it we are ready to let them come and then we would all sit down with a glass of wine and discuss...

The owner reflected on the unease:

Summary: I am concerned I might be the a__hole for having to realign her expectations on the price of the home. I never committed to a price and we never...

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Truth is, I am actually hoping they can't buy it. Its not a new house by any means and though I feel its a nice home and in good condition,...

No binding agreement existed – casual estimates aren’t contracts, especially without paperwork or deposits. Real estate values fluctuate rapidly in hot markets; sellers aren’t obligated to freeze old guesses. Offering FSBO at current market avoids agent fees (often 5-6%), potentially benefiting both if negotiated fairly.

Direct sales to acquaintances risk post-sale disputes over undisclosed issues, straining relationships. Professional listing protects via disclosures and inspections. Tax implications arise selling below fair market value (gift tax on difference over annual exclusion).

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Realtors advise clear communication early: “Subject to appraisal/market conditions.” Coworker’s disappointment is understandable but not entitlement – pre-qual doesn’t lock prices. Prioritizing max proceeds for new build is prudent financial decision.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reactions centered on NAH/NTA, validating no commitment while warning against friend sales and suggesting full market pursuit:

eaca02124 - NTA, although I understand why the whole thing feels icky, and I get what you're feeling. The place I come down here is that no one ever signed...

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Any mortgage lender is going to insist on a process, including an inspection, and the sale could have fallen apart at any point before closing. She may be new at...

If it does wind up hitting your working relationship, hopefully someone more experienced will set her straight.

idrow1 - NAH - But you're right, it's never a good idea to sell a big ticket item to someone you know. They feel entitled to special consideration right from...

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But stick to your guns on the market price for when you're ready to sell. That's too much money to leave on the table.

EDIT: Holy smokes, Gold! Thank you. Now that we're friends, can I buy your house at a reduced rate?

MB1428 - NTA. ..real estate values are only good for a moment in time. Of course the market value changed and it’s not your fault. Plus if they are going...

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lsp2005 - Nah. I would put the house for sale on the market. She has no special claim to it. If she is the best offer, fantastic, if not, make...

mizzoug15 - NTA but consider how much you'll be paying in commissions if you list it. Might be able to sell to her for less and walk away with more...

JerseyWiseguy - NTA, though I understand your feeling awkward about the situation. I recently had one family member sell a home to another family member, and I helped figure out...

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You need to first come up with a reasonable current value of the home, if it is cleaned up and made presentable for sale. Then you have to figure in...

They vary from area to area, but let's say that a home like yours would sell for about $300K, with a typical 2.5% commission to the selling agent and 2.5%...

That means that if you sell your home normally, for $300K, you're only going to actually get $285K out of it, with the other $15K going to commissions.

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If neither of you has an agent, then you can sell the home for $285K and still make the exact same amount of money. But there are also other factors...

Where I am, in NJ, home sales are typically handled by attorneys, and most attorneys will charge less for a direct sale than for a typical sale involving agents.

So, the seller can sell the home direct, for less money, and still make the same money as a traditional sale, while the buyer can offer to buy the home...

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And then there is all of the time and effort you would have to put into cleaning up and maintaining the cleanliness of the home, while it's up for sale....

Also, if you plan to move into the new home and then sell your hold home once it's empty, then you will spend money on property taxes, repairs, insurance, etc....

If you already have a buyer willing to buy, that will save you money, so you can sell the house for less yet still make the same money.

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So, before you panic about the situation, sit down and really crunch some numbers (if you haven't already done so), and see what kind of price you can really offer...

dinkleberf - NAH but I feel like you're doing a lot to coddle your coworker and almost giving her hope that you guys can come to some sort of deal...

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You're telling her you can sit down and discuss the logistics, but if she doesn't have the money to buy it in this market and you want to sell, unless...

MercuryJosh - NAH. You are doing them a big favour, in a seller’s market. This happened when I was selling my mother’s house after she died.

Someone came to me, saying they really wanted it, I told them that I’d had it valued at some price, and if they’d meet that, I’d let them have it...

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Sounds like you’re in the same situation. And you’re right, if you sold it to people you see regularly, you’re going to hear about it every time a floor creaks...

kelster13 - Stop talking about her coming to look at it and possibly buying it UNTIL YOU GET THE MARKET VALUE ASSESSMENT! ! Stop getting her hopes up until you...

YTA for even entertaining the idea of her buying it and saying $300,000 without talking to your spouse (should have said, I DON'T KNOW YET), without doing your home work,

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without getting the appraisal. ..without THINKING about anything. You "casually" discussed something that to her is very important. Don't do anything/offer to let them see it/quote her another price then...

until you get your s__t together. Sorry, but really? !?

MayfieldMania - NTA, the house was never listed, so a price was never set. she might feel bad about it, but it certainly doesn't make you an a__hole.

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cassowary32 - NAH. But get a realtor and put the house on the market. Can you imagine the next 10 years of your co-worker complaining about the money pit you...

Plus, can you imagine just handing her a $25K check? What if someone offers you even more over asking price? Are you willing to give up $50K for your co-worker?...

Dududidu2 - NAH. I wouldn't be comfortable with FSBO in this situation either. The only thing that I can think of that might help them, if you were so inclined,...

That would decrease the amount of fees that you would owe and in turn make their offer more competitive. We did this in our state but I'm sure every state...

You should consider purchasing a home warranty for a year for whomever buys your house. It's a good way to head off potential problems after the sale (friend or not).

MultiFazed - NAH Her "seeming disappointed" doesn't make her an a__hole. But you're under no obligation to stay at a price that no longer reflects market value. In fact, there...

You'll be on the hook for paying a gift tax (somewhere between 18% and 40%) on the portion of the difference between the sale price and the fair market value...

You can exclude the first $15k of gifts to a single recipient in a single year, so you'd end up owing the gift tax on the remaining $10k.

Turkeybaconisheresy - As someone who just purchased his first home in the midst of this insane market, NAH.

I wont lie, I am a little salty that I had to pay over list but I recognize that is the nature of the market itself not the sellers themselves...

That said, if she can afford 300k then she can probably afford 325k. I'm not trying to be flippant about the 25k price difference but that difference is only going...

That is not nothing but if that is a deal breaker then honestly they should be looking at cheaper houses. She also isn't an a__hole for being disappointed about it.

Monimonika18 - Soooo many N T A comments here without a hint of why the coworker would be TA in this case. #Use NAH if neither the coworker nor OP...

Community largely NAH – casual talk created mismatched expectations in volatile market, but no binding deal means full current value is fair game.

Listing with agent avoids favoritism drama and maximizes proceeds. Ever had a casual convo turn into assumed deal? Would you discount for coworker convenience?

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