AITA for ‘being culturally insensitive’ at work?

A 27-year-old Iranian woman, newly arrived in the US for her medical residency, felt homesick as Nowruz—the Persian New Year—approached. Excited to keep her cultural traditions alive, she set up a traditional Haft-Sin table complete with symbolic items, painted eggs, and live goldfish, while playing festive music to lift her spirits. When she invited coworkers—her only friends so far—to join the celebration, reactions soured.

One accused her of cultural insensitivity for inviting people to an unfamiliar holiday, while another complained about the Persian songs playing in her car during a ride home. Confused and hurt, she wondered if enthusiastically sharing her heritage crossed boundaries in her new environment.

‘AITA for ‘being culturally insensitive’ at work?’

Homesickness prompted the resident to embrace Nowruz traditions fully in her new home.

I (27F) have recently moved to the US. I'm originally from Iran. I was actually born and raised there. I recently started my residency in the US and honestly I...

I used to celebrate with my family and I was kind of feeling a bit homesick this year. So I decided to celebrate the new year the best I could....

getting a few fish (living red fish to put on the table, cooking and painting eggs, and all the stuff that comes with Noruz. I constantly listen to Noruz themed...

Inviting colleagues to join sparked unexpected criticism.

As an inevitable part of the celebration, I asked a few of my friends (my only friends are co-workers at this point) to come over on the day of the...

Some couldn't, some could. One of my colleagues told me that I was being culturally insensitive by inviting people to celebrate something they didn't even know about.

Another said I was being ridiculous by playing these songs in my car (I was dropping him off and he said this right before getting out of the car).

The experience left her questioning her approach to sharing culture.

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I haven't really been around non-Persians around Noruz and I honestly have no idea if I am overstepping people's boundaries. Please tell me if I should change the way I...

This situation underscores the beauty—yet occasional friction—of cultural exchange in diverse workplaces. Sharing personal holidays like Nowruz, an ancient festival marking renewal and spring, represents an open invitation to learn and connect, not imposition. Inviting others to participate fosters understanding, especially for immigrants combating homesickness.

What complicates matters here is the coworkers’ projection of insensitivity onto harmless acts: playing music from one’s heritage in a private car or extending a voluntary invitation. Such complaints often stem from discomfort with unfamiliarity rather than genuine offense, revealing narrow-mindedness on their part.

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In wider society, multicultural environments thrive when people embrace opportunities to experience new traditions. Declining an invitation is fine, but criticizing the host for offering it discourages inclusion. The resident’s enthusiasm deserves celebration, not censure—her actions model the cultural sharing that enriches diverse nations like the US.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Numerous users defended the poster wholeheartedly, arguing her coworkers displayed the real insensitivity by rejecting her cultural sharing.

SociallyAkwardMouse − NTA, if anyone is being culturally insensitive it’s those coworkers of yours that are actively bashing your culture. You’re fine, and I hope you and your friends have...

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Fergus74 − NTA. Here in Italy we call people like them "pigne nel c\*lo" that means "pinecones in the AH", people who try their best to be as unpleasant as...

chicky75 − Soooo NTA. Your co-workers are being ridiculous and culturally insensitive themselves. I’d personally love to be invited by a friend to celebrate a holiday I knew nothing about...

And who cares what you listen to in your car? Why is it weird that you’d listen to music from your own culture? Plenty of Americans listen to Christmas music...

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Whorible_wife69 − So Christian’s can do for Christmas but other religions can’t ? You aren’t being culturally insensitive they are. They’re also being bigots. You need new friends. Happy Noruz!...

KayItaly − NTA at all. Most people would be thrilled to be invited to a "new" (to them) celebration. Also if someone tells you off for the music you liste...

that should be the last time you give them a ride! Let that r__ist a__hole walk themselves home! There is no place in the world where what he said wouldn't...

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A few offered balanced encouragement, stressing the value of sharing traditions while ignoring detractors.

ftsjee − NTA. I have no idea why anyone would think you were being "culturally insensitive". Celebrate what you want, and ignore anyone who tells you not to. You're not...

Fox_Underground − NTA You're not asking them to adopt your beliefs, you're just asking them to come have some fun and share your culture with them.

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I've invited muslim friends over for easter celebrations for instance and there's never been any problems. I'm not going to ask them to say prayers or anything, it's just bbq...

AntiqueThroawaay − NTA. I suspect these people are r__ist, which is sad, because there's no rational reason to call someone culturally insensitive for inviting them over for a celebration or...

IDK where you are-and there are loads of non-Persians who would celebrate Noruz with you-but you may want to look for a local Persian community for support.

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In California, there are ton of people of Persian ancestry (or from Iran) in Los Angeles and Orange County, for example.

Some added enthusiastic support and light-hearted appreciation for learning about Nowruz.

karybrie − NTA. Your coworkers are being narrow-minded and culturally insensitive. I'd celebrate Noruz with you, and this is the first time I'm even hearing about it.

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It isn't even like you're pressuring them to attend – and if you're driving, you get to control the music. If he doesn't like it, he can walk.

_rodent − You may be one of the most NTA posters that I’ve encountered on this sub. I’ve no idea what Noruz is, what’s required and I personally don’t know...

If you invited me to these festivities the cultural insensitivity would come if I didn’t make the effort to learn what it was about in order to celebrate it with...

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The community unanimously agreed the resident did nothing wrong—quite the opposite, her efforts to share Nowruz warmly embodied cultural openness. Negative reactions from coworkers highlighted their own biases more than any fault on her part, reinforcing that joyful traditions deserve space without apology.

Have you ever shared a cultural holiday with coworkers or friends from different backgrounds—what was their reaction? Would you accept an invitation to celebrate Nowruz if offered? Tell us your experiences with cross-cultural celebrations!

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