AITA for putting a camera in my room and changing out the locks?

A 20-year-old woman renting a room in a shared house started noticing her belongings shifted around and mysterious dents on her expensive MacBook. Suspecting foul play, she set up a hidden camera in her own space—and caught something straight out of a nightmare on day one.

The footage showed her landlord’s 45-year-old daughter sneaking in and repeatedly stabbing the laptop with a butter knife. Shaken, she quietly swapped the doorknob for one with a key while no one was home. When confronted, the landlord demanded the key or removal of the lock—and even told her to ditch the camera. After what she witnessed, is she really wrong for standing firm?

‘AITA for putting a camera in my room and changing out the locks?’

The young tenant shares a two-story house with her 65-year-old landlord and the landlord’s 45-year-old daughter:

I (20F) rent a one bedroom room in a two story house. My landlord (65F) and her daughter (45F) are my other two roommates. These last couple of weeks, I’ve...

I thought of all the possible scenarios and decided to put a camera inside my room to see what was going on. Well on the first day it was set...

it was my landlord’s daughter snooping in my room and stabbing my macbook with a butter knife… (None of the rooms have locks on them). While no one was home,...

My landlord was quick to point out the new knob and demanded I either give her the key or get rid of the lock. I explained to her that her...

She then told me to throw away the camera even though it’s inside my room. So AITA for not removing the lock or getting rid of the camera?

This incident raises serious red flags about privacy violations and property damage in shared housing. Tenants generally have a reasonable expectation of privacy in their rented bedroom, even in a rooming house situation. Installing a camera inside your own private space (not in common areas) is typically legal, as long as it doesn’t record others without consent in areas where they have privacy rights.

Property law experts note that landlords cannot enter a tenant’s private room without proper notice except in emergencies. Snooping and deliberate vandalism—like stabbing electronics—crosses into criminal territory (potential destruction of property). The landlord’s demand for a key suggests she wants continued access, which undermines the tenant’s right to “quiet enjoyment” of her space.

Changing the lock without permission can be tricky and might violate some leases, but given the vandalism evidence, many legal advisors would argue it’s justified for safety. The tenant should document everything, back up the footage, and consider a police report for the damage—repairs or replacement could be pursued in small claims court against the daughter or landlord (vicariously).

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Ultimately, this living situation sounds unsafe. Prioritizing a move while protecting belongings and evidence is the smartest path forward—no one should feel threatened in their own room.

See what others had to share with OP:

The online community is unanimous—this tenant is absolutely not the asshole and needs to prioritize her safety:

Almost everyone screams one thing: get out fast, because the behavior is alarming and potentially dangerous:

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SigSauerPower320 - NTA Might want to find a new place to live. These people are clearly not trustworthy roommates.

PM_Me_Your_Sidepods - NTA. GTFO of that place and make it clear that they have zero right to your property and you will call the police if anything else happens.

Unless you have a lease that has some kind of clause about installing stuff like cameras there's not much they can do. They clearly want it gone so they can...

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Sufficient-Guess7018 - NTA- get a new place to live asap.

PilotEnvironmental46 - NTA. Find a new place to live.

Guilty_Hunter9304 - NTA Time to move out ASAP

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Many highlight how creepy and unhinged the knife-stabbing is, urging police involvement and evidence preservation:

[Reddit User] - NTA! Landlord's daughter is behaving like a p__cho, and you need to make sure you protect yourself and your property! Keep the camera right where it is,...

The stabbing thing creeps me out! I hope you were able to keep and save that footage as evidence? I'd file a police report and also find another place to...

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and you have every reason to fear for your safety, so you should not have any problem with legally breaking the lease. If I were you, I wouldn't sleep another...

Dry-Spring5230 - Your landlord's daughter/roommate is attacking your stuff with a knife and you're on here asking if you're the a__hole instead of getting a restraining order? NTA obviously but...

Blackgsd2 - That camera footage needs to make its way into a police report pronto. NTA

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Some suggest legal steps like small claims for damages or checking local tenant laws:

maroongrad - NTA. But DO head to small claims court ASAP. Show the video of her damaging your computer. You can require repairs (new cover) or replacement cost. I'd definitely...

Procto-Docto - NTA Buuut you probably need to take a trip over to r/LegalAdvice and ask about the lock and camera. I have no idea as to the legality of...

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Vera_Telco - Having a camera in space you're paying to rent is not against any law. Your landlord is liable for any damages her daughter caused, so save the footage....

Might want to negotiate keeping that lock while you look for new digs in lieu of reporting the damage to police. And make sure when you move out any deposits...

The OP herself responded with an update:

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al0rah - I’d like to thank everyone for listening and giving me great advice. I don’t think that the daughter is trying to hurt me but does have jealousy issues....

No one in their right mind would blame this young woman for protecting herself after catching clear evidence of snooping and outright vandalism. Keeping the camera rolling and the door locked isn’t overreacting—it’s basic self-preservation.

The overwhelming advice boils down to one urgent message: move out as soon as possible, because jealousy-fueled knife attacks on belongings can escalate. Would you stay another night in a house where someone stabs your stuff, or start packing immediately?

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