Do not re-open negotiations when a deal is already too good?

What happens when a buyer tries to squeeze extra savings from an already rock-bottom deal? Many sellers clearing out items for moves price low for quick sales, only to encounter hagglers pushing for even less.

This man listed his heavy weight set at a steep discount to empty his home fast. The first buyer arrived ready to lowball after loading, prompting a clever counter that turned the tables and delivered instant karma.

‘Do not re-open negotiations when a deal is already too good?’

The cross-country move prompted rapid sales of bulky items.

Years ago I was moving cross country and was selling large or heavy items I didn't want to move. I listed stuff on Craigslist at firesale prices. I guessed at...

I wanted everything gone by nightfall. Most items went smooth and quick, but as you might imagine, some people are gonna try to take advantage of this situation.

One listing in particular drew massive interest and a bold lowball attempt.

I put up a 300 pound weight set with a stand, olympic bar and curl bar for $50. I got an insane amount of calls even after taking the ad...

The later callers offered much more than $50 to sell to them instead. I told him I would abide by the 1st callers deal as long as 1st caller does....

"Nah man, money first then I will help you load." He pauses and says, "I only have $45. Can you do it for that?" It is pretty obvious he wanted...

After a day of dealing with Craigslist people, I was in no mood for these shenanigans. I explained to him the amount of phone calls and I have a standing...

Since he re-opened negotiations, we no longer have a deal and he would now have to beat the $150 offer.

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He thinks and offers $151, to which I reply that bid increments are $5 and he needs $155 and he needs the cash now because the other offer is ready...

The seller enforced the new terms without extra courtesy.

I take the money and sit on my couch and turn on the TV. He says, "I thought you were gonna help me load." I replied, "That is part of...

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The scheduling mix-up highlights venue errors compounded by one party’s entitlement and indirect pressure. The couple secured and confirmed their slot legitimately, expecting exclusive use. Yet a booking oversight allowed overlap claims, with the opposing bride leveraging family connections aggressively rather than resolving collaboratively.

Both experience frustration amid excitement. The couple defends hard-earned plans against perceived bullying and guilt from relatives urging concession. The MOH asserts perceived priority without direct dialogue, escalating anxiety. The priest navigates delicately but unfairly shifts compromise burden onto the confirmed party.

Wedding industry standards hold that double bookings remain the venue’s responsibility—the first verified reservation prevails without mandated shortening. Etiquette expert Kristen Maxwell emphasizes “Couples owe no accommodation to errors not of their making; gracious decline preserves dignity” (industry guidelines). Yielding rewards poor communication.

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Protect your day decisively: Reaffirm confirmation in writing to the priest, requesting formal resolution favoring your booking. Prepare contingency timing or backup venue quietly. Decline politely but firmly, framing as venue policy adherence. Limit family discussions to facts, redirecting “bigger person” pleas to the MOH’s need for flexibility. Celebrate with supporters amplifying joy over drama.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Social media users reacted with near-unanimous outrage toward the maid of honor in this church booking clash. They praised the couple’s resolve while dissecting family pressure.

The vast majority condemned the MOH’s entitlement and supported refusing compromise.

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Sidneyreb − NTA IMO being the "bigger person" is seldom in the best interests of the party it's being implored to be a convenient doormat. Suggest the MOH schedule her...

[Reddit User] − NTA. If the MOH had approached the situation with any amount of humility or kindness, then you could consider cutting your time short. But given her attitude?...

celticmusebooks − You should not have to change your plans. I have trouble believing there are THAT many weddings on a specific day that they would need to cut your...

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or that MOH was so foolish as to not book her specific church ahead of time. You owe MOH nothing-- and you don't need to spoil your wedding day to...

jrm1102 − NTA - so this MOH is someone you all don’t really know that well it seems? The church messing up isn’t your problem, they can figure out the...

TitaniaT-Rex − NTA. The MOH is a spoiled brat. I can’t help but picture Draco Malfoy sneering and threatening, “wait until my father hears of this! ”

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Acrobatic_Increase69 − NTA yours is booked hers isn’t, she either changes date or venue! Seems like yours has been booked longer too.

CocoaAlmondsRock − Anytime someone says, "Be the bigger person . . . " I know immediately who the a__hole is.

Several blamed the venue primarily while still backing the couple’s stance.

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fuzzy_mic − The clear a__hole here is the church. They double booked a wedding. It's good that this got caught as soon as possible. Hurrah to your fianéee and cousin's...

It turns out that you have the actual reservation and the other wedding has to scramble. I don't understand your anger at the other bride (MOH).

At the party, she finds out that venue was double book and she gets anxious, listing when they booked it and why the venue should give her preference.

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If a bride learns that the wedding venue might not be available, I'd expect that kind of immediate reaction. The other party did nothing wrong. They dealt with through the...

You complain that they didn't reach out to you. Why should they? Their problem is with the venue and they reached out to the venue to correct the problem.

Your frustration should be with the venue, not with the other wedding (they aren't getting the venue, you are. Why is the winner mad at the losing team? ).

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Send your anger to the priest, not to the bride scrambling to find a last minute venue. That being said, if the resolution that the priest suggested doesn't work for...

Rnin85 − NTA-Frankly I am tired of people saying “be the bigger person”. They only say that because they think you would be the easiest person to change their minds...

One shared a real-world double-booking anecdote.

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National_Average1115 − Strange as this story may sound, I have worked at two ecclesiastical properties, one large and one small, where this happened.

At the small church, the minister was a bit gaga and someone muscled in. ..I saw them off, though it was emotionally exhausting. At the very big church, with hall/conference...

My boss, an internal client, had booked it for a conference, and was told her booking hadn't gone through. She involved IT, pulled out strings of deleted emails with read...

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This Craigslist standoff proves that greed on killer deals often backfires spectacularly. Accepting generous offers gracefully avoids the “idiot tax”—while firm boundaries reward patience and punish games.

Have you turned the tables on a last-minute haggler? When does walking away beat compromising on your price?

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