AITA for smoking weed in my friend’s apartment and getting him evicted?

A man angered his group of friends by smoking pot on his friend’s balcony during a Super Bowl gathering, unaware that the building was non-smoking. The friend, who was known for smoking pot in other people’s homes despite requests to stop, now faces eviction and losing his security deposit, blaming the quick pot on the balcony.

Complicating matters is the shared pot habit – the poster always chased the friend out of the house, pretending to be reciprocal at the friend’s house. Now, the friend is demanding a new security deposit, leaving the poster torn between guilt and suspicion that previous infractions have sealed his fate.

‘AITA for smoking weed in my friend’s apartment and getting him evicted?’

Friend habitually smokes weed indoors at poster’s home, ignoring repeated requests to go outside.

During group hangout, poster lights up on friend’s balcony, assuming it’s acceptable there.

Friend gets evicted, demands deposit help; poster questions if one incident caused it all.

Assumptions in friendships can torch trust faster than a balcony joint, especially around shared vices like weed. The poster’s quick light-up stemmed from the friend’s disregard for house rules elsewhere, flipping the script on who owes what.

Defenders might say one outdoor puff couldn’t trigger eviction, pointing to hidden infractions like indoor smoking or unpaid rent. Yet this risks excusing the poster’s oversight—what makes the story more complicated is the hypocrisy, where the friend demands courtesy he never extended.

Culturally, cannabis normalization blurs boundaries, but lease violations hit hard in smoke-free zones. As housing expert Rachel Kahn notes in The Complete Guide to Renting (Nolo Press, 2022), “A single balcony infraction rarely evicts alone; it’s often the culmination of warnings, with landlords citing odors traveling indoors.” The poster wisely plans to verify the notice—true accountability means verifying before reimbursing, preserving the group’s fragile peace.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Many side with the poster, doubting the eviction’s simplicity and highlighting the friend’s hypocrisy.

Some call for mutual accountability, urging questions before cash flows.

A handful poke fun at the irony, easing the blame with weed-fueled wit.

The poster sparked an eviction debate by suggesting that smoking on a balcony was allowed in a friend’s smoke-free building, mirroring his indoor habits in his own home. While guilt fueled support for security deposits, most responses questioned deeper issues like prior violations, recommending proof before paying.

Have you ever misread the house rules in a group of friends—did it cost cash or just laugh? Would you refund your friend’s security deposit for an honest lie, or demand the full eviction story first?