[FINAL UPDATE]: Asked for paternity test. It’s positive. Now what?

A new father demanded a paternity test amid suspicions of his ex’s boundary-crossing with her best friend, only to confirm his son—and uncover her regrets. The poster endured flirty touches and dismissals, leading to a breakup and raw confrontation. In addition, what makes the story more complicated is the ex’s cruel jab about his absent father, followed by a tearful apology and therapy push for co-parenting.

Her mom mediated wisdom, validating his pain while urging focus on the baby. With legal rights secured, the poster eyes closure. This finale wrestles with forgiveness, trust, and fatherhood’s fierce pull.

‘[FINAL UPDATE]: Asked for paternity test. It’s positive. Now what?’

Tension simmered at dinner when the ex’s mom praised the poster’s dad skills, sparking a vicious dig from his ex.

The day after I posted an update, I was on my way home when I got a call from my ex's mother, she told me to not order or bring...

Anyway when I made it to her mother's house, my ex was breastfeeding so I went to help her mother set the table. Both my ex and her mother didn't...

Her mother started a conversation about fatherhood and said something along the lines of "you're a good dad yourself, I wouldn't have dreamed of a better dad to my grandchild"...

I felt myself shaking with rage, her mother snapped at her instantly. I said nothing as the baby was in the same room and didn't want to wake him up...

A barrage of apologies flooded in, leading to her confession about the friend’s true intentions.

Before I even made it home she blew up my phone with texts and missed calls. She was begging me to answer her call. I did. She apologized for bringing...

She then said that she can't say this face to face and asked if I can just listen to her without cutting her off until she finishes. She apologized about...

I Didn't say anything I just kept listening to her. She also mentioned that her mother made her realize how the flirting and touching were too much for any man...

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She talked and talked and I listened until she got everything out and asked her the question that been eating me up because I really needed closure to put everything...

she said no but the night he came to see the baby he admitted to having feelings for her which made her realize that the way he was handsy and...

Reassurance from the ex’s mom and a joint therapy proposal marked a tentative path forward for co-parenting.

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I went the next day to see my son, I had a conversation with her mother about everything, she advised me to not let anything get into the way of...

She also apologized for what he daughter said and validated my feelings. Later my ex asked if both of us could start therapy to work out everything properly for the...

She looked more relaxed and herself for the first time after everything and apologized again for bringing up my father and how she hate herself for it. That's all I...

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For people advising me in the last post, I already went the legal route to get my legal rights to my child, I just forgot to mention it. I will...

Thank you for your opinions especially the ones that tried to see things from my perspective and tried to be kind to me.

Edit: she dropped her friend that what she said when she was talking about when he admitted to having feelings for her.

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Edit: if you read my previous posts you'd know that I apologized many times for my mistakes. I never said I didn't make any or didn't genuinely apologize.

Betrayal’s aftermath demands boundaries, not blind forgiveness—especially with a newborn at stake. The ex’s admissions validate the poster’s instincts, but her trauma-tossing outburst reveals unresolved defensiveness. In this case, therapy focused on co-parenting, not reconciliation, offers a structured reset.

Opposing views might romanticize apologies as fresh starts, yet trust rebuilds through actions, not words alone. What makes the story more complicated is the ex-mom’s pivotal role—allying with the poster while holding her daughter accountable.

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Socially, such scandals highlight how unchecked friendships erode partnerships. In addition, paternity doubts, though painful, protect families when infidelity looms.

“Co-parenting therapy emphasizes child-centered communication; individual sessions address personal accountability,” advises family mediator Dr. Bill Eddy in High Conflict Co-Parenting (Unhooked Media, 2020).

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Many commenters celebrated the poster’s composure, urging therapy tweaks and custody safeguards while offering dad tips.

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canyonemoon − Make sure the couple's counselor knows that the objective is a good co-parenting relationship and not a regular back to normal couple objective. What she said about your...

She needs to grow up; she's a mother, she can't throw people's trauma in their faces as a mean way to get back at them. Good luck with everything, and...

Actual-Offer-127 − I'm glad her mother put her in her place. She was absolutely right. No man would put up with that kind of flirting and touching. You're doing the...

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She is trying to make things right but then throws your own dad in your face? You are not your father. I think couples therapy will be good but it...

She is toxic AF. Living with her mother is probably the best thing for her right now. She's not mature enough to make adult decisions. Good luck to you and...

gdrom123 − I’m glad you got the closure you deserved. Even though it took way too long I’m also happy your ex realized her role in destroying your relationship. Best...

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Iwishyouwell2024 − Thanks for letting us know. Search for apps that will help coparenting. I once read about one that didn't show the number and location but was more about...

It was useful for the dad that posted it in reddit because court acepted this particular app for evidences of coparenting. He didn't allowed his ex to change things last...

I think something similar in the future will work for you. Tips: Learn when to change diapers sizes to avoid hashes. When you change the diaper, just loose the sides...

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You just count from 1 to 10 and see with your kid isn't going to surprise you. Than you remove the diaper, use it a little bit to clean him...

Tip2: When you take your kid to vaccine, be the one to hold him! And sit down and obey the nurse. Don't worry about the pain. But as a woman,...

And don't run away with the kid either! I know it hurts but it will keep him safer from sickness. Tip 3: Always check the baby's teeth.

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Sometimes when he gets messier, seems to have a fever, or bites to much, something is bothering him. Baby teeth are a hell on earth. Talk with your MIL about...

Tip 4: A baby blanket, a big bag with 10 diapers, extra bottle, milk formula, wet towels, cotton, and clothes IS ALWAYS USEFUL. I mean it. Babies are a surprise...

A few questioned reconciliation motives and pushed for balanced custody.

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[Reddit User] − Are you still hoping to get back together or just coparent ? 🤷🏻

chez2202 − I’m glad that her friend finally admitted that his feelings for her were more than friendly. I think that’s probably why she brought up your dad.

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She realised you were right all along and couldn’t handle it so she had to say something to try to take the heat off her and that was all she...

You are giving her 100% custody, paying for everything, buying her food, going over every evening and that’s all admirable but she is soon going to find another man because...

Even if you don’t have close family to help you I bet your ex’s mum would be at your house whenever she didn’t have to work to help you out....

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Humor and reflection lightened the load, noting opinion flips.

[Reddit User] − OP, if you can could you leave the posts up for others who may find themselves in your situation. The way that you handled this was very...

and to at least be able to come out the other side relatively intact (or show that it is possible). Once you are finished, you can self lock the thread...

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Valleyg14 − I'm usually very generous and understanding when it comes to women and how some of them are mistreated. However, no way would I side with your Ex or...

Another man was flirty with her and your ex invalidated your feelings when you brought out the boundary-crossing. You even tried to reverse the roles, and she further dismissed your...

You had every right to question her and the paternity. Even if she has problems establishing boundaries, she shouldn't have blown you off when you were adult enough to bring...

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And now look, you were right along to suspect her friend and even she regrets it. Her own mother sides with you. I'm sorry that you had to go through...

I do sincerely wish you'd meet a woman who doesn't dismiss your concerns like she did. Or deflect to insult you, after discovering, she was wrong. Because often, if the...

Qodulkein − Ha I knew it it was obvious that the friend had something in mind (touching her a__le wtf). Good luck with everything I really hope it endd well...

UninspiredDreamer − Curious how everyone is backing the OP now when a post or two back it was "let's lynch him for even requesting a paternity test". Turns out things...

The poster’s steady focus on his son amid apologies and admissions charts a mature path, blending therapy with legal safeguards. In the end, closure arrives not in perfection, but in prioritizing the child’s world over past wounds. This saga proves resilience turns pain into purpose.

Would you pursue reconciliation after such a blow? What’s your go-to co-parenting app or tip? Share your paternity drama or dad hacks below.

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