AITA for telling my uncle I would take him to court if he didn’t pay me?

A 16-year-old girl, promised $15/hour by her uncle to clean houses, was shocked when he refused to pay her for 100 hours of work, claiming she was just “helping family.” Her threat to take him to small claims court led to accusations of being a bad niece. Shared on Reddit, this story exposes the betrayal of trust in family agreements and the fight for fair compensation.

Reddit users rallied behind her, condemning her uncle’s deception. Was she wrong to threaten legal action, or justified in demanding her wages? This narrative explores the intersection of family loyalty and workplace fairness, especially for a young worker.

'AITA for telling my uncle I would take him to court if he didn’t pay me?'

The teen’s job search led to a family offer.

I (16f) have an uncle (44m) who we’ll call David, last month I was talking to David about how I was looking for a job and I was complaining and...

he suggested I work for him, David is self employed as a house hold cleaner, he makes a well living and I thought it was a nice offer and it...

The agreement seemed clear.

well anyways I asked him what the pay would be and he said he’d pay me 15$ an hour and i happily excepted, I worked 25 hours a week for...

Her uncle’s refusal stunned her.

but when I asked him when I’d be payed he asked me what I ment so I clarified and said “when will you be paying me for the 100 hours...

and it was definitely 100 hours so I showed him the hours I worked and said “yeah one hundred see” and then he said “no I got what you mean...

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His excuse fueled her anger.

And I froze for a moment before before I got mad and asked him why would he not be paying me and he told me that I was just helping...

(he sprained his wrist 3 months prior and it was fully healed) I said that I wasn’t doing that work for free and if he wasn’t going to pay me...

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His response turned manipulative.

after that he got really quite and said he thought I was a better person and that family should help family.. AITA for telling him I would take him to...

The teen’s threat to take her uncle to court was a bold response to a clear betrayal of trust. Her uncle’s promise of $15/hour established a verbal contract, and his refusal to pay, citing “family helping family,” is manipulative and exploitative, especially given her age and vulnerability. His healed wrist and initial agreement negate any claim of her volunteering. This situation echoes your experience with family overstepping boundaries, like your mother-in-law’s inappropriate comments (July 26, 2025), where trust was undermined by dishonesty.

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Legal expert advice aligns with Reddit suggestions: verbal agreements can be enforceable in small claims court, especially with documented hours or corroborating evidence like texts (Nolo, 2023). The teen’s meticulous record of 100 hours strengthens her case, and her parents’ involvement could pressure her uncle to settle privately. Reporting to a state labor board, as suggested, could also enforce payment and impose penalties, protecting her rights as a minor worker.

Moving forward, she should gather any evidence (texts, witnesses, or client confirmations) and involve her parents to confront David. If he refuses, filing a wage claim with the labor board may be more effective than small claims court, avoiding legal costs. Her uncle should reflect on his deceit, and the family could benefit from open dialogue to prevent future exploitation. The teen’s stand is a powerful assertion of her worth and rights.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Users unanimously supported the teen, condemning her uncle’s deceit.

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extinct_diplodocus − and that family should help family. He's exactly right. So, why is he trying to cheat his family? NTA for taking it to court, but you may have...

Best to first talk to your parents about this. Maybe Uncle wouldn't want the entire family to learn how duplicitous he is.

Cute_Beat7013 − NTA. You need to document everything in relation to this. See whether your parents will confirm the terms, do you have texts or emails or anything to prove...

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and if you can backdate evidence that you understood you were being paid (even texts to third parties saying you aren’t free because you’re earning $15/h cleaning w your uncle)...

Next, send an email or registered letter to your uncle with an invoice (look up a free template online) for $1500 for 100 hrs of work completed between such and...

and that he will be leaving you with no choice except to bring this matter to small claims court should he not pay you in full by (insert a date...

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Embarrassed_Ad7740 − NTA "I'll pay you $15 an hour" "Why would I pay you? " So he straight-up lied from the start to get free labor. Family helps Family but...

Many offered practical advice.

Garden_Lady2 − Ask your Uncle why he would tell you your wage would be 15 dollars an hour and then claim it should be free. Family only claims that family...

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Hopefully he'll respond the same way and then you'll have a record of him trying to avoid paying you. There should be a labor board in your area. Go there...

IamnotaCST − I said that I wasn’t doing that work for free and if he wasn’t going to pay me like he said he would I would take him to...

It will be so much worse as they can assess fines, if he has been paying the taxes and other requirements for having an employee in addition to getting you...

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Evilsquirre1 − NTA if your are in America this would go to your state's labor comissoner. This is a wage claim. If you have emails, texts or a time card....

I've filed a wage claim and been through the process it's been years ago. You might get back pay and possibly interest/penalties. But that depends on your state's labor laws.

Some emphasized the betrayal’s impact.

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Dwinxx2000 − Wow. This guy. Document everything. Save text messages esp if it is referenced in writing that you agreed to being paid. Even if to someone else. Take him...

Curious_Platform7720 − NTA. Take it to your state employment department if you have to. He’ll get in a sh*t ton of trouble.

FinnFinnFinnegan − NTA he took advantage of you. Take him to court and get your money

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MenchitWolfram − NTA He is the a__hole. If he wanted help, he should ask for help. If he wanted to help you with a job, he should offer a job....

jeffk92592 − TELL EVERYONE IN YOUR FAMILY THAT YOU CAN WHAT HE DID. LIE, AND STEAL FROM YOU. MAKE HIS LIFE AS MISERABLE AS YOU CAN UNTIL HE PAYS YOU....

Individual_Metal_983 − NTA but don't work another day for him. Where are your parents in this scam he is pulling?

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Floating-Cynic − NTA, and don't listen to anyone advising about whether you'll win in court unless they're actually an attorney, particularly in your area. When I worked for my local...

There may be an agency with your state that might scare him a little more. Obviously having nothing in writing isn't great, but you apparently kept track of the hours...

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You needed a job, wanted to boost your resume, and if he was collecting money from your labor as a legitimate business, there's records that someone is owed that money....

wlfwrtr − NTA Say family should help family but that doesn't include lying to them and not keeping their promises. That shows he doesn't consider you family so you should...

Ask how his clients would feel about him working for them knowing he can't be trusted to even pay his employees?

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jeffk92592 − Also, go to the houses that you cleaned & tell them what happened.

This 16-year-old’s threat to sue her uncle for refusing to pay $1,500 for her cleaning work exposed his manipulative claim that she was just “helping family.” Her stand, backed by Reddit, underscores the importance of honoring agreements, especially with young workers. The story highlights the clash between family loyalty and workplace fairness. Would you take a family member to court for unpaid work, or seek another resolution?

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