AITA for not wanting to go to my dad’s house anymore?

Family ties can fray when priorities clash, especially for a kid caught in the middle. A young person, raised by their aunt and uncle since their mom’s passing, feels neglected during visits to their dad’s house. Between a cramped car situation and missing school, the visits have become a burden. When they spoke up, their dad lashed out, blaming their aunt for keeping them away.

This story tugs at the heart because it’s about a kid seeking stability while their dad seems distracted by his new family. Social media users rallied behind the poster, emphasizing that education and respect come first. It’s a tough spot—wanting a dad’s love but facing constant inconvenience. Let’s break down how a visitation schedule turned into a family feud.

'AITA for not wanting to go to my dad's house anymore?'

The trouble began with a childhood marked by loss and shifting responsibilities.

My mom died when I was 4 and my dad said he wasn't ready or able to take care of a kid on his own so I live with my...

The dad’s new family made visits feel even more isolating for the poster.

I've always known that he wasn't that interested in me but it got worse when he got married and started having kids. His kids are 4, 2, and newborn right...

Practical issues, like transportation, limited the time spent together.

His car and his wife's car only fit 5 people and they have 3 kids so we can't go anywhere when I'm at their house because they don't want to...

School became a major sticking point, with the dad’s schedule causing disruptions.

I also miss a lot of school on his days. He'll pick me up early on Thursdays because that's when he gets off of work and he doesn't want to...

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Fridays and Mondays there's a 50/50 chance they'll tell me to stay home because my school is too far (it's 10 minutes from my dad's work but he doesn't want...

The constant tardiness led to trouble at school, adding to the stress.

If I do go to school on his days I'm always late then I get in trouble for being late and my aunt has to call the school to try...

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Fed up, the poster turned to their aunt, who backed their decision to pause visits.

I told my aunt I don't want to go to his house anymore because of the car situation and the school thing. She decided that was fair and told my...

The dad’s reaction only escalated the conflict, turning it personal.

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Now he's telling my aunts family that she's keeping me away from him and called her some names that I don't think I should repeat here. AITA for not wanting...

This situation is a gut-punch—a kid shouldn’t have to fight for their education or feel like an afterthought. The poster’s dad seems overwhelmed, prioritizing his new family’s convenience over their needs. Missing school or arriving late isn’t just inconvenient; it risks academic setbacks and unfair punishment. The aunt’s support shows she’s putting the kid first, but the dad’s defensive name-calling suggests he’s more concerned with his image than his child’s well-being.

Dr. Alicia Clark, a psychologist, notes, “Children need consistency and prioritization from parents to feel secure, especially after loss”. A practical step could be a formal visitation agreement, perhaps through family court, to ensure school attendance and fair scheduling—like weekend-only visits. The dad needs to step up, maybe by adjusting his routine or using a larger vehicle. For the poster, talking with a counselor or trusted adult could help process feelings of rejection while maintaining some connection with their dad, if desired.

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Long-term, open communication—maybe with a mediator—could clarify expectations. The dad must show he values his child’s needs, not just his own convenience. For now, the poster’s choice to stay with their aunt is a stand for their own stability and education.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Social media users were firmly in the poster’s corner, stressing their right to prioritize school.

[Reddit User] − NTA but your Aunt needs to go to court to make sure she doesn't get into trouble for doing what is best for you. Good Luck OP....

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He'll pick me up early on Thursdays because that's when he gets off of work and he doesn't want to wait 2 hours or drive home then come back to...

Fridays and Mondays there's a 50/50 chance they'll tell me to stay home because my school is too far (it's 10 minutes from my dad's work but he doesn't want...

If I do go to school on his days I'm always late then I get in trouble for being late and my aunt has to call the school to try...

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SushiGuacDNA − NTA. When you are visiting your Dad, it is his job to parent you. That includes getting you to school on time. If he can't do that, then...

There comes an age when a kid should be allowed a large say in where they stay, and it sounds to me like you are there. You aren't an a__hole...

GoreGoddezz − NTA. Your education is very important, and its sad your dad doesn't seem to recognize that. Maybe It's best if your aunt goes to court (if she hasn't...

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forgeris − NTA. If your father really wanted you to come and visit him then he would find car solution, but the fact that he instantly went offensive and started...

You will be an adult someday and then you can make your dad pay for all s__t that he has caused you, be it by refusing to help him when...

Some users offered balanced takes, urging communication to salvage the relationship.

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marilynmansonfuckme − NTA. You don’t specify your age, but you’re old enough to post on Reddit, so you’re clearly old enough to decide where you want to live.

3Dog_Nitz − NTA. You deserve better. This is all about your father's weaknesses and is absolutely no reflection on you. You. Deserve. Better.

PinkBlossomDayDream − NTA. Your Father has a duty toward his child. I don't think he is in the wrong for saying he wasn't ready to take care of you, He...

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But it's perfectly normal for you to put boundaries in if you don't feel comfortable going to his house. If he is saying horrible things about your Aunt because of...

In an ideal world, Maybe you, your Aunt and your Father should get together and have a conversation this without anybody pointing fingers.

It's not fair on you to consistently get in trouble at school for things that are out of your control but it would also be a petty thing to lose...

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Trespassingw − NTA. Your dad fails his parental responsibilities. He MUST provide you an opportunity to get to school every day on time. I am so sorry he is that...

SunMoonTruth − NTA. He’s not being a father to you. Just trying to make you fit into his story in whichever way is convenient for him. So he doesn’t feel...

Bchypoo68 − NTA. This is so heartbreaking. He can't be a father to you, but he can re-married and have 3 more children. He doesn't even think to bring you...

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Irishqltr1 − Do your aunt and uncle have guardianship over you, or has this just been an informal agreement? Your family may have to go the formal court route and...

Assuming you want to see him? It doesn't appear that you are a priority for your dad. Maybe nothing is outside of his wants?

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JibberJim − NTA do you have any outside of the family support, from local child services of whatever your country has? Talking this through with them, and getting them to...

Completely reasonable to expect to make it to school, and whilst "going out to do stuff" could be unreasonable if they worked on having a good time with you all...

Parasamgate − NTA. Your dad makes it clear he will only do what he can do if it doesn't affect him in any way. I wouldn't went to be with...

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tuffyowner − You should not be missing school! Your father is an incompetent AH. He is shirking his duty by not getting you to school. Get your aunt to change...

Others kept it light, focusing on the dad’s need to step up.

damebabyz56 − Nta. .you are a child and he's the parent and he's not being a responsible parent at all. Your education matters and missing so much school will have...

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if your dad can't accept ALL the responsibilities of being a parent maybe he should just stick to being a weekend dad if he still wants to see you. I...

I think you need to ask your aunt to call your dad and stepmother together to discuss what you want rather than what your dad wants. .Good look.

This story’s a tough reminder that kids deserve parents who show up fully. The poster’s caught between wanting a dad and needing stability, while their father’s choices—car excuses, school disruptions—make visits feel like a chore. The aunt’s standing up for what’s right, but the dad’s reaction shows he’s not ready to listen. What would you do in this kid’s shoes—push for change or step back for good?

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