AITA for calling out my dog sitter for doubling her charge 4 days before our flight?

A meticulously planned trip hit a snag when a dog sitter doubled her fee just four days before a couple’s flight, leaving them scrambling under financial and emotional strain. After adjusting to the sitter’s changed schedule, they felt betrayed by her lack of transparency, leading to a confrontation and her complete withdrawal from the job.

This story raises questions about fairness in service agreements and the responsibilities of providers. Was the couple wrong to push back on the price hike, or was the sitter’s behavior unacceptable? Let’s explore the details and see what the online community had to say.

‘AITA for calling out my dog sitter for doubling her charge 4 days before our flight?’

The story begins with a couple who love traveling and own two dogs, Pip and Skip:

My husband (33M) and I (35F) have 2 small dogs Pip (5M)and Skip (17M). We both work and live below our means and this allowed us to purchase a home...

We enjoy travel with the strategic use of use of miles, promos, & reciprocal travel friendships. I budget carefully and pre-plan everything so we have enough to live, enough to...

They often pet-sit at low rates to help others:

Aside from our regular jobs, we also watch dogs on the side. We usually do so below market rate because we understand how inflated dog sitting fees have become. We...

Sometimes we even dog-sit for free if they are a friend or family members or if it is financially tight for some of our regular clients. We love animals and...

When their usual sitters became unavailable, they hired Betty:

A couple of our friends moved away and some have become too busy. We started using a friend of my SIL named Betty. She had been charging us $30/day for...

In Sept, I informed her we were taking a longer trip to visit my husband’s aunt for Thanksgiving as she has cancer. We told her it would just be Skip....

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Betty later said she couldn’t watch Skip for two days:

A few weeks before our trip, the sitter says she cannot watch Skip on Thanksgiving and Black Friday because her mom booked a cabin for them that didn’t allow pets....

Although he does not have major medical issues and takes no meds; he is deaf, blind, has doggy dementia, and is incontinent. The incontinent part is usually puts people off...

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But after some time, we found a sitter willing to take him those days and Betty agreed to pick him up for the remainder of the days. Then 4 days...

I called her out on this because we only needed to get an additional sitter because of the change in HER plans. For reference the other dog sitter was going...

I would have booked her for the whole thing but Betty said she would charge us just an additional day for the pickup. My husband and I both assumed it...

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OP confronted Betty about the increase:

I told her it was not cool that she is doubling our rate right before we are about to fly. I didn’t tell her I wasn’t going to pay the...

Betty then grew very “uncomfortable with our interaction” and basically backed out of watching him entirely. Thankfully the 2nd sitter was free to watch him the days she bailed on.....

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Also: While I appreciate your concerns about Skip’s impending demise, he is actually still doing ok. He has no tumors, no cancer, etc. Sometimes we take him on small walks...

He has a very healthy appetite and loves his favorite foods. He likes to snuggle when we watch TV and always love to be in his special spot in the...

And when he wakes, we carry him gently to the backyard to relieve himself. We have talked at length with our vet about when it’s time for him to go...

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This story underscores the importance of transparency and fairness in service agreements, especially when it involves pets—a significant part of many people’s lives. OP was justified in calling out Betty for doubling her fee days before the trip, particularly since Betty’s schedule change forced them to find another sitter. This behavior was unprofessional and placed OP in a stressful position, both financially and emotionally.

Dr. Robert Cialdini, an expert in social influence, notes that “transparency and consistency in transactions build trust, while unexpected changes can erode relationships” (Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion). Betty violated this principle by failing to communicate her intent to raise fees earlier, leaving OP feeling taken advantage of, especially after relying on the original rate for planning.

While Skip’s health conditions (deafness, blindness, dementia, and incontinence) may make care more challenging, Betty agreed to the initial rate and didn’t raise concerns when the job was confirmed. Her decision to cancel after being challenged further highlights a lack of accountability.

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OP should seek a more reliable sitter in the future, ideally through reviews or clear contracts. Leaving an honest review about Betty’s actions could help others avoid similar issues. Betty should learn to communicate transparently and honor agreed-upon terms to maintain credibility.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

The online community offered varied reactions, from supporting OP to focusing on Skip’s health. Below are all cited comments, grouped by theme.

Most users backed OP, viewing Betty’s actions as unfair:

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friendlily − I think NTA because she committed to watch him and did not tell you that her fee has almost doubled. Then she ditched you for part of the...

swillshop − NTA I don't get the folks focused on your dog's medical challenges and the rate you've been paying. It's not like these are new/ a surprise for Betty.

She was fine with that rate for previous visits, and she didn't raise an issue about the fee when you initially asked her. All that changed is Betty's Thanksgiving plans....

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Whatever her reasons, the flip in schedule AND the price hike are just not reasonable or fair. The good thing is you found a new dog sitter. I hope you...

Genderfluid_smolbean − NTA. It sounds like Betty tried to take advantage of you needing a dog sitter. She had initially agreed to do it, backed out,

forced you to find a different (more expensive) sitter, and then tried to upcharge you on top of that. Definitely NTA, and a very reasonable request to be more upfront...

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2muchlooloo2 − But she not charging them because the dog’s health issues. She charging for issues that SHE created, NTA.

Miserable_Lock_7705 − NTA I dog sit consistently as a side hustle and I would never do this to a client. If she already agreed to watching your dog with no...

thenord321 − NTA There was plenty of time to discuss changes. The last minute price hike, especially for a relatively small amount (given it's not a long or frequent occurrence)...

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Especially to just back out completely last minute when you didn't like her increase. It seems like she just wanted an excuse to get out of the arrangement.

Nice-Yogurt-6741 − No, NTA. You had a deal, then adapted to Betty's changed plans, and then she pulls this. Betty is a peach though. She agreed to pet sit, then...

Cannabis_CatSlave − NTA Make sure you tell this tale on her reviews so others do not get taken in by this bait and switcher.

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Some focused on Skip’s health, suggesting the higher fee might be justified:

StAlvis − INFO Although he does not have major medical issues and takes no meds; he is deaf, blind, has doggy dementia, and is incontinent. FFS, what WOULD count as...

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cassiesfeetpics − NTA but your dog has MAJOR MEDICAL ISSUES, stop trying to act like they aren't.

[Reddit User] − Personally I think $65 a day is pretty reasonable for a dog with that many medical issues.

Others offered suggestions or questioned context:

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SpaTowner − INFO: why is all the stuff about your own pro-bono/quid pro quo dog sitting relevant to this transaction?

clothdollmaker − I think I would consider boarding your dog at a vet/vet clinic. If anything went south, they would be better equipped to handle it.

kfilks − I had a chick do this to me once the week before an international trip when she knew I had no option - I said fine and just...

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Weekly-Rest1033 − i'm saying nta. i don't know how all of these people are saying to put down a 17 year old dog because he's blind, deaf, incontinent, and has...

you don't euthanize dogs solely because of these reasons. there is a quality of life scale. how do ya'll not know that skip is happy go lucky and eats his...

This story highlights the importance of transparency and fairness in service agreements, especially involving pets. OP was justified in challenging Betty’s last-minute fee hike and cancellation, but Skip’s health conditions sparked debate about reasonable rates. What do you think of OP’s reaction? Should they have negotiated differently, or was Betty’s behavior unacceptable? Share your thoughts!

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