AITA for refusing to let my dyslexic cousin copy my test?

A crucial test sparked tension between two teenage cousins. A 17-year-old girl (OP) refused to let her cousin Lily, also 17 and dyslexic, copy her answers during an Advanced Placement World History exam. Lily struggled to read the questions despite accommodations like extra time and asked OP for help. Fearing punishment for cheating and risking her scholarship chances, OP declined.

This decision left Lily upset, as she scored poorly and felt humiliated. OP’s aunt criticized her, arguing she should have shown more empathy for Lily’s dyslexia, even if it meant sharing a few answers. The family is divided, with some siding with the aunt, while OP insists she shouldn’t break rules. Was OP wrong to prioritize her future?

‘AITA for refusing to let my dyslexic cousin copy my test?’

The story begins with OP and her cousin Lily in the same classroom.

I (17F) have a cousin, “Lily” (17F), who’s dyslexic. We’re both in the same WHAP (ap world history) class. Lily has always struggled with school because of her dyslexia, but...

Tensions rose during a critical test.

Last week, we had a big test in the class, and it was really important for our grade. During the test, Lily kept trying to get my attention and quietly...

Lily felt let down when OP refused to help.

I felt bad, but I didn’t want to risk getting both of us in trouble. Our teacher is strict about cheating, and I’ve been working really hard this year because...

She got upset and kept glaring at me for the rest of the test. Later, Lily didn’t do well on the test and got a low grade. Now she’s mad...

The family split over OP’s decision.

My aunt called me and said I should’ve been more understanding because of Lily’s dyslexia, and that I made her feel humiliated by not helping. I explained that I didn’t...

but my aunt said I should’ve found a way to help, even if it was just a few answers. Some of my family agrees with her, but I still think...

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OP’s choice highlights the delicate balance between empathy and personal responsibility.

Lily’s dyslexia presents real challenges, but asking OP to cheat put both at risk. OP’s refusal protected her scholarship goals, yet her aunt’s reaction suggests a misunderstanding of how to support dyslexic students. The pressure on OP to break rules was unfair.

Education expert Susan Barton explains, “Students with dyslexia need tailored accommodations, like text-to-speech tools, not shortcuts like cheating” (Dyslexia Reading Connection). Lily’s struggle indicates she may need better support from her school.

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Advice: OP should talk to Lily, explaining her refusal was about fairness, and encourage her to seek teacher support. Lily’s aunt should work with the school to secure accommodations, such as audio-based testing. OP could discuss with the teacher to prevent similar situations, ensuring no pressure to compromise integrity.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The online community largely supported OP’s decision, emphasizing the importance of avoiding cheating.

Many agreed OP was right to protect her future:

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Sweetcilantro − nta If your aunt thinks you should help your cousin cheat, explain to the teacher that your family was upset with you that you didn't help your cousin...

Lets see how much the family cares when everyone knows that your cousin would rather try to force you to cheat than raise her hand for some help when its...

latents − NTA Lily has a difficulty but she isn’t incompetent. If her accommodations are insufficient she needs to talk to the people who are setting them. Perhaps she needs...

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If she refuses to use the avenues available to her, then the problem won’t ever be resolved. Getting both of you a zero for cheating instead would solve nothing.

damaya0351 − NTA tell your family even if you dont get caught at some point Lily wont have anyone to help her out and crash proportionately deeper since she cant...

I know someone who cheated a lot and obviously this doesnt work forever, especially oral exams can be "unpleasant" lol - or when its no longer a test but a...

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DarkBitterSea − NTA Dyslexic here. She needs someone to read the test to her and select the answers she picks for her. I’ve had a teacher do this with me...

The risk of you getting into trouble is not worth it. I’m surprised you have an aunt upset with you for not cheating.

hello_reddit1234 − NTA tell your aunt to stop cheating about her parenting. She should be contacting the school and advocating for her daughter. Are your parents sticking up for you?

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mmiggs − "During the test, Lily quietly asked. .." Apparently, your teacher isn't actually strict about cheating. "Strict about cheating" is a ripped-up paper and a zero the minute she...

The mouth is not involved in a history test - there is no reason for it to be moving. NTA Letting Lily copy your answers isn't "helping". Lily and her...

If her reading is poor enough that she can't parse the question, maybe she needs different accommodations, like text to speech on a laptop and some headphones, so she can...

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Apart-Ad6518 − NTA I’ve been working really hard this year because I need good grades for a scholarship. I whispered back that I couldn’t help her. You did the right...

My aunt said I should’ve found a way to help, even if it was just a few answers. Some of my family agrees with her. Not OK. You wouldn't have...

LoveBeach8 − NTA That some of your family members condone cheating is appalling. Lily could have asked the teacher for help. If the teacher wasn't available, she could have talked...

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You were wise to not help her but you took a huge risk by whispering back to her. If she does that again, ignore her and afterwards, ask to sit...

Some users asked questions or suggested alternatives:

[Reddit User] − NTA. What are your parents saying about this?

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[Reddit User] − If Lily has those kinds of accommodations she would be in a separate, "quiet" room. You are right not to cheat. They want you to risk your...

They will downplay the consequences because they think you're the "lucky" one. Shame on Lily's mother for teaching her child to be dishonest.

The community agreed OP shouldn’t risk her future, but some suggested better support for Lily.

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Dyslexia poses significant challenges, but cheating isn’t the answer. OP made the right call by prioritizing fairness, though her family needs to focus on finding proper support for Lily. Open communication and collaboration with the school offer a better path forward.

What do you think OP should do to mend things with Lily? How can you support a family member with learning challenges without breaking rules? Share your thoughts!

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