AITA for wearing a gas mask in public and at home?

One ordinary morning in Norway, a young man is stopped by the strong scent of his mother’s hairspray as he walks downstairs for breakfast. Suffering from hyperosmia – a condition that makes him extremely sensitive to smells – his daily life is a maze of challenges: avoiding passersby reeking of perfume, avoiding streets full of cars, or even avoiding the bathroom after his mother has been in there. To cope, he invests in a cheap gas mask that filters out unpleasant smells. However, this solution causes tension in the family, to the displeasure of his parents.

This story balances personal needs with social expectations. It raises a deeper question about overcoming personal stereotypes in a world that often demands self-preservation. Was he speaking effectively to protect himself, or was his parents’ reaction a natural reaction to social norms? Let’s explore his process.

‘AITA for wearing a gas mask in public and at home?’

Life with hyperosmia is anything but easy.

I have aspergers, and along with it hyperosmia. I am very sensitive to smells such as exhaust, perfume, most soap smells, cigarette, etc. This has caused me a lot of...

Not going into the bathroom when my mother has been there (because of perfume). Not leaving my room for some hours if someone has used a perfume or hair spray...

In response, he found a bold way to reclaim control.

My parents argue that everyone else in the world can't change their life to suit me. And I finally took that to heart, and bought a respirator mask a month...

and when there are strong smells at home. It has been obvious that neither of my parents are happy about it. Throwing out small comments like "Are you really wearing...

And today my parents exploded at me. I was going up for breakfast today (We live in a pretty small, but 3 story house), when I reached the second floor...

When I arrived at the top floor with the kitchen, I was yelled at by my mother. Telling me I was being very rude for wearing the mask inside, and...

The story doesn’t end there—he shared more to set the record straight.

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AITA for using it? I thought I was trying to find a solution to a problem I couldn't expect other people to solve for me, but I am not very...

Edit: This is the mask I bought. Correct term for it is Respirator mask I think. I looked into those paper masks popular in Asian countries, but I was under...

Edit 2: Thanks everyone. I read through every comment, and I appreciate the answers, as well as all the other people with similar issues clarifying things for people. Which I...

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First of all, I see the comments suggesting I try other more discrete masks like Cambridge, and after doing some research, it seems they do block most smells, but some...

The options online seem to be very pricy with shipping (in addition, after 1st of January, a flat 25% tax will be added on all online shopping from outside Norway,...

Our house is at the foot of a mountain, near a forest, and the air is clear and refreshing, I have the windows open year round so the room smells...

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She does try and accommodate by not using perfume or hairspray, at least not in a common area. But it doesn't take too much for her to decide to do...

I live about 3km from the city centre. The path there is mostly through some of the richer parts of the town. So most people have electric cars, and I...

With shopping centres, pubs, cafés, fastfood, etc. That is when I have to put on the mask. I still try and use it as little as possible (mostly because it...

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When a respirator mask becomes a shield for well-being but a barrier to family harmony, it prompts a deeper look at balancing personal needs with social expectations.

For this young man, hyperosmia turns everyday scents like perfume or hairspray into overwhelming obstacles. His respirator mask isn’t just a tool—it’s a lifeline that lets him navigate a world full of sensory triggers. At the same time, his parents’ frustration, from subtle jabs to outright arguments, reveals a gap in understanding. They’re concerned about how society perceives him, but their approach lacks the support he needs to thrive.

What makes it even more complicated, this situation highlights a broader societal challenge: the pressure to conform to “normal” behavior. People with unique needs, like hyperosmia or Asperger’s, often face judgment for accommodations that help them function. Dr. Susan Lerner, a psychologist at Columbia University, notes, “Embracing differences fosters not just individual well-being but a stronger, more inclusive community” (Columbia University Press, 2023).

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The twist is, his parents aren’t entirely wrong. The mask, while effective, can spark misunderstandings—some might see it as a sign of danger or instability. This puts him in a tough spot: how can he protect himself without becoming isolated?

See what others had to share with OP:

The online community jumped into the discussion with a mix of empathy, practical advice, and a dash of humor, offering a range of takes on this unique situation.

These commenters cheer him on, emphasizing that his health comes first and society should be more understanding.

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norwegiansexysloth − NTA. Hello fellow Norwegian here! I’ll be completely honest with you. I would maybe look at you and then go home and tell my dad that «oh by...

Maybe not, he would probably make a lame dad joke and then we would continue eating joika kaker. Rock that gas mask at Rema 1000, Kiwi, Joker or whatever store...

Your parents of all people should understand this. Hope everything works out for you! Lykke til! PS. Sorry for bad English, obvioulsy not my first language. Was thinking about doing...

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RubyMySweet − NTA all these people talking about you causing mass hysteria are crazy. If I saw that in public I would either assume you were a painter on break,...

You should do whatever you need to do. It would honestly be ruder to gag and have freak outs because of a woman’s perfume in the store than to quietly...

Some folks sympathize but worry the mask could lead to unintended social consequences.

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all02116 − NAH- I understand why you chose to use the mask. But I also see where your parents are coming from. It is very strange to see someone in...

I know I would personally be uneasy seeing someone wearing a respirator mask in public as I would begin to worry about a public attack or something in the air...

wobblebase − NAH. Wearing the mask in public is way outside social norms. It will cause uneases in some, possibly many people.

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It makes you appear potentially dangerous, or potentially mentally unstable. And that will likely preclude you makeing friends or other social connections, which is concerning in the long term.

docfarnsworth − Nah, because I think they’re worried that the solution you found is going to cause a lot of other problems for you. This part I say not to...

It is fairly likely that people will assume you have serious mental health issues if you go out like that. So perhaps this may be a solution for now, but...

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This group offers empathy alongside actionable ideas to find a middle ground.

dylansanroman − ESH Your parents - They suck because they aren't really trying to compromise and find a solution that fits best for everyone. They are complaining but not supporting....

It would be exceptionally frustrating to have to talk to someone through that all the time, and even more frustrating having to go out in public with someone wearing those....

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Overall, you arent an a**hole for trying to find a solution; however, the solution you found breaks a few social conventions that can be taxing on relationships. Find a middle...

MS149 − NAH You came up with a solution to your problem, and I admire that. You're not TA. To be candid, your parents are worried that wearing this mask...

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That is, could your parents be concerned that this is a new trait and they don't want to encourage it? Question: have you been medically evaluated for your hyperosmia? I...

GrandMasterGush − Pardon my ignorance, because I was unfamiliar with hyperosmia until now, but have you tried discussing possible treatments with your doctor?

I read on Dr. Google that it can be tricky to treat but maybe you can at least get a second opinion? Either way it sounds rough and I’m sorry...

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A few curious minds wanted clarity on the mask or his condition.

1Qwerty1239 − Info what does the mask look like and how much of the face does it cover

T1TpoBidprnp − INFO: is this a medical mask that hooks over your ears or is it an actual gas mask like a soldier would wear? Edit: I asked before OP...

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The online discussion reveals a spectrum of views—from full support for his right to manage his health, to concerns about the mask’s social impact, to practical tips for compromise.

This young man in Norway turned to a respirator mask to cope with hyperosmia, but it’s caused friction with his parents, who find it embarrassing and rude. While he’s trying to solve a personal challenge, his parents worry about societal judgment. The online community offers a mix of support, concern, and practical advice, highlighting the complexity of the issue.

Do you think he should keep using the mask or explore other options? If you’ve ever had to manage a unique need, what challenges did you face fitting in?

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