AITA for embarrassing my dad during dinner in front of everyone and refusing to apologize for it?

Imagine a family dinner, plates piled high with home-cooked goodness, laughter in the air—until a prank plan goes bust. A 16-year-old girl, fed up with her dad’s relentless practical jokes, flips the script, exposing his scheme to spice up her sister’s boyfriend’s meal. The room freezes, faces flush, and suddenly, the night’s vibe sours.

This Reddit tale is a rollercoaster of family antics and bruised egos. The teen’s bold move left her dad red-faced and her grounded, sparking a debate about pranks, loyalty, and when to draw the line. With a sister’s new boyfriend caught in the crossfire, this story dives deep into the chaos of good intentions and bad timing. Let’s unpack the drama.

‘AITA for embarrassing my dad during dinner in front of everyone and refusing to apologize for it?’

My (16f) dad (46m) loves pranks. He regularly watch those old prank vids on YT for hours then try them out on everyone around him. Once I heard my mom screaming upstairs and ran to see what happened. It turned out dad poured a bucket of ice water on her while she was in the shower.

Another time I walked out to my car and found it missing. I ran back in the house crying because I thought it got stolen. My dad was laughing so hard he was almost on the floor. He moved my car. I love dad but sometimes it’s exhausting living with him.

My older sis Jessie (24f) lives out of state. A month ago, she told us she’s coming to visit and bringing home her boyfriend David (I don’t know his age but he looks to be in his older 20s) for us to meet him. Jessie usually likes the pretty boys who wears polo shirts and are around 6 feet tall (this is important, trust me).

When dad heard about it, he was so excited he couldn’t hold it in. He ran out and bought the hottest hot sauce he could find. He showed it off to me and mom and told us he’s going to make a special plate for David. Of course I told my sis but she told me not to worry about it.

When she came home last night and David walked through the door, we were all shocked. David is a little shorter than sis and a full head shorter than dad. He looks like someone shaved a pit bull and forced it into a sports jacket. I’m not talking about the cute ones you see running downstairs and taking showers with their owners.

He looks like someone stuck him into a blender and he won. When he went to shake hands with dad, I can see David had wider shoulders, bigger hands, and his forearms was 2x as big. I could also see and was staring at this scar on the back of his hands and ran up pass the sleeve of his dress shirt.

Dinner rolls around and David compliments mom on her cooking, which surprised me. I asked if he really likes it he said yes. Sis and I looked at each other and we instantly knew dad didn’t spike David’s meal. I asked dad if David got the right plate or if there was a mix up. Then I told David dad had prepared a special plate for him.

Dad’s face turned bright red and he told me to eat my dinner. Of course I didn’t so I said I’ll go check the kitchen to get the right plate. Sis was trying so hard not to laugh and poor David was confused. Mom squeezed my leg hard so I knew the fun was over.

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After sis and David left, dad yelled at me for embarrassing him. Mom told me to apologize but I refused saying that I was only trying to help dad out with the prank. I’m grounded until I apologize.. Did I go too far for embarrassing my dad? AITA?.

Update:. Thanks for reading my post! Even the people who called my TA, you took the time to read it!  I’m still grounded but it won’t start until sis leaves so I spent the day with her and David. He’s the funniest guy I’ve ever met. He kept sis and I laughing most of the afternoon. He’s also super sweet.

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He opened the doors for us everywhere we went and pulled out sis’ chair for her at the restaurant during lunch. I like him alot. It wasn’t all good times because they were always holding hands and kissing. I stopped doing that freshman year.

My visual description of him was not to say he’s ugly but I meant to say he’s the scariest guy I’ve ever met irl. I felt like a queen today because everywhere we went, people just got out of the way.. Anyway, thanks for taking time to read my post!

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Pranks can spice up life, but when they target guests, things get dicey. This teen’s call-out at dinner exposed her dad’s failed prank, revealing a deeper issue: his love for “punching down.” Let’s break it down.

The father planned to douse David’s meal with hot sauce, likely expecting an easy target. But David’s imposing presence threw him off, and the teen’s blunt reveal—asking if David got the “right plate”—put him on the spot. Dr. John Gottman, a family dynamics expert, notes, “Bullying disguised as humor erodes trust in relationships.” The father’s pranks, like hiding his daughter’s car, seem less about fun and more about control, especially when he demands an apology to save face.

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This reflects a broader issue: pranks often mask power plays. A 2021 study from the American Psychological Association found that aggressive humor can harm family cohesion, especially when aimed at vulnerable targets. The teen’s refusal to apologize stems from frustration with this pattern, though her public call-out risked escalating tensions.

For solutions, open communication is key. The teen could say, “Dad, your pranks make me feel targeted, not entertained.” Dr. Gottman suggests families set boundaries around humor, ensuring it’s mutual and kind. The father should reflect on his motives, and the family could discuss what “fun” really means. This could turn a tense dinner into a chance for growth.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit didn’t hold back, serving a spicy mix of support and shade for this family fiasco. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd:

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Kris82868 − NTA. These 'pranks' are Dad being a bully. He didn't see the new boyfriend as an easy target or weaker than him, so he wimped out when it came to pulling the 'prank'.

magnus_the_fish − NTA. Sure you embarrassed your dad but by going out of his way to humiliate others, he invited it.  Your dad needs to learn that pranks aren't cool. They're not fun. They're a power play Especially when the prankster can't handle when one blows up in his face.

Edit: being grounded until you apologise is also a power play. It's coerced compliance. There's nothing to be gained from it, no useful life lesson for you - it's about your dad's ego. I'm sorry about the situation you're in. 

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Coming from a guy of similar age to your dad, his behaviour sounds abusive and to be honest, a little pathetic. Do what you need to to get by until you move out, and don't set your expectations of reasonable adult behaviour by that of your father.

lilmsbalindabuffant − I'm not sure you are the most mature person, seeing as how you probably made David feel really uncomfortable. But wow, your dad's true colors are showing. He's a c**ard, and his ego is very fragile. Maybe that's a common profile of the avid prankster.

Prechrchet − NTA, but I am not sure what you accomplished with this. From David's perspective, it looks like you were trying to pull something, not your Dad.. BTW, your Dad is a jerk. When you have kids, don't be like him.

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Legitimate-Meal-2290 − YTA for your description of David.

[Reddit User] − ESH — your Dad shouldn’t be “pranking” guests & you shouldn’t have pushed the conversation beyond asking if David really liked dinner. As you said “poor David” .... exactly. You embarrassed yourself & thought it was amusing to make your family look like aholes. David is the person who is owed an apology.

blueavole − NTA-apologize and it will be over faster.. If you want to be a smart a$$:  “I probably do owe you an apology, but first can you explain how my words were different than what dad does? I thought causing a mild heart attack is acceptable? That’s what your pranks do to me.”

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canucksquatch − I know a lot of people on here are anti prank, but I'll risk the down votes and say I love a good natured prank! But the most important part is GOOD NATURED. Your dad is just picking on what he perceives as weak targets.

Dad likes punching down, and that makes him a bully, and a c**ard.  NTA, and you should tell your parents that you'll apologize after they've read this post, and if your verdict is a**hole.

NGDGUnpunished − NTA and YTA. Dad deserved to be called out on his bullying. Sadly, you're going to have to apologize to earn your freedom. You might want to have a talk with your mother about just how much the bullying bothers you; maybe even a counselor.. How you spoke about David is horrible and you're TA for that.

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[Reddit User] − Nta. Your dad is a bully and a c**ard.

These Redditors brought the heat, some cheering the teen’s guts, others wincing at the awkwardness. But do their takes nail the heart of this prank-gone-wrong, or are they just adding fuel to the fire?

This story shows how pranks can backfire, turning family gatherings into battlegrounds. The teen’s bold move sparked a clash, but it also exposed a need for clearer boundaries. It’s a reminder that humor should lift everyone up, not tear them down. What would you do if you were caught in a prank war at home? Share your thoughts below and let’s keep the convo going!

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