AITA for calling out a girl’s lie when she tried to correct me?

In a cozy university house buzzing with the excitement of a new semester, a lively party set the stage for an unexpected clash. Amid laughter and clinking glasses, a newcomer’s bold claim sparked tension that would unravel spectacularly under the garden’s fairy lights.

Our protagonist, a 20-year-old language enthusiast, found herself tangled in a web of linguistic bravado spun by Jess, a guest who boasted of being a polyglot. What began as casual chatter soon spiraled into a showdown of authenticity, leaving partygoers whispering and one ego bruised. The drama raises a juicy question: is it wrong to call out a fib when it’s dressed up as expertise?

‘AITA for calling out a girl’s lie when she tried to correct me?’

University is starting back soon so many of my friends started moving back to town. I (20f) live in a house with 5 friends. Small background (which is relevant), I wasn’t born in the UK but moved here with my parents when I was 17. We come from another European country, so I speak my native language, English (which is far from perfect).

I’ve been learning Spanish and English since I was little and my Spanish is better than my English. I don’t have an obvious accent in English, people just assume that I am Canadian.. We had a small party on Saturday and one friend brought his new girlfriend (Jess). Jess (f, early 20s) and she’s the reason why I am posting here.

Jess made sure to let everyone know that she’s a polyglot and speaks multiple languages. I was obviously impressed (I study modern languages meaning that I’m learning Italian and German on top of Spanish) and obviously I asked what languages she speaks (Spanish, Japanese, Arabic, my native language, German, Korean,

and French) I told her how impressed I was and carried on with my evening. I had a short phone call with my mom, whom I obviously speak to in my native tongue, and I went out of the house to talk to her. Jess was out in the garden and heard my conversation and she corrected me on my pronunciation. I told her that she was in the wrong and she insisted that she knows better.

I didn’t fancy getting into any arguments, so I ignored her and went back inside saying ‘whatever.’ Later, I bumped my head and swore loudly in Spanish (I tend to code-switch a lot when drunk), and she corrected my pronunciation (which was funny because it was her who was incorrect). I ignored her again.

A while later I wanted my friend (who is from Spain) to hand me something, but I forgot how it’s called in English. So I said ‘hand me ‘Spanish word’ please’ knowing my friend would understand. Jess decided to correct me again, using completely incorrect word. My friend and I looked at each other and me being drunk, I lost any self control I had.

I spoke to Jess in Spanish asking her what the hell she thinks she’s doing. And she looked at me telling me that my Spanish was so wrong that she didn’t understand a word. It wasn’t but okay. So I told her the same thing in my native tongue. To which she replied with the same thing.

I laughed at her and told her it’s my native language and she really shouldn’t lie about being a polyglot and correcting people when she doesn’t actually speak those languages. She was fuming. She tried to grab her boyfriend’s hand and leave with him but he was too drunk to care and just said ‘told you to stop lying.’

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I don’t know how she got my number but she called me this morning screaming what an a**hole I am to humiliate her like that and if she knew I spoke the language, she wouldn’t have corrected me. I do feel bad now, I realise how humiliating this must have been for her but on the other hand, she shouldn’t have been lying. I don’t know, was I the a**hole here?

Jess’s attempt to flex her “polyglot” status backfired spectacularly, turning a casual party into a linguistic battlefield. The urge to impress can push people to stretch the truth, but why risk it in a room full of native speakers?

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Psychologist Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne notes in Psychology Today , “Exaggeration often stems from insecurity, a need to elevate one’s status in unfamiliar settings.” Jess’s corrections, though misguided, likely aimed to cement her place in the group. Yet, her insistence on correcting a native speaker suggests overconfidence, clashing with the protagonist’s restraint—until her patience snapped.

This scenario reflects a broader social issue: the pressure to appear knowledgeable in hyper-connected, competitive environments. A 2023 study from the Journal of Social Psychology found 68% of young adults admit to embellishing skills to gain social approval. Jess’s lie, while bold, isn’t unique.

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For the protagonist, a calmer approach might have softened the blow—perhaps a private chat instead of a public call-out. Dr. Whitbourne advises, “Confronting dishonesty with empathy can preserve relationships while addressing the issue.” Moving forward, both could learn: Jess to embrace authenticity, and the protagonist to balance honesty with tact.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and shade. Their takes are as bold as Jess’s claims, with some cheering the protagonist’s clapback and others marveling at the sheer audacity of the lie. Buckle up for the crowd’s unfiltered reactions:

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NUT-me-SHELL − NTA. If she didn’t want to play a rousing game of whose d**k is bigger, she ought not have dropped her pants. She has only herself to blame.

Tall-Poem-6808 − What is it with all these stories where one person tries to show off their language skills, get caught with their pants down by a native speaker, and then blow up on them with 'you should have told me you speak the language before I announce it so that I wouldn't get caught in a lie'.. I don't really socialize anymore, but are people really this f'in stupid??. NTA

Wolfenbro − NTA. This is a really stupid thing to lie about. She played a stupid game, she won a stupid prize. That’s all on her

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SurprisedPikachu420 − If she knew you spoke the language she wouldn’t have corrected you??? That makes zero sense 😂😂😂😂If she’s right she’s right, but low and behold she wasn’t. Nta and I hope the girl learned her lesson to stop lying 😂😂😂😂😂

franzy613 − NTA. She literally lied, for some reason actually tried to correct someone despite lying about being a polyglot, and tried to pin the fallout on you.

Sea_Bank_7603 − NTA, I hate people like her. One thing though, if you learned the Spanish from Spain as a second language, pronunciation and many common words are widely different from other Spanishes. My native Spanish variation is different from other Spanishes in grammar, pronunciation and basic vocab, that doesn't mean that it's 'wrong'.

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FunnyMicrobe571 − Nta, she shouldn't be trying to correct people if she don't know the language. She embarrassed herself by acting like that

Throwaway-2587 − NTA. I'll never understand why people feel the need to make up lies and to make them this big. She could've said she was learning all those languages and while it still might not have been true,

she wouldn't have needed to defend her 'knowledge', because people wouldn't expect her to know it all.. Instead she was correcting others that were speaking a language repeatedly. Why???. She brought this on herself.

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EMMMZU − NTA. She's also been humiliating you by 'correcting' your pronunciation. Which in itself is a s**tty thing to do to anyone. Languages are for communication and if the receiving end (which she was not in either case) understands it there is no place for anyone to correct it.

DesertSong-LaLa − NTA - She is a poser. It was gonna be you to someone down the line to call her on her bshit. If she did it once; that is a pass; but come on! Poser got put in her place.

These Redditors rallied behind the protagonist, roasting Jess’s faux expertise with glee. But do their cheers capture the full picture, or are they just loving the drama?

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This tale of tangled tongues reminds us that honesty, though sometimes sharp, keeps connections real. Jess’s tumble from her polyglot pedestal stings, but it’s a lesson in owning our limits. The protagonist’s bold move sparked debate, but it also cleared the air. What would you do if someone tried to school you with a flimsy lie? Share your thoughts and stories—let’s keep the convo rolling!

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