AITA for taking the last slice of pie from my pregnant wife?

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Imagine coming home after a long shift, dreaming of a tangy bite of lemon meringue pie—your favorite treat from your sister’s oven. For one man, that dream keeps slipping away as his pregnant wife, now a sudden fan of the pie, devours every slice before he gets a chance. In their cozy kitchen, a single slice becomes a battlefield, with cravings, promises, and emotions colliding in a moment that’s both silly and raw.

When he finally claims the last piece, his wife’s tears catch him off guard, turning a light-hearted pie dispute into a deeper reflection on pregnancy’s emotional rollercoaster. This tale of a shared treat gone awry pulls us into the sweet-and-sour dynamics of love, understanding, and a really good dessert. Was he wrong to hold his ground, or just craving fairness?

‘AITA for taking the last slice of pie from my pregnant wife?’

Okay, title sounds really bad. Here we go. My wife (29f) is in her third trimester, and she and I (28m) have been married for 4 years. My sister is an amazing baker and has always sent delicious baked goods to family members. It used to be that wife and I would split the goodies pretty evenly, except for the lemon meringue pie, which my wife didn't like (but I loved) so I ate most of that.

However, since she's become pregnant, my wife has developed a sudden hankering for the lemon meringue. So much so that, well, she usually ends up eating all of it now. (I'm usually at work when my sister delivers the pie, so my wife, at home, will get to it first.)

I asked if she wouldn't mind saving me just a single slice, because I liked it a lot too, and she agreed - but then ended up eating it all and said she hadn't been able to stop her cravings. This happened for a second time, then a third time. I know it's silly to get worked up over a slice of pie, and she's pregnant so of course her appetite is greater... but it was something I had been looking forward to and then my expectations kept getting dashed.

The fourth time, I again asked if I could have the last slice of pie. My wife said yes, as usual, and promised she meant it. This time, my shift ended early so I arrived in time to see my wife chowing down. There was just one slice left and she was eyeing it. When she saw me, she apologized and asked if she could have the last slice  that now that she had started eating it, she couldn't help but really, really need it.

On the other hand, I had been looking forward to the pie all day. I said no, we talked about this, and you already had the whole rest of the pie. I then took the slice and started eating. My wife immediately burst into tears and ran out of the room,

and she's been in there ever since and not talking to me.  I now feel really s**tty. I didn't think she would react this way, and the pie was not worth whatever distress I caused her. Instead of lemon meringue, I only taste regret.. So Reddit, AITA for eating that slice?

Edit: Wow, thanks for all the perspectives, a lot of this didn't occur to me. I'm still catching up on the comments so apologies if I don't get to some questions. As a quick update, my wife came out of the bedroom, and before I could say anything, she apologized.

She said she had felt embarrassed about her eating habits for a while (she used to be an extremely healthy eater before the pregnancy), and when I took the last slice it just drove home all those insecurities. She said she had felt bad every time she ate the pies before, and was upset at her own lack of self control.

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I apologized as well and told her my issue with the pie was a very silly, insignificant concern next to what she was doing (carrying a baby!) and I cared much more about her feelings. She was feeling very tired after that, so laid down for the night, but we agreed we would talk more about everything tomorrow.

To clarify some things that I might have described confusingly - she did not eat a pie every day or anything like that. The times were spread apart. And no, I'm not aware of any eating disorders prior to the pregnancy. I'm getting some mixed responses about whether this amount of pie consumption is healthy,

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but I figure tonight wasn't the best time to bring it up. Also, my wife is generally a very thoughtful, considerate person, with no track record of manipulation, so commenters talking about that don't need to worry. Again, thanks everyone for your input.

Pregnancy cravings can turn a mild-mannered eater into a pie-devouring force, but this story is less about dessert and more about communication. The OP’s wife, driven by third-trimester hormones, struggled with self-control, a common experience—70% of pregnant women report intense cravings, per a 2023 study (Journal of Nutrition). Dr. Laura Markham, a parenting expert, notes, “Pregnancy amplifies emotions, making small conflicts feel monumental” (Aha! Parenting).

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The OP’s frustration was valid; his wife’s repeated failure to save a slice, despite promises, broke trust over something small but meaningful. Her tears weren’t just about pie but tied to deeper insecurities about her changing eating habits, as she later shared. The OP’s decision to eat the slice wasn’t malicious, but it hit a nerve in a vulnerable moment. His quick apology and their honest talk show a strong partnership.

Dr. Markham suggests couples navigate pregnancy stress with empathy and clear boundaries. The OP could’ve hidden a slice or asked his sister to deliver when he’s home, as Redditors suggested. The wife might benefit from discussing her insecurities with a doctor to rule out nutritional gaps, like iron deficiency, which can spike cravings. Their reconciliation is a step forward, but ongoing check-ins can prevent future flare-ups.

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For resolution, the couple could set playful rules—like splitting pies upfront—or explore store-bought treats to ease tension. The OP’s gesture of prioritizing her feelings over pie shows love; building on that with humor and patience will keep their bond sweet, no matter who gets the last slice.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

The Reddit gang sliced into this pie drama like it was fresh from the oven, serving up a mix of cheers and eye-rolls. It’s like a bake-off where everyone’s got a hot take on who deserves the crust. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

knitmyproblem − NTA. She's probably doing more harm than good to the baby by eating so much sugar and junk food. Just because she's pregnant doesn't mean she should be shoveling everything in her mouth.

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Cammar86 − NTA - I am 33weeks 4 days pregnant and your wife is being a huge A-hole Like pregnant or not, the whole freaking pie? She is selfish and is using her pregnancy as an excuse to eat all the pie.. I would let her cry

readshannontierney − NTA. Pregnancy is not an excuse to lose all self-control and no one \*needs\* pie. Your baby will be fine without pie. Your wife will not starve without a whole pie. If she really wants more pie in the house, she should buy extra pie or nicely see if your sister would be willing to make extra (even though your sister sounds lovely for baking for you guys on the regular.) It's not unreasonable to want one slice out of eight.

Humble-Cheesecake778 − NTA maybe ask your sister if you can pick up the pie instead of her delivering it so you can avoid this later

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thatbrunettegirl10 − Jesus NTA. I’m pregnant also, and cravings are CRAVINGS. You want certain things but you don’t have to have them or die. That seems like a super over reaction, especially when you’ve been patient before. Pregnancy is a roller coaster, but as one who is on their second round, it’s not a free pass to be an a**hole. Let her calm down, she’s probably hormonal and maybe get some pie together later!

dstar_shark − NTA i liked the suggestion that you ask your sister if you can pick up the pie from her next time. that way, even if your wife eats 7/8 slices, you can both start with a slice. missing out on one slice hopefully doesn’t have the same emotional impact when there are six more in front of her.

i also agree with all the advice to get her iron & vitamin levels checked. there might be something she’s missing that’s causing the cravings, which are then heightened and made more emotional by the flood of hormones in her system.

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also! i know it’s not your sister’s homemade pie, but if i were you, i’d pick up a lemon meringue pie on your way home tonight as a kind gesture. i don’t think you did any wrong, per se, but i do think your wife is growing a whole new human inside her. and kindness is never the wrong path.. [edited to add:

the amount of people on this post who feel it’s appropriate to pass judgement on another person’s food choices actually does not surprise me, but it does sadden me. you do not know this woman. if you have been pregnant and did not have a similar experience, OK! cool.

your case is not the same then. so comparison is irrelevant. if you are a medical practitioner, you are not *her* medical practitioner. it is one thing to say, “hey this might indicate an underlying problem” and a whole other awful thing to say anything in the vein of “OMG THAT GLUTTON SHE 100% HAS GESTATIONAL DIABETES.”

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the OP has made it clear in the comments and in the post that this has happened a few times, but certainly not every day, or even every week, as well as explaining they were smaller than usual pies. which shouldn’t matter! you are not this woman. please stop flipping out about her food choices. the OP asked for a judgment about one specific incident,

not a referendum on his wife’s pregnancy cravings in total. we all do things occasionally that we *know* we shouldn’t do, whether it be food, drinking, thc, spending money, compulsive exercise, food restriction, judging strangers on the internet, whatever your thing is. maybe try treating others with a little grace and kindness.

calm the f**k down about this woman. stop speaking about her in gross, dehumanizing language. her body and what she consumes are actually none of our business. pregnant people are not public property that everyone gets to judge for not doing what you would do. her body is hers. her food choices are hers. *even if you disagree and don’t like it* it’s still not up to you.]

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grimmistired − NTA, she shouldn't be eating all of that. Also pregnant or not, shes behaving oddly

Skippy2716 − NTA Pregnancy hormones do not give you the right to be a greedy a**hole. She didn't need the last slice. She wanted it.. And throwing a tantrum over it ... Lemon pie aside, is she normally this entitled?

RollingKatamari − NTA-if this was the 1st time, it would have been a funny story to tell the kids later, but this is the 4th time already! I get cravings are really weird and they can take over your every thought, but...you've earned some cake as well. I think next time, your sis should drop the cake by when you're home so you can both split the cake.

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KittyWhisper85 − NTA. Pregnancy is no excuse for being an AH. No one 'needs' pie.

Redditors mostly backed the OP, calling out the wife’s pie-hogging while urging kinder fixes, like picking up the pie himself. Some worried about her health, others saw hormones at play. Do these takes cut to the core, or just stir the filling? One thing’s clear: this pie fight has everyone hungry for more.

This lemon meringue mishap proves even a slice of pie can stir big emotions. The OP’s stand for his share was fair, but his wife’s tears revealed deeper struggles. Reddit’s split on pie etiquette, but the couple’s honest talk offers hope. Have you ever clashed over a favorite treat with someone you love? What would you do in this pie predicament? Share your thoughts below!

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