AITA for reporting a pregnant coworker to management after discovering we’re all covering for her?

Picture a small team, juggling shifts and tasks like a well-oiled machine, until one member starts coasting. For a 5-month-pregnant woman, already battling physical strain, covering for a 4-month-pregnant coworker who’s late, skips tasks, and fudges timesheets is pushing her to the edge. While the coworker boasts of an easy pregnancy, the team—including the OP—picks up her slack without compensation. When attempts to address it fail, the OP considers reporting her to management, but worries it’s petty.

This Reddit tale dives into a tangle of workplace fairness, pregnancy challenges, and team loyalty. Is the OP wrong for wanting to blow the whistle, or is her coworker’s behavior a step too far? Let’s unpack this workplace drama and find out.

‘AITA for reporting a pregnant coworker to management after discovering we’re all covering for her?’

I am 5 months pregnant, coworker is 4 months pregnant, we work in a small team of 8 and often cover each other shifts, stay back when someone has appointments and generally help each other out. I have been really struggling with my pregnancy and have been careful to schedule appointments on my days off

and to take as many precautions as I can to avoid impacting everyone else. Coworker, who is saying that she’s having a wonderful, enjoyable pregnancy, is showing up late, then going for a smoke and a coffee before starting.

“I’m just running late, at OBGYN” quickly becomes and hour or more late, and isn’t being noted on her time sheets, so the person covering her isn’t getting paid for that time and it’s especially difficult for me when I’m already struggling physically to not know what time I’ll be able to go home.

I recently learned that other coworkers have been covering a significant part of her tasks, because they feel badly for her having to do it whilst pregnant- tasks that I’m still doing and have been doing with ease. Our manager is very accommodating

and has made several offers to purchase alternative equipment and make changes in the workplace, that she has refused (as have I so far) because it’s easy to complete these tasks the way things are now. I know they are not aware that coworker simply isn’t doing those things, because our manager has asked me about it recently.

WIBTA if I discussed this with management? Other staff are complaining to me about the additional workload. I’m also being expected to put in additional effort at a time that I have no extra energy to give. Trying to bring it up with coworker hasn’t made a difference,

and other staff have already told me they’re too tired to help me when I’m struggling because they’re already helping her. I’m worried that I’m just being petty about everyone fussing over her, when I’ve been working so hard to not impact the rest of the workplace..

Editing to add: The fact that she’s smoking is. A) only relevant because it cuts into my time when I want to go home. B) none of our business, whether we like it or not C) possibly because she may be cutting back slowly under doctors orders. I had to wean myself off medications because cold turkey would have significantly increased the risk of miscarriage. I’m not her doctor and you’re not either.

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Pregnancy isn’t a free pass to dodge work, especially when it burdens a team already stretching to help. The OP’s coworker, despite claiming an easy pregnancy, consistently arrives late, falsifies timesheets, and offloads tasks, leaving others—particularly the physically struggling OP—to cover without pay. Her refusal of accommodations, while the OP manages similar tasks, suggests she’s exploiting the team’s empathy. The manager’s unawareness, due to the team’s silent covering, perpetuates the issue.

This scenario highlights workplace equity challenges. A 2023 study by the Society for Human Resource Management found that 40% of employees feel resentful when coworkers exploit accommodations, like pregnancy-related leniency. The coworker’s actions, especially falsifying timesheets, border on unethical, impacting team morale and finances.

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HR expert Alison Green advises, “Address workplace imbalances directly with management, focusing on specific behaviors, not personal circumstances”. The OP’s attempts to confront her coworker failed, making escalation reasonable. Her pregnancy shouldn’t be mentioned to avoid legal complications, as pregnancy is a protected class in many regions.

Advice: The OP should document specific instances of lateness and task-dodging, then present them to management neutrally, emphasizing unpaid coverage and team strain. A group discussion with coworkers could align the team’s stance. Resources like SHRM’s workplace fairness guides can help navigate this.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit brought the heat, rallying behind the OP with sharp takes on her coworker’s behavior. From calling out entitlement to urging immediate reporting, the comments are a lively mix. Here’s what the community had to say.

MaIngallsisaracist - NTA, but when you discuss it I'd leave the pregnancy out of it altogether (pregnancy can be a protected class). Instead, just bring up that she's late, that people are covering for her and not getting paid, etc. etc. etc. Don't blame it on the pregnancy; blame it on her work ethic or lack thereof.. I hope your pregnancy gets easier.

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OilyLamp - NTA - if she can't do her job properly then maybe she should go on leave. Being pregnant is no excuse to be late all the time and offload your work. Sure some things can be made easier for a pregnant person but not to the extent it seems she is taking.

sleeeighbells - NTA. Just because she’s pregnant doesn’t mean she gets to get away with literally *stealing* money from other people because she isn’t adjusting the time sheet accordingly. Being pregnant isn’t an excuse to not do her job, unless her doctor has given reasons not. You’re still capable of doing yours & you’re further along. Go to management.

Legxis - She's the a**hole for smoking when she's pregnant.

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[Reddit User] - NTA, Your being a normal pregnant woman she's being incredibly entitled. It's wonderful that your team supports each other and you try to accommodate everyone but it sounds like she's taking advantage of it. That's going to ruin it for everyone in the long run. Go to HR or the management

PupperPuppet - NTA. She's milking her pregnancy to f**k around. That's assholish enough whenever anyone does it, but it's especially a d**k move to do it when she works with another pregnant woman who not only has to pick up the slack but also goes out of her way to avoid making extra work for others.. She's an a**hole. Manager needs to tell her to shape up or ship out.

wishingonmars - NTA-it sounds like she is taking advantage of you all's kindness and willingness to help. She doesn't get a pass just because she's pregnant. I'm also pregnant, but like you, I try my hardest to schedule things to least inconvenience my coworkers, and I'm honest about about time I do need to take.

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[Reddit User] - NTA. If she's not pulling her weight then she gets the same treatment as everybody else. And she is *smoking* during her pregnancy?

foosh124 - NTA. You're both pregnant, and yet only one of you gets what I will label 'special treatment'. I would definitely express this to management so that everything can be fair.

rak1882 - NTA But honestly just stop covering for her. It's okay to say- and around your other co-workers if you want to but that's up to you- that you can't cover because want to take it as easy as possible during your own pregnancy or because X, Y, Z or because whatever.

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If she can't do something or needs to come in late- that is something she needs to take up with management and right now- all of you are just enabling her and it's not going to get any better once she has an infant to drop off to day care in the morning. And you aren't going to feel any differently or in less the same situation.

These Reddit reactions are as bold as a whistleblower’s report, but do they miss any workplace nuances? Is the coworker genuinely struggling, or just gaming the system?

The OP’s frustration isn’t pettiness—it’s a stand for fairness in a team stretched thin. Her coworker’s slacking, from falsified timesheets to skipped tasks, exploits the team’s goodwill, especially unfair to a pregnant colleague managing her own load. This story reminds us that empathy shouldn’t mean enabling. What would you do if a coworker dodged their duties? Share your thoughts—have you ever had to report someone at work?

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