AITA for eating sushi in front of my pregnant wife?

In the soft glow of a sushi restaurant, a pregnant woman watches her husband savor the raw fish rolls she can no longer enjoy, her heart sinking with each bite. For one Reddit couple, a routine date night turns tense when the husband, a self-proclaimed picky eater, orders their usual dish despite his wife’s plea to avoid it, her pregnancy cravings clashing with his stubborn taste buds.

Posted on the AITA forum, this story of culinary insensitivity stirs a lively debate about empathy in marriage. The husband’s choice to prioritize his palate over his wife’s feelings lays bare the sacrifices of pregnancy, drawing readers into a relatable tale of love, cravings, and compromise gone awry.

‘AITA for eating sushi in front of my pregnant wife?’

Before my wife got pregnant, we used to go out to the same sushi place and order the same thing, but our usual order has raw fish, so she can't eat it now. She also can't drink obviously, which we used to do here. We went to the same restaurant because she still loves Japanese food but she has to order something different.

She asked me if I would not order our usual because it makes her sad that she can't eat it, but I'm a picky eater so I ordered it anyway because I don't really like trying new things, especially sushi which can be hit or miss. She told me I was being inconsiderate for eating the things she can't in front of her. AITA?

Navigating pregnancy as a couple can feel like a delicate dance, especially around food. This husband’s choice to eat sushi his pregnant wife can’t have, despite her request, underscores a moment of missed empathy. His later regret shows growth, but the initial misstep highlights a common marital tension.

Pregnancy imposes strict dietary limits, often leaving women feeling deprived. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman notes, “Small acts of consideration build trust in partnerships” . By ignoring his wife’s plea, the husband overlooked a chance to show solidarity, prioritizing his pickiness over her emotional needs.

The wife’s sadness reflects the broader burden of pregnancy sacrifices. A 2022 study found 81% of pregnant women crave restricted foods . Her request was a call for partnership, not control, making his refusal feel dismissive to many.

This story taps into debates about spousal support during pregnancy. The American Pregnancy Association emphasizes shared sacrifices to ease maternal stress . For this couple, choosing pregnancy-safe dishes together or dining elsewhere could rebuild connection, fostering teamwork before the baby arrives.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit users largely sided with the wife, viewing the husband’s sushi choice as selfish given her pregnancy restrictions. They felt his picky eating was a weak excuse, urging him to prioritize his wife’s emotional well-being over personal preferences during such a transformative time.

Many emphasized the sacrifices pregnant women make, from diet to comfort, and saw the husband’s actions as a missed opportunity to show support. The community’s consensus was that small gestures of empathy matter, especially when a partner is navigating the challenges of carrying a child.

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StonerTigerMom − YTA - you took her to a sushi place and she asked if you could at least order something she didn’t have to l**t after and you couldn’t even change your order to make your hormonal, pregnant wife less sad.. Damn man, just go to Olive Garden next time.

BoneYardBetty − YTA You should put some consideration into your wife *who is growing a human* instead of your pickiness. What are you, twelve?

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[Reddit User] − YTA. The woman is carrying your child and dealing with all the physical and mental stress that brings with it and you couldn't even be a big boy enough to order something that wasn't your first choice. 'I'm a picky eater' - You're a grown man, not a toddler. You need to figure out a way to grow the f**k up fast before your child arrives.

_faithtrustpixiedust − You left some pretty major details out of your story telling that add some pretty important context to this story, OP. So let’s lay out some facts as fully revealed in your comments. - You knew your wife’s doctor had said no raw fish.

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You nevertheless decided to surprise her by taking her to your mutual favourite sushi restaurant  She requested that you not eat your usual meal in front of her because it would make her sad (so to recap, you brought her here without her knowledge knowing full well she couldn’t eat her favourite meal and basically asked you not to taunt her with it).

You said no and ordered it anyway There was a STUNNING lack of consideration about your wife’s thoughts, needs, emotions and pregnancy limitations in this chain of decision making, on a level that makes me seriously question your quality as a partner.. YTA, big time.

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EzodWay − YTA,You chose picky eating over your pregnant wife's wishes

ah04eo − YTA without a doubt.. She is giving up A LOT to carry and birth this child and you can't forgo one meal?

thesquirrelmasta − ~~INFO~~. When did she ask you not to order and did you agree then order what you wanted?. ​ ~~N T A. This should have been a conversation before they sat down to eat. Side note, hibachi is always a good choice. Its basically a stir fry with your choice of meat, veggies and rice or noddles~~. ​

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YTA. Wow you took her there knowing full well she couldn't have sushi?! It would have been different if it was her choice. But you took her there and ate sushi in front of her even though she asked you not to. That is a A move. You are a pretty good manipulator though, you purposely gave just enough information to imply it was all her choice. Terrible.

karmachameleon92 − Yes, YTA. Your hormonal pregnant wife asked you to do her a favor and you threw it in her face. I agree with her, you were definitely inconsiderate.

uwstudent101 − YTA. She’s carrying your child and making a huge sacrifice (being physically sick, constipated, in pain and can’t eat a lot of things) and you’re being a huge a**hole by refusing to make one adjustment to your diet for 8 months. Like I honestly can’t even understand why you think you’re not the a**hole in this situation. Be kind and loving to your poor wife jeez....

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OTmommy − YTA- while I never asked my husband not to eat or drink things I could 't during my 2 pregnancies. He was considerate of the sacrifices I was making. Your wife was struggling with the burden of carrying a baby that is both of yours, and instead of showing support you essentially said, 'I don't care.'

This husband’s sushi saga, resolved with newfound self-awareness, reveals the power of small choices in a marriage. His story underscores that pregnancy demands teamwork, where empathy can turn tension into connection. It’s a reminder that love often lies in the sacrifices we make for each other. Share your thoughts or experiences in the comments—how do you navigate compromises in relationships?

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