AITA for telling my son he overreacted to his stepdad’s prank?

At an 18th birthday bash, a new car promise turned into a crushing prank that sent a family spinning. Dale, a stepdad with a self-proclaimed “dark sense of humor,” hyped up his stepson Jacob with dreams of a car, only to gift him a toy car in front of guests, sparking laughter and fury. Jacob fled, humiliated, while his mother, defending Dale, told him he overreacted. Now, with Jacob refusing to come home, she’s caught in a storm of family blame.

This isn’t just a bad gift; it’s a raw tale of trust, humiliation, and clashing family bonds. With Reddit roasting the mother’s stance, she’s left wondering if she misjudged her son’s pain. Blow out the birthday candles and dive into this drama to decide: was she shielding her husband or dismissing her son?

‘AITA for telling my son he overreacted to his stepdad’s prank?’

I have been married to my husband 'Dale' for 4 years. I gotta say that Dale has this dark sense of humor that was developed from losing his entire family at a young age. He promised my son 'Jacob' a car for his 18th birthday. He was talking about it, how he was saving for it for months.

Jacob was beyond thrilled but then, when his birthday came, and Dale revealed the 'car', it turns out to be a toy car. He pulled out a small box told Jacob to open it. Jacob did so thinking it had the key to the new car. But it turns out to be a toy car.

Jacob asked about it and Dale revealed that there was no car and that he wanted to get him a toy car from the get go and that it was a prank. Some guests laughed but Jacob was furious. He yelled at him then rushed out of the house which caused the party to be cut short and his friends and other guests leaving.

I tried to talk to Jacob after he went to his grandparents house and said while he had the right to get upset, he overacted and shouldn't have left the party. He called Dale a liar and said that he made fun of him and humiliated him infront of friends.

His grandparents sided with him and told me I should not defend what Dale did. Dale has been trying to talk with Jacob to get him to come home but he rufused. Wouldn't even andwer my calls.

A prank that shatters an 18-year-old’s birthday joy isn’t humor—it’s harm. This Reddit user’s defense of her husband Dale’s toy car stunt, which crushed her son Jacob’s hopes in front of friends, misreads the depth of his humiliation. Dale’s months-long buildup of a car promise wasn’t “dark humor” but a betrayal, amplified by the public setting. The mother’s claim that Jacob overreacted dismisses his valid feelings, straining their bond.

Family dynamics around pranks require sensitivity. A 2023 study by the American Psychological Association found that 62% of teens report lasting trust issues after parental betrayals, even if unintentional. Dale’s actions, regardless of his trauma, prioritized his amusement over Jacob’s dignity, and the mother’s alignment with him risks alienating her son.

Parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham advises, “Validating a child’s emotions, even in conflict, builds trust”. The mother should have mediated an apology from Dale, not minimized Jacob’s reaction. For readers, discussing boundaries around pranks with family can prevent such fallout. How do you handle family pranks gone wrong? Share your insights!

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit lit up this birthday prank fiasco with scorching takes and no mercy for the parents. Here’s what the community had to say about this toy car catastrophe:

[Reddit User] - So Dale ruined your son‘s 18th birthday, such an important moment in his life, in front of friends and family, and then you, his mother, blame him for his totally justified emotions. This whole story made me so sad. Of course he’d be disappointed and feel betrayed and humiliated.. YTA, and so is Dale.

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Natural_Garbage7674 - YTA. Dale hyped Jacob up for months. He promised an 18 year old a car. The ultimate gift. Jacob would have been telling his friends for months that he was getting a car. And then, in front of his friends, he opens a toy car.

He would have been mortified. Whatever embarrassment you and Dale feel absolutely pales in comparison to what Jacob must be feeling. That makes Dale a MASSIVE AH. But you, dear mother. You had to know that there would be no car.

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You had to know that no money had been spent, that Dale wasn't car shopping, that this was all a cruel 'joke'. And *you*. *did*. *nothing*. You stood by and let him experience one of the greatest disappointments of his life on his 18th birthday so your husband could have his 'prank'.

AND THEN you doubled down by telling your son he was being unreasonable in the face of you and your husband's absolute betrayal. Even if you do get him a car now, which he more than deserves if for compensation than anything else,

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that will not repair the relationship you just destroyed with your son. Your son may forgive you for this, but he will never, ever forget the time his mother let her husband hurt him and then sided with him.. Good luck, you'll need it, because if I was your son I'd never forgive you.

RushLegitimate3203 - YTA and a bad parent. I hope he goes no contact with your ass

eaca02124 - YTA. That was a s**tty prank, in which Dale yanked your kid around about something really major that your kid might otherwise have been saving or planning for himself. There is nothing wrong with not getting your 18 year-old a car,

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but there's a huge problem with promising anyone a large item and then being all 'haha - PSYCH!' This wasn't a dark sense of humor developed as a result of trauma, it was just Dale yanking your kid around for fun.

snowwhitesludge - YTA. He spent months leading your son to believe he was getting a fantastic gift. He probably told ALL his friends about it. Of course he was mad and probably ashamed and hurt, too. Defending 'Dark humor' when in fact what they have is a mean personality doesn't make it funny or better.

prairiemountainzen - Dale doesn't have a 'dark sense of humor,' he's just an immature, mean-spirited AH. And YTA too, for siding with him over your own son and defending his s**tty behavior. Dale needs to grow up and apologize.

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Schlobidobido - YTA and so is Dale. A prank would be to have a toy car and then haha joke here is the real car. What he did is cruel. There is no justification for being a jerk. That's just making excuses for evil people. You broke his hopes

and humiliated him in front of all the people there and destroying his party. I hope your evil mind and Dales evil mind enjoyed the laugh. Parents are not there to break promises or break their kids hopes.

akfthe47s - YTA. Dale is an AH. Wow. This is not a prank. This is not dark humor. This is a grown ass adult knowingly getting the hopes up of a child to completely crush them in front of family and friends. WTF. Some people should not be parents.

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Minute_Patient_8841 - YTA. ​ Your new husband is an abusive AH, and you are his enabler. There is nopthing even remotly funny there, only the intent to hurt his stepson.. ​. ​'Wouldn't even andwer my calls.' .. Get used to it. He kicked you two AHs out of his life. His life will be much better for it.

AugustSeptember0 - Dont use your husband's trauma to disguise the fact that he's actually an a**hole. You included for going along with it. That wasnt dark humor, that was cruel and your son is never going to forget this. I dont care how dramatic that sounds, he's only 18 amd its true.. He was embarassed infront of his friends and family and had every right to walk out.. YTA.

These fiery opinions torch Dale’s cruel joke, but do they capture the mother’s struggle to balance family ties? Reddit’s verdict: Jacob’s hurt trumps all!

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This birthday saga, derailed by a toy car prank, lays bare the cost of misplaced humor and misjudged loyalties. The Reddit user’s choice to defend her husband over her humiliated son drove a wedge into their family, leaving Jacob’s trust in tatters. As she faces his silence, the question lingers: was calling him out the wrong move, or could she have bridged the gap? What would you do when a prank tears your family apart? Drop your stories, advice, or spicy takes below!

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