Aita for changing my Netflix password that me and my friends used after them trying to push me out for someone new?

Picture a cozy Friday night, popcorn in hand, ready to binge a new series—only to find your Netflix account maxed out by someone else’s drama. That’s the frustration a 17-year-old felt when her generosity was stretched thin. Sharing her Netflix subscription with friends seemed like a fun idea, but when unpaid profiles and entitled attitudes took over, she hit her limit. Her story, shared on Reddit, dives into the messy clash of friendships, fairness, and a pesky cousin named Plum, sparking a debate about boundaries and loyalty that’s all too relatable.

What happens when kindness gets mistaken for a free pass? This teen’s tale of Netflix woes unfolds with a mix of betrayal and bold moves, pulling readers into her world. With friends dismissing her feelings and even dragging her mom into the fray, her decision to change the password stirred up more than just a streaming glitch—it tested the strength of her relationships.

‘Aita for changing my Netflix password that me and my friends used after them trying to push me out for someone new?’

I (17f) have an active Netflix subscription that I decided to share with my friends and also have them pay their parts of the payment but eventually I ended up paying for them cause some of them couldn't afford it. Anyways one of my friend “rose” has this cousin who is also of our same age let's call her 'plum'.

So plum hates me cause her current bf had a crush on me way before they were dating, She has shown open hate towards me and would talk s**t about me to rose. So one day rose texted me saying how her cousin wanted to watch her favourite series and if I was okay with giving her the password.

I was okay as long as she used Rose's screen so I said yes without thinking much about it. For a few days I didn't use my account because I was busy with school work and on the weekend I decided to watch something and I noticed that plum has created her own screen.

I was obviously pissed off but thought of making her pay her part and went off to watch my movie but the screen limit was full. I decided to call rose and confront her about this but she said I was overreacting and told me to adjust my watch time so that It won't interfere with theirs.

I told her that I am not the one to adjust here as I am the one who's paying the majority as none of them pays their equal parts. She said I was being a spoiler brat and how everything is easy for me and how broke people suffer everyday and I should be thankful rather than complaining for a petty issue.

I hung up on her and decided to change my Netflix password and after that they tried texting me but I ignored. Almost after a week my mom texted me saying I should stop acting like a brat and ruin friendships and to give back my password to my friends.

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Apparently they called my mom and told her a completely different story of how I have issues with plum and I'm being jealous of her getting close with my friends. They told my mom I bragged about paying their parts and being in a financially stable position

and how they should be thankful to me and act as I say. Anyways I told my mom what actually happened and she wasn't mad anymore. But she said that I was overreacting and I should apologize to them as I may have hurt their feelings.. So AITA?

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Sharing subscriptions can feel like a friendly gesture, but it often stirs up unexpected drama. This teen’s situation highlights a classic boundary issue—when generosity meets entitlement, tensions flare. She offered her Netflix account to friends, covering costs when they couldn’t, only to face Plum’s unauthorized profile and her friends’ dismissal. The conflict boils down to fairness: she paid the lion’s share, yet her access was sidelined.

This scenario reflects a broader issue of boundary-setting in friendships. According to a 2021 study by the Pew Research Center, 59% of teens report feeling taken advantage of by friends in shared financial arrangements (pewresearch.org). Here, the Reddit user’s friends leaned on her generosity, dismissing her valid frustrations as “spoiled” behavior, while Plum’s profile pushed her over the edge.

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Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, notes, “Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect and clear boundaries” (gottman.com). In this case, the teen’s friends blurred those lines, assuming her financial stability meant she should absorb the cost and inconvenience. Her decision to change the password was a stand for self-respect, reclaiming control over her resource.

To navigate this, she could set firm rules—like requiring equal payments or limiting profiles—and communicate them clearly. If friends push back, a calm discussion about mutual respect might help. Alternatively, she could keep the account solo, avoiding future freeloaders. Boundaries aren’t just about saying “no”; they’re about ensuring everyone feels valued.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit’s got no chill when it comes to freeloaders, and this story lit up the comments with some spicy takes. From calling out fake friends to suggesting parental controls, the community had her back. Here’s what they said:

Beatlebot88 − NTA. If they have enough time to call your mom and complain about something they were getting for free, then they have enough time to beg their parents to buy Netflix for them. Or they have enough time to make some money and pay for it on their own.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. They basically told you to get over you not being able to watch Netflix while basically paying for it entirely lol also, the plum girl created a whole profile? Lmao nah, don’t let them back in and just keep it to yourself tbh.

mooweemag − They hardly sound like 'friends' so it's like sharing your password with total strangers who then kick you off the service... NTA

Difficult_Main_8666 − This is for people asking about who paid and who didn't. Sorry I forgot to add details about it. So during the first month everyone paid their EQUAL parts but by the 2nd and 3rd month some of them couldn't pay so I had to pay for them.

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And after a few months one of them stopped paying completely and rest of them only gave HALF and sometimes QUARTER of what their expected to pay. And plum hasn't paid anything. Hope this helps.

No-Jellyfish-1208 − NTA You are paying the majority so you should be the one having the most access to the service. You did the right thing. Don't let the 'friends' leech off you.

[Reddit User] − NTA, get new friends though. They don’t deserve you, and are taking advantage of you. None cared for your feelings til their Netflix turned off. They should be thankful for you, not the other way around LOL.

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MonkeyWrench − NTA You are now in an awkward position since they all had your password. If you decided to give them the password again, they would be able to lock you out of the main account, make changes, etc.. Do not invite this type of problems into your life.. IF you are going to give them access again..

Go into Parental Controls and set it up and use a PIN to lock the accounts. * Make them a specific account and give it a PIN, that is your friends account and they have no access or ability to make changes to your master account.. * If they don't like this solution, tell them its that or nothing, they can choose.

ThisBotWearsClothes − Hey there, OP! Just wanted to let you know that, unless you want. us all to get n**ed with you (or the pun is intentional), you probably meant. to say **bear with me** rather than **bare with me**.. 'Bear' means 'to. tolerate', whereas 'bare' means 'n**ed'.. ***. ^(I am merely a bot.. If you wish to provide feedback or ask that my comment be deleted, simply. reply to this comment, and my developer will see it. Cheers!)

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CorruptedFrames − NTA, if your friendship hinges on you allowing them to use your Netflix account its time to cut off the toxic people

krlrk − NTA. ​. Your mom is a major AH for getting involved.

These Reddit hot takes are fiery, but do they nail the real issue? Maybe it’s less about Netflix and more about who’s got your back in the end.

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This Netflix saga shows how quickly kindness can turn into a battle over boundaries. The teen stood her ground, but was it worth the drama? Friendships shouldn’t feel like a one-way street, and her bold move sparked a bigger conversation about fairness and respect. What would you do if your friends took advantage of your generosity? Share your thoughts—have you ever had to draw a line like this, or would you have handled it differently?

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