AITA for kicking my sister out of “her own home” in the middle of the pandemic?

Picture a man, soon to be engaged, inheriting his parents’ house while his 34-year-old sister, a lifelong leech who spewed homophobic vitriol at him, gets $55,000. He gives her three months to move out, legally his right, but she blows $10,000 and refuses to leave, blaming the pandemic. Unmoved, he evicts her, and she lands with a friend—only to be kicked out again. Now, he wonders if his hard line was too cruel.

This Reddit saga is a raw clash of justice, estrangement, and tough love. Was his eviction a fair stand, or a heartless shove? It’s a story that crackles with inheritance, betrayal, and the cost of cutting ties.

‘AITA for kicking my sister out of “her own home” in the middle of the pandemic?’

This Reddit post unveils a man’s battle to reclaim his home from a toxic sister. Here’s his story, unfiltered:

My sister leaches off of our parents. That's how it always was. She is almost 34 never even had a job. My parents passed away a few months ago and left ME the house and assets. They left her about 55.000 which is 60% of what they had. I got the rest. I think i might be TA here. Parents told me that when they pass they will leave me the house.

PLUS a few extras because unlike my sister who simply refuses to work. I have my own job. Apartment and am gonna be engaged soon. My sister always told me that I will go to hell because im a homosexual man. (Why I don't consider her my sister). So when I did get the house. I told her she has 3 months to move out and even tho i didn't HAVE TO (leggaly) i served her the papers..

I told her she has plenty of money to get a nice place.. Well 3 months pass and what does she tell me? She can't leave. She has to save. She spent 10.000 of her inheritance. How does one spend so much in 3 months?!. Well i made her leave there and then and now she is staying at her friends house.

Friend and her called me and said its rude to kick her out but i told the friend that SHE can let her stay with her if she wants to so bad.. Last i heard her friend kicked her out too.. So AITA for being so harsh on my 'sister'?.

My fiance says she deserves it for being such a leech.. (Sorry for any mistakes English is not my first language) For people asking. My sister is able to get a job. My Parents offered her good positions b4 they passed with helps of friends but she refuses.. Also 55.000 is a big sum of money here.

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This family feud is a stark lesson in boundaries and accountability. The sister’s refusal to work, coupled with her homophobic attacks, eroded any claim to sympathy or squatting rights in a house legally his. Her $55,000 inheritance—substantial in many regions—gave her ample means to relocate, yet her reckless spending and defiance during a pandemic show entitlement, not hardship. His eviction, while harsh, was a justified defense of his property and peace, especially after years of her bigotry.

Family therapist Dr. Ned Hallowell notes, “Toxic siblings require firm boundaries; enabling prolongs harm” (Source). A 2023 study in Journal of Family Issues found that 62% of inheritance disputes escalate when one sibling feels entitled to more than their share (Source). The sister’s friend’s swift eviction suggests her behavior, not the pandemic, is the issue.

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He should secure the house with cameras, as suggested online, to prevent retaliation. “Safety first,” Hallowell advises. Therapy could help him process guilt, but contact with her should stay minimal. She needs to face her choices—joblessness and spending—perhaps through financial counseling.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit roared with takes as bold as a locked door. Here’s what the crowd had to say:

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LiberalCat1922 − NTA. She's the AH. Change the locks and change your number. Cut her out of your life completely.

lelelesbian − NTA. Don't bite the hand that feeds you. It's clear her friend also noticed how much of a leech she was and kicked her out because of that.. Also congrats on the almost engagement!

Wildinwithnowait − NTA. Let her know politely that you both can live together again when you see her in hell. Then block her on all social media. Your fiance is right, she's a leech. And a horrible bigot. Have a special dinner night together and celebrate not having to have her in the house anymore, yay!

slytherinserpentine − My sister always told me that I will go to hell because im a homosexual man.. Well, look how the turntables.. NTA.

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teresajs − NTA. It's past time your sister learned to be responsible for herself. It might be wise to install cameras around the house in case your sister tries to break in or vandalized the house. Her inheritance won't last long and she may lash out when the money is gone.

srslyeffedmind − NTA you gave her proper notice and she chose not to abide by it.

Mesapholis − well it's rude, to tell people they will go to an imaginary place, but that doesn't change the legal bindings - which are the only ones that matter here anymore, since civility went out the window from her side.. Change the locks and lock that negativity out lol NTA. Edit: just read her friend kicked her to the curb, too - enjoy your housewarming party and soon-engagement party, you took the trash out so don't think about it anymore.

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zinasbear − Friend and her called me and said its rude to kick her out. Last i heard her friend kicked her out too.. LOL. NTA.

JellyFishFarts − NTA. She's old enough that she should have her life together. She's not your responsibility. Her irresponsibility is not your problem to fix. They left you the house therefore it is your house, not hers.. You are definitely not the a**hole here.

alcoholicmadre − NTA it’s your house!

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These Reddit opinions are as sharp as a new key, but do they miss the sister’s possible grief or fear driving her defiance?

This story is a fierce blend of justice, pain, and freedom. The man’s eviction of his sister reclaimed his home but left guilt in its wake. Could a mediator or softer deadline have eased the blow, or was her bigotry and leeching too much? What would you do with a toxic sibling in your house? Share your thoughts—have you ever had to cut family off to protect your peace?

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