AITAH for telling my sister that her husband set me up with a pimp?

In a quiet suburban home, a casual visit took a dark turn for 19-year-old Sarah, whose world tilted when a seemingly innocent date revealed a shocking truth. What started as a lighthearted meet-cute, orchestrated by her brother-in-law Blake, spiraled into a moral quagmire that left her reeling. The sting of betrayal lingered as Sarah uncovered a secret that not only shattered her trust but also sparked a firestorm in her family. The Reddit community buzzed with outrage and speculation, pulling readers into a tale of deception and tough choices.

This story isn’t just about a bad date—it’s a glimpse into the murky waters of family loyalty and hidden agendas. Sarah’s confrontation with her sister and Blake exposes raw emotions and raises questions about trust and accountability. With vivid stakes and a touch of dark humor, this narrative hooks you in, making you wonder: how far would you go to protect your own?

‘AITAH for telling my sister that her husband set me up with a pimp?’

I (19F) was set up to go on a date with a guy Jack, by my sisters husband Blake (32M). I was over at my sisters house with her, Blake and their children about 2 weeks ago, and Jack came over to drop something off to Blake. We met and I thought he was cute.

Blake later told me that Jack asked for my number and he gave it to him, and that since I’ve been single for a while, Jack is a good guy and I should give him a chance. Jack and I went on a first date later that week and a second one two days ago. Things were going ok.

I wasn’t crazy about him but it seemed we were compatible and I enjoyed our conversations. He told me that he works as a mechanic but he never spoke much about it and dodged most of my questions, which I thought was odd.

During our date 2 days ago, he told me he wanted to be honest and tell me the truth about him because I’m his dream girl and he can see himself with me long term, and he needs to know now if I accept him for what he is. He told me he’s a pimp. He’s the manager at a “strip club” which is actually just an illegal brothel and his job is to find girls willing to do the job, and find men that want the service.

It’s illegal in our country and pimps get probably a decade in jail if they’re caught. I was honestly shocked and told him I’m not interested in dating someone who does that for a living, and quickly left. I called Blake and asked him if he knew what Jack does for a living and he said “yeah, what about it?”.

I said “wtf do you mean what about it?? Why wouldn’t you give me a heads up about that?” And he said “you’re acting like he’s a murderer. Relax, not even he owed you that information”. I was honestly very pissed off and told him to F off.

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I told my sister what happened and she had no idea Jack was a pimp, and got angry at Blake for setting me up with him without telling us what Jack actually does. Blake also apparently lied to my sister that Jack was a mechanic and only found the truth out through me,

so they’re having quite the fight at the moment. Blake called me but I didn’t pick up, and he later sent a message saying “I hope you’re happy with the anxiety you’ve given your sister, all because you exaggerate and over react to every little thing”.

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Sarah’s story is a gut-punch, revealing how trust can unravel when someone close plays fast and loose with your safety. The clash between Sarah and Blake highlights a classic conflict: one person’s outrage versus another’s dismissal. Sarah felt blindsided, and rightfully so—Blake’s failure to disclose Jack’s illegal profession wasn’t just careless; it bordered on reckless. His nonchalant “what about it?” reeks of indifference, while Sarah’s reaction reflects a deeper instinct to protect herself and her sister.

This situation taps into a broader issue: the ethics of transparency in relationships. According to a 2021 study by the Journal of Family Psychology, trust is foundational to family dynamics, and withholding critical information can fracture bonds. Blake’s secrecy about Jack’s job suggests either complicity or gross misjudgment, both of which erode familial trust. Sarah’s sister, caught in the crossfire, faces the fallout of her husband’s choices, amplifying the stakes.

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Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, notes, “Trust is built in very small moments, which I call ‘sliding door’ moments” . Blake’s decision to withhold Jack’s true profession was a missed sliding door, one that could have protected Sarah. Instead, it pushed her into a potentially dangerous situation. The implication that Blake might have known Jack’s intentions raises red flags about his motives, echoing Reddit’s concerns about grooming or worse.

For Sarah, the solution lies in boundaries and communication. She should maintain distance from Blake until he acknowledges the gravity of his actions. Counseling, as suggested by family therapy resources like Psychology Today, could help her sister navigate the marital fallout.

Check out how the community responded:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and suspicion. From accusations of Blake’s complicity to calls for police involvement, the comments are a wild ride of empathy and outrage. Here’s the unfiltered take from the crowd:

Any_Mud5200 − Be careful. Sounds like you were being set up to be his next victim and your BIL was a willing to sell you out.

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Kampfzwerg0 − Anxiety you gave your sister? I am pretty sure if she is worried, she will have her reasons. Does Blake visit Jack often? Probably. You did the right thing.. Edit:. NTA As other mentioned, he was probably wanting to make you his next girl. Dreamgirl my ass. Always the same strategy.. Edit2: Tell your parents.

Emily_my − NTA- Blake should've protected you from such an illegal probably non-safe environment instead of pushing you into one. You did the right thing telling your sister.

MerkinDealer − Why does he know a pimp??

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shikiP − busy panicky swim aspiring escape worm grandiose office foolish sip. *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with 

Kittytigris − Dude, your BIL have no issues pimping you to his pimp friend and he has the cheek to get mad at you?? If I were your sister, I’d probably be filing for divorce cause if we had a daughter, I’d be worried he’ll be tempted to pimp her out when he needs cash and I would cite what happened to you as a perfect reason for full custody and no contact.

‘My husband tried to set my sister up with a pimp who would most likely see her as his next victim, I’m worried for my daughter/s, that’s why I’m asking for full custody and no contact your honor’. Birds of a feather tend to flock together. If he has no problem with what his friend does for a living, he probably shares the same worldview.

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DrTeethPhD − NTA. Does your country have any kind of s** trafficking taskforce? They probably already know about him, but it wouldn't hurt to make sure he's on their radar. Unless you're worried about retribution from him or your BIL

Peskypoints − Your BIL attempted to s**-traffic you. If your sister only sees it as her husband setting you up with a shady guy, or a poor judgement, spell this out for her. Die on this hill

miaulinmeow − NTA call the police on him

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Critical-Tiger3011 − Bro probably got some money off finding girls

These Redditors rallied behind Sarah, slamming Blake’s shady setup while urging her to protect herself and her sister. Some saw Jack’s “dream girl” line as a manipulative ploy, while others questioned Blake’s ties to a pimp. But do these fiery takes capture the full story, or are they just adding fuel to the drama?

Sarah’s ordeal is a stark reminder that trust, once broken, can ripple through a family like a stone in a pond. Her courage in confronting Blake and informing her sister shines a light on the power of standing up for yourself, even when it stirs conflict. The story leaves us pondering the delicate balance of loyalty and accountability in relationships. What would you do if you found yourself in Sarah’s shoes, caught between family ties and personal safety? Share your thoughts and experiences below.

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