AITA for not talking to a kid on the train?

The train hums along, city lights blurring past as a 24-year-old woman, drained from a chaotic day in electronics sales, sinks into her seat, clutching her sparkly pink backpack. All she wants is a quiet ride home. But a chatty 6-year-old, buzzing with energy, spots her and dives into conversation mode, sparking a clash when the mother unleashes a fiery rant.

Her earbuds in, she feigns sleep to dodge the chatter, but the mom’s outrage raises a question: was she wrong to tune out? This Reddit story dives into the tussle between personal space and social courtesy, perfect for a lively debate.

‘AITA for not talking to a kid on the train?’

I (24f) was on my way home from a busy day at work. I work electronic sales so this time of year is hectic - especially right now. I take my seat, set my backpack down next to me and scroll through my phone. I try to avoid listening to music or anything cause you can pretty easily miss your stop if you're not careful.

This mom and her kid who looks maybe 6 or 7 are standing and the kid is going from person to person and having the LONGEST conversations with them. Like 10-15 minutes of babbling about nothing. I don't like small children, mostly for this reason in particular. The pair are kind of moving through the train and I have about 45 minutes left to my ride.

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The kid sees me, probably sees a sparkly pink backpack and thinks I'm the gal to talk to. Before he can make it over to me I put in my ear buds and crank the volume so loud I can't hear myself breathe. I look down and lo and behold the kid is running their mouth a mile a minute and pointing to my backpack.

I close my eyes and pretend to sleep while they go on and on.  I lower my volume just enough to hear the announcement it's time to go. I grab my things, get up and make my way to the stairs. The mom stops me and grabs my backpack saying that I'm an absolute b**ch for ignoring her kid when all they wanted to do was just talk to someone.

She said I must be some sort of sicko to hate kids so much and huffed away. I've never liked kids but I don't go out of my way to be mean, I just didn't feel like having my ears talked off. Aita?

Public spaces can feel like a social tightrope, especially when a child’s chatter meets an adult’s need for quiet. The woman’s earbud escape was a silent boundary, but the mother’s outburst reveals clashing expectations. Dr. Carla Marie Manly, in a Psychology Today article, says, “Healthy boundaries are essential for emotional well-being, yet many struggle to assert them respectfully” (source).

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The woman prioritized her peace, while the mother saw her child’s talkativeness as charming, expecting others to indulge. A 2021 Journal of Social Psychology study notes 68% of people feel pressured to engage in unwanted chats (source). Dr. Manly advises a polite, “I need some quiet time,” to balance kindness and limits.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit’s takes are as bold as a rush-hour crowd! Here’s what they said:

lunasey - NTA - That mother was. She should have moved her kid along immediately when she saw you were bothered. I have a chatty kid and if I see someone is uncomfortable, I apologize and use it to teach my kid how to respect others.

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Voidg - NTA. You are not obligated to entertain her child for her. She should be teaching her child to read the room better.

DinaFelice - NTA, but you shouldn't feel like you need to hurt your eardrums or pretend to be asleep. It is perfectly acceptable to say 'Sorry, I'm busy now' and proceed to ignore strangers, regardless of their age.. The only AH is the mom

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TinyRascalSaurus - NTA. Her kid needs to learn that other people have boundaries and that it's okay for them to not want to talk to you. Raising a child with the impression that they're entitled to people's attention or that they're obligated to talk to anyone who speaks to them is not healthy.

MikkiLake - NTA... It was pretty presumptuous of that mom to think everyone wanted to listen/converse with her kid. And it's not like you told the kid to shut up or was outwardly rude. You pretended to sleep, it's nothing to be shamed for.

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polywha - NTA. You don't have to talk to anyone you don't want to even if it is a child

grandgrimes - NTA I’m kinda laughing bc I can just imagine how annoyed you must’ve been. She was just a child though. The mother should have more control over her kids 100%

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NightNurse14 - NTA. Does this mom not teach her kid to not talk to strangers? I think the mom was TA definitely. And I say this as a mom with a chatty daughter who would talk to anyone. Teaching your kid it's okay to hold full conversations with strangers isn't smart since they can't apply the same common sense as an adult about sketchy looking people or see red flags.

BazTheBaptist - NTA she should be paying attention to her kid

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[Reddit User] - NTA Moms with this attitude are just thankful that it's not their own ear getting talked off. They wouldn't even be able to tell you what their child was talking about. For one they tune out, hoping you'll watch them. Two, they're too busy watching strangers faces for reactions. Even if they don't believe that their child is perfect, they'll still expect for you to act like it

These views split on empathy versus boundaries. But do they mirror real-world reactions?

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This train tale pits personal space against social norms, leaving everyone rattled. The woman sought calm, the child connection, and the mother courtesy—yet sparks flew. What would you do if a stranger’s chatter disrupted your peace? Share your thoughts below!

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