AITA for showing up to a job interview with purple hair that I’ve had since I was 20?

In a sterile interview room, a 34-year-old woman’s purple hair sparks a clash. After a career of rocking her vibrant locks, she faces a scornful interviewer who calls her style “clownish,” rejects her, and later sends a biting email barring future applications. Her sharp retort about her 15-year career draws a haughty sneer, leaving her stunned.

Picture the scene: a bold look met with rigid judgment. This Reddit AITA post dives into self-expression and workplace norms, leaving readers to weigh in: was she wrong for her purple hair, or did the company’s unprofessionalism cross the line?

‘AITA for showing up to a job interview with purple hair that I’ve had since I was 20?’

I'm 34 years old and have had some flavor of purple hair since I was 20. The closest approximate color I can give to you is if you search 'black cherry hair' and imagine it a little more purple. At 34, I'm not exactly new to the job force. One of my biggest stipulations for a job is that I fit in as I am, and that I don't work for a company that's so uppity my hair would be an issue.

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I've never had a problem until now. I'm like 40% satisfied with my current job, and have been seeking something new. I've been on a few interviews to test the waters, and it's been pretty great so far. Until a week ago, when I ended up going to an interview at a company that's got a much different atmosphere than I expected from the phone interview and all that.

The woman doing the interview kept staring at my hair with a look of disgust. A few others did the same. It was very obvious I was not an, ahem, culture fit. No biggie, you're not always going to be, you know? So I just shrugged it off and finished the interview. A day later, they called to let me know I hadn't gotten the job. I was polite and cordial on the phone.

But the woman was very aggressive and downright bitchy to me, and said 'And for the record, just a piece of advice for you in the future? Showing up to a professional interview with clownish hair is not going to get you very far.' I said, 'I think my 15 years in the X industry with an exemplary track record says otherwise.

But thank you for letting me know that I was correct in understanding the company is not a good culture fit for me.' She snorted in that haughty-b**ch way, and said, 'Well, it obviously doesn't say that much, otherwise you wouldn't be interviewing for a job.'

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I said 'Ok' and moved on with my life -- only to get a pretty n**ty email from the company telling me that due to my inappropriate comments to the interviewer on the phone that day, they would ask me to please refrain from applying for a position with the company in the future.. I think this is just a ridiculous case of someone being super tight, but AITA for having purple hair?

Navigating workplace norms around self-expression can be a minefield, especially with visible traits like hair color. The 34-year-old, with purple hair since 20, faced overt disdain during an interview, followed by a rude rejection and a combative email. Her choice reflects a deliberate stance—seeking workplaces that embrace her as-is—yet the interviewer’s aggression highlights a clash: personal freedom versus rigid professionalism.

This reflects broader debates on workplace diversity in appearance. While some industries, like law, as one commenter noted, accept bold styles, others cling to conservative norms, often alienating talent. Dr. Derald Wing Sue, a workplace diversity expert, notes, “Bias against unconventional appearances can signal a lack of inclusivity, driving away skilled workers.” The interviewer’s hostility, rather than a neutral rejection, was unprofessional, likely reflecting personal bias over company policy.

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The woman might consider targeting industries known for flexibility, like tech or creative fields, while leaving a Glassdoor review to warn others. Companies should train interviewers on professionalism to avoid such fallout.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit’s serving up fiery takes, from calls for Glassdoor reviews to playful jabs at the interviewer’s rigidity. Here’s what users think about this purple hair predicament:

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[Reddit User] - NTA. Please write a review on Glassdoor to warn future applicants, they deserve to know what they’re getting themselves into.

[Reddit User] - NTA. She was unnecessarily aggressive. If your hair is important to you, you take the risk of others deciding not to hire you because of it, and that’s your choice. But her demeanor was unnecessarily aggressive and rude.

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WiseSyrup - NTA how unprofessional of them. 'please refrain from applying in the future' yeah like anyone wants to work at your uptight ass workplace with a b\*\*\* of a coworker. you're never TA for how you want to wear your hair.

some jobs you may be a fit for, and some not, and you seem to know this and responded cordially, but i really can't believe that interviewer had the nerve to act that way. why is she so bothered? mommy never let her express herself?

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fluffybutt86 - NTA. Also seems like a childish reaction from the interviewer.. OP: *purple hair*. Interviewer: *doesn’t like it*. OP: *still purple hair*. Interviewer: No job for you. OP: *still purple*. Interviewer: I hate purple. OP: *purples on*. Interviewer: Don’t try to work here!. OP: *purples off into the distance*. Interviewer: *surprised pickachu*

[Reddit User] - NTA, you'd never be happy in that job since you would die your hair sooner or later and they'd probably fire you for it. I think you dodged a bullet there and showing up with 'clownish' hair seems to be a good way to weed these places out.. You be you and f**k the people that can't deal with that.

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BroadElderberry - NTA.. This person was downright bitchy, and I find it *hilarious* that they say you're the one making inappropriate comments. So long as you recognize that your hair *will* cost you some opportunities in your life, and you decide you're 100% okay with that, then keep your hair as is.

tidderor - I'm an attorney, and work for a law department that is pretty strict about appearance and requires business formal/courtroom attire. One of my coworkers has purple hair and it's not a problem at all. That said, there are some law firms that I imagine might take issue with whether she has the right 'image' if she were to apply there. But their loss is our gain.

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Hopefully she wouldn't sweat it and would prefer to be at a place that was more welcoming. The interviewer was needlessly rude and her attitude reflects very poorly on the company. It's their prerogative if they want to reject an otherwise well qualified candidate because they strictly insist on conservative and traditional hairstyles, but there's no reason to be so aggressive and insulting about it.

TheLadyEve - NTA. You should go for jobs that accept your hair and this wasn't one of them. You wouldn't have been happy there anyway! She didn't need to call you, that was just an excuse to be petty.

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Grey-Goat - NTA , if the conversation went the way you say, the interviewer is TA. Can someone help me here? From a company standpoint what is the advantage to sending that type of email? If someone who you would want to send that email to applied again wouldn't you just ignore it? Why be combative?

[Reddit User] - Fake... Super duper fake.

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These opinions spark debate, but do they capture the full tension of self-expression versus professionalism?

This purple hair saga exposes the friction between individuality and workplace norms. Was she wrong to sport her vibrant locks, or was the company’s harsh reaction out of line? Would you dye your hair for a job, or stand firm on your style? Share your thoughts below!

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