AITA for not replacing an expensive leather ball my dog chewed up?

A doorbell rings, and a sunny afternoon turns into a neighborhood showdown over a chewed-up ball. Picture a quiet backyard where a dog happily munches on a pricey leather ball that sailed over a fence, sparking a clash with a fiery neighbor. The Reddit user, caught off guard, hands over a promotional ball to the kids, only to face their grandmother’s wrath, complete with a $75 replacement demand and threats of police action. It’s a classic tale of property lines and prickly personalities.

This story hits home for anyone who’s dealt with a neighbor’s overreach or a pet’s innocent mischief. The user’s frustration is palpable, matched only by the grandmother’s audacity. As accusations fly and tensions rise, Reddit dives in with opinions as varied as a dog park meetup. Who’s really at fault when a ball crosses a fence? Let’s unpack this backyard drama.

‘AITA for not replacing an expensive leather ball my dog chewed up?’

Just wanted to know if IATA here because my wife is saying maybe we offer to meet them halfway or something ' to keep the peace ', I don't think I have to give them a penny. Think she's being too friendly.

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I was sitting inside, backdoor open. My doorbell rang, 2 boys aged 9ish asking if I could check if their ball was in my yard. While playing in the alley it had gone over a fence. No problem, I go to check and find my dog chewing on a ball.. Since it took the boys a while to find the right house, she had already chewed a big hole in it.

I felt bad for them, so gave them a new ball that was meant to go to my dog. Not a fancy ball, got it free with some promotion, had a beer logo on it. They said thanks and left. About 30? minutes or so later, the bell rang. An older woman I recognised as someone who lives a few minutes away, the boys behind her.

I had never spoken to her, but I got into an argument with her husband few weeks ago (Most of the neighbourhood has, mostly about not picking up after his offleash dog) She was holding the ball I gave the boys, asked me if I gave it to them. I confirmed. She said I should have 'known better', and how awful it was for me as a parent to give a ball with 'Alcohol Glorification' on it to underage boys.

I just said ''Alright, leave it at the door if you dont want it' She said, 'You didn't expect a cheap ball to replace their custom leather ball do you? Here'.. I was handed a piece of paper. Printout of a screenshot, where you can order leather balls with a name on it. 75,- each, honestly.. I just let out a 'no' and shook my head..

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She said 'If you don't have the money on you I'll gladly walk you to the ATM'. I just said 'No' again, handing the paper back.. She claimed I owed her grandsons a new ball, since it was my dog who ruined it. - I said the only thing my dog is allowed to chew on is balls, if one ends up in my yard and I'm not there it can't be helped.

She said it was my fault for letting my dog be unsupervised. (in my dog-proof fully fenced in yard?). Because something could happen! I was a bad dog owner!. 'What if a child climbs over the fence!' She asked, I replied 'you're one to talk about bad dog ownership, also a child is not a ball, I taught my dog not to chew on children.

Goodbye.' And closed the door in her face. Might have been a bit rude, but honestly I just thought the entire thing was dumb...I closed the door, she left the printout with a rather n**ty note written on it in our letterbox later on. It said she will be contacting the police if we aren't going to be decent about it.. So Aita here?

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This backyard saga of a chewed ball and a neighbor’s outrage reveals how quickly small incidents can escalate. The Reddit user, minding their own business, faced a neighbor’s demand for a costly replacement after their dog did what dogs do. The grandmother’s insistence on a $75 custom ball and her moralizing about a promotional ball’s logo feels like a power play, while the user’s sharp comeback shows frustration with her overreach.

Neighbor disputes often stem from unclear boundaries. A 2022 study by the National Neighborhood Watch found 36% of Americans reported conflicts with neighbors over property issues (National Neighborhood Watch). Here, the ball’s journey into a fenced yard isn’t the user’s fault, but the grandmother’s aggressive stance ignores shared responsibility. Her threats of police action seem hollow—courts rarely intervene in such minor disputes.

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Psychologist Dr. Susan Heitler notes, “Effective conflict resolution requires de-escalation and mutual respect” (Psychology Today). The user’s door-slamming was reactive, but the grandmother’s confrontational approach set the tone. Both could’ve cooled off—perhaps discussing the ball’s value calmly. The user might consider returning the chewed ball to avoid false claims, while the grandmother should supervise her grandsons’ play better. Clear communication and a touch of empathy could turn this spat into a neighborly truce.

For resolution, the user could offer a small gesture, like a basic replacement ball, to keep peace without caving entirely. The grandmother should acknowledge that kids’ play carries risks. Both sides benefit from de-escalating to maintain neighborhood harmony, focusing on practical solutions over pride.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit rolled up with a mix of cheers and chuckles, tearing into this neighborly dust-up like dogs after a bone. From backing the user’s stance to mocking the grandmother’s logic, the comments are a lively fetch game of opinions. Here’s what the community had to say:

victoriadaigle − NTA. If the $75 is that important to them, maybe don’t hand it to kids who might throw or hit it into someone else’s yard 🤷🏼‍♀️

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lexmr − NTA- A ball went in your FENCED yard. Not your fault. Simple as that. She’s not gonna have a case if she goes to the police AND they’re probably just gonna laugh in her face.

yay_a_kiwi − What if a child climbs over the fence! What even is this argument, does she ring on every house with a guard dog to lecture them 'what if someone enters your yard and gets hurt' Anyway, NTA. Oh no, you weren't supervising your dog. Was she supervising her grandkids so they don't throw balls in other people's yards? By her 'what if' logic, what if there was someone in the yard and the ball had hit them?

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Also it's not like there aren't any 'alcohol gloryfying' ads anywhere these days. Unless they live in absolute vacuum (which they obv don't), the kids should have already been exposed to that, if there was any harm to be done, it's too late

[Reddit User] − NTA. No comment needed, you are so not TA it’s like why even ask.

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RoyEsnarom − NTA. Was she supervising the kids while you were supervising your dog?

[Reddit User] − NTA- if something goes into another yard it can be damaged. As long as you didn't destroy it intentionally, you arent responsible.. But I can understand your wife. Peace with the people who live nwxt to you is worth a lot.

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AmIBeingPunkd- − NTA. I hope you have a camera for your yard in case she tries to get her boys to lie and say the dog was offleash and on the streets when this happened.. Your wife just probably thinks the drama isn’t worth it but this truly isn’t your problem to handle.. Sorry your neighborhood has to deal with her

[Reddit User] − NTA - They were irresponsible with the ball and threw it on to private property. You giving them a ball was a nice thing to do. Not to mention, why are they throwing around a 75 dollar leather ball like it's nobody's businsess?

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the-happy-sisyphus − INFO: who tf buys a $75 custom leather ball??? Does it come with $65 hidden inside it or something?

OuchLOLcom − NTA but you need to give her the chewed one just in case she says you stole it. She sounds like a crazy.

These Redditors largely sided with the user, calling out the grandmother’s entitlement and shaky arguments. Some questioned the wisdom of kids playing with a $75 ball, while others urged caution against her threats. But do these hot takes capture the full picture, or are they just barking up the right tree?

This tale of a chewed ball and a neighbor’s demands shows how fast a minor mishap can spark a feud. The user stood their ground, but the grandmother’s escalation turned a simple accident into a neighborhood saga. It’s a reminder that clear boundaries—literal and figurative—keep the peace. Have you ever faced a neighbor’s unreasonable demand? What would you do when a pet and a pricey ball collide? Share your thoughts below!

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